Question:
What can I do having a crush on my best friend?
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2009-08-18 09:13:04 UTC
Hi.. I have a problem for so long.. I'm keeping this secret for some 5 years.. I don't know what to do.. This is the whole story, I hope you'll be not so tired reading, I want to have your answers.. OK, I was in 3rd grade when I enter a new school.. I met a new classmate, I keep her name as K.. 3 days later we've been so close friends.. We've been Best friends.. We knew that we have the same village and our houses are almost near.. So, we played together everyday.. We met our new classmate named M.. We played together until he introduce us with his new friend from the other section named J.. He was also in 3rd grade.. He was kind, concern, tall, handsome and had a sense of humor..I have a secret crush with him lately when days passed and had plays with him.. One day in school his classmates tell me that he had a crush on me.. But suddenly he denied it.. Days passed I knew that he and M had a crush on K and in a lonely situation K had the same feelings too..We four are always playing because we knew that our houses are almost near in one village.. So, we played and sometimes doing our home works and some things together.. One day, We played in the playground with a huge hall which you can play basketball.. Then, we think that we can play basketball together.. So we played until J hits K with the ball.. They are fighting until K complained with her grandfather the event.. So her grandfather go to J's house and told him not to do it again.. But K didn't accept his apology so I and K transferred to a new school.. Then, when we turned to Grade 5, M transferred to our school and we accepted the given apologizes of M so we became friends again.. Days passed I heard something that M had a crush on me.. But I didn't give an attention on it.. My classmates know that I have a crush on J.. But when K spoked.. She said she has too.. So my classmates and friends took an attention to K than me.. My classmate ask me if I had a crush on J, I remembered what K said, coz' she is my bestfriend, so I kept it and said NO.. When we turned in Grade 6, they continue to get an attention to K about J.. So every word that K saying about him my heart felt broken, just like I think I'm such a pity.. But one night, when J's birthday come he invited me to come, and when K was passed by there house, we continue playing, and take some apologizes and we accepted it.. So we ask the phone numbers funnily and continue to have a good time with each other.. But suddenly after few months, I have felt so angry mixed with some broken feelings when I've chatted with him I asked him some questions and his last response felt me bad.. He speaked to me some bad words.. And I realized this is the last day I have conversation with him.. I don't know why my feelings is not yet erased.. I think my feelings on having a crush on him is being so deeply.. I didn't care.. I keep forgetting him.. But I can't.. Then, when it's the last day that I can stay with him and with my friends.. I have permission with him that I have to go and go for another country for good.. He didn't care.. So until now, my teenage life won't be completed until he didn't likes me.. So until now I'm hoping that he will likes me, even just a bit.. Yesterday we have a conversation in computer.. He asked me when will I go back, I said after 2 years.. He didn't reply.. I said to my self.. I think he missed me.. But I didn't hope for him to missed me coz' I know that it wouldn't be happen.. I realized/ I think even just a day I should've been let the days past.. Now, I am lonely thinking of him, I'm hoping that he could like me even just a day.. And now that he had his own gf, I am hoping that he likes me though..

Sorry for the long story.. Hope you understand..
I hope you could comment me your reactions, your suggestions, some helps and some tips that I can do for making myself happy even we're apart..

Hope you understand..:(
Thirteen answers:
LIKE A BOSS
2009-08-18 09:18:13 UTC
ummmm first make it a lot shorter then ask him or her out then see what happens if "it" is ur friends "it" will under stand
?
2009-08-18 16:29:01 UTC
You should probably make your question shorter and more specific facts. Why were you guys apologizing at the party? What did he say that made you feel bad?



Anyway, for now, try to get back in touch with him. Text him, call, email... just have some short conversations with him whenever you can. Be patient. Ask him what's going on back home, how his day went, etc. Tell him some stories of what you're doing and get him interested in your life. That way you can develop your friendship even while you're away, and still have him in your life. When you get back, keep being good friends with him, and don't hesitate to ask him and your other friends to hang out. Then you can choose to develop your friendship into something else. Just don't keep your feelings bottled up forever.



Good luck!
Richard
2009-08-18 16:22:11 UTC
Alright well this boy you like probably does like you back. But this might be hard to understand but he had to move on because there's a very small chance for you two to meet again if you're in a different country. I'd bet he likes you, but guys really don't like it when people just ask them like that. And he probably doesn't want to talk to you right now because he's afraid he's going to say something that will mess up the friendship between you two. Really now you just need to move on and find someone and be happy, and if you two do meet again, then that's great, if not, then life is taking you somewhere else. Remember, everything happens for a reason.
2009-08-18 16:54:26 UTC
firstly, wtf, you moved schools over a basketball match!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

anyway K is your best friend, and you have to wait until K and J's relationship is over out of respect for your friends. (if i read it wrong and its not K and J who are going out then go 4 it) then you can ask him. however, he doesnt deserve it tbh. if he cares for you, he would of been really upset that you went. you just like a guy who wont like you. i was in similiar situation with this girl who id know since my first year of secondary school, and by the 4th year of secondary school we were going out as i perservered, fought off any competition and won against the disgusting (in the situation then) "were just friends". Any friend would of said they missed you, so if you like someone and youve know them for years and they dont even say that, then they dont deserve it. however, im not being sexist, but guys are very confused around girls.

one insiginifacant comment causes a girl to like a guy. if a guy does everything perfect, its the guy who treats the girl like crp who gets her because he acts like he can get any girl, and then the girl is tricked into thinking its her only chance with the guy, which makes the girl misled into having sx with a 1track mind arrogant bstrd. in your situation, he doesnt deserve it, and even if he did, you left it too late. try and win him when you get back if you can, but you cant now. never let yourself be hurt like this again. next time, you must act while hes single.
summerstarz
2009-08-18 16:26:16 UTC
Well you liking him was a long time ago, and you were just a child that time. Just move on, because he has a girlfriend now. By the time you come back to see him, you might be in touch with each other.
John T
2009-08-18 16:23:45 UTC
It's probably because he doesn't want to hear you complain. also it could be because he matured. Which means he either only cares about your height, hottness, and what you look like in a bikini or worse, nothing. or it means he thinks a nother girl is hotter and would look better in a bikini. you should invite him to a water park, and wear a the swimsuit that reveals the most.
2009-08-18 16:21:54 UTC
Thats the same excact thing thats happening to me, I had a crush on my BFF for.. 6 years. But shes straight (i think) Im bi. O_O
?
2009-08-18 16:22:30 UTC
you should talk to him alone and tell him how you feel, i was in that same position once and it turned out he liked me to all along but it was to late, we both were to afraid to tell each other our feelings so we just moved on an went out with other people.
█☼SANdRUh☼█
2009-08-18 16:21:13 UTC
Just Tell HIm.UR StOry SO RomanTIC!♥
2009-08-18 16:15:57 UTC
I would put that back into the oven until it's done cooking.
?
2009-08-18 16:16:58 UTC
Dont do it because if it dont work ur friendship is gone u just lost your best friend
2009-08-18 16:16:58 UTC
Uhh, GO CONFESS YOUR FEELINGS!!







(sorry I didn't really read your story..)
just wondering
2009-08-18 16:19:51 UTC
holy crap...



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