my best friend changed friendship groups and i miss her!?

Question

earlier in the year my best friend changed friendship groups. We were really close, and I could tell her anything! She changed friendship groups, and i didn't really mind because i had been planning to move on to some better friends too! she is newer to this school and our circle of friends never want to move and are pretty much giant outcasts. I am friends with a lot of other people though, so i took it slow. But my friend changed groups with a bunch of people that I am barely friends with! She said that we were still best friends, and we still had deep and meaningful conversations and still hung out and stuff. (she boards at my school and she would come over on the weekends) But now she barely ever speaks to me apart from email and stuff.

Me and one of my other close friends were floating around from group to group today, and we were hanging out my friends group and her, and she basically ignored me. while and one of her friends started joking around and stuff! I dont want to be mad at her though, because im happy for her, because it is really hard to break away from my group without one of them embarrassing you or pulling you away from them! It has happened to me heaps because I am closer with them. Should I tell her how i feel? any examples of what i should write or situations that you guys have had? I'm sorry i wrote so much! i just really needed to get this out! 10 points for best answer! :) thank you :) <3

Answer 1

just keep the lines of communication open, chat via email etc. Carry on with widening your circle of friends, my best friend at school wasnt chosen as a prefect and I moved into a new bunch of friends, but kept in touch, now we email and meet a couple of times a year and she was a witness at my wedding. A new "best friend" of 20 years badly let me down during a horendous family and work crisis onto of health issues i was suffering, while a couple of others surprised me by offerring a lot of support, so sometimes its hard to tell who truely is a "best friend" until they stick by you in tough times, not just the good times. Learning to make new friends and mixing with different groups is a good life skill, being able to move groups and be friends with a wide circle will help stop you falling into the office trap of belonging to a certain group of work colleagues who tend to bu lly lesser members of the work force

Answer 2

I would talk to her about it if you still want to be best friends. My best friend and I are having a similar conflict. We were best friends about five years ago then she moved away and we lost touch, then last year she moved back to my school and I welcomed her into my group of friends with open arms. Although, at the time I was considering leaving my group of friends because I didn't like the way they were treating me and such, but they got along great and became fast friends so I decided to give them another shot. It worked for a while but then the person that was my best friend (not a very good one) before she came back to my school started to drift away from me and was (is) trying to be best friends with her. I've made her very aware of my feelings toward these friends and how I feel and she does everything she can to make sure that I know we are best friends and this other one will never be.

How ever, I do realized that your situation is a bit different. So I would talk to her about it and see about becoming better friends with her new friends, after all compromise is key. And communication never hurt anyone! Goodluck!

Answer 3

exact thing happened to me too! if she isnt giving you the time of day, then she isn't worth it. I know when you have a really close friend and you loose them, it sucks and you feel like you can put aside your differences and be friends...but is never works. just become closer with other girls, and just talk to your friend occassionally. you could also talk to her or write her a note asking what her deal is

Answer 4

Just come right out and tell her how you feel! If she is really your best friend, she will understand and maybe introduce you to the her new "group" of friends :) x