Feeling left out...What should I do?

Question

I've been facing this prob 4 over a month now. I feel left out. I hangout with my 'gang' which consist of 8 of us. We're all Chinese. I feel left out coz I hardly share any similarities between my frens. In short, I speak ENGLISH, listen 2 ENG songs & watch ENG dramas while they are total opposite. In that gang, Im closer to 2 girls namely S & V. About 2 weeks ago I argued with S, its ok now but we aren't as close anymore. The problem I had with S made V feel awkward talking 2 me. So V is not talking to me much. Now, even the 2 frens that were so close to me ain't that close 2 me no more. The 2 person who used to make me feel connected to the group is now not even talking to me. So I am feeling very lost. Is my presence in this group of friends making a difference? Am I giving them so much to care about? What should I do? Should I confront them? What can I do to make V talk to me more and to avoid the awkwardness? What can I do to mend my frenship with S? Should I leave the 'gang'?

Answer 1

Don't let her (them) know right away, how upset you are. Maybe take a little break from them. Sometimes the harder we try, the more we push people away and time may heal the wounds and mend the friendship. In the meantime, try to get involved in activities and meet new people. When your old friends see that you have made new friends, they may realize what they are missing out on, and appreciate all of your great qualities instead of taking you for granted.

Answer 2

If I were you? I'd leave the gang, but not before smacking them all across the arm and telling them that they're crappy friends.



Dude, who wants to be friends with people like that?



Be by yourself for a few days, under a tree or something. Think about life, and push all thoughts about your friends away from your mind.



You're the only person important in your life, all the other people are just specks of sand that have no meaning to you. They aren't important, they shouldn't have any affect on your mood. They're not worth feeling left out about.

Answer 3

First, i personally think you should drag S&V to a side and talk everything out. V isn't talking to you like she used to because she's afraid that S might be mad at her. Secondly, It's reasonable and understanding because V is somewhat in between you and S. What you should do is to tell V that you and her friendship has nothing to do with S. Get her to realize that V is suppose to share her half with you and not all to S. If V is not willing to change that for you, then there's no meaning in hanging wit that group if they share no interest and your friends aren't committed to you.

Answer 4

find some english friends,



just because you are chinese doesn't mean you have to be friends with only chinese kids.



at lunch, just go and sit with people who you are kind of friends with, and make plans to hang out or something.

your chinese friends will want you back, and you will make some new friends in the process.