If your best friend wanted you to blow off your crush who likes you as well so she can date him, should you?

Question

My friend wants me to ignore my crush who also likes me so he will hate me and want to go out with her. I want her to be happy with a guy but I want to be happy with this guy. But I also dont want to lose her as a friend. Even though a good friend wouldnt make you do this she is a close friend of mine. I dont know what I should do..

Answer 1

if you like him i would say u her should have a serious talk if she likes him as much as you do. and she can't handle u being with him then to keep a good friend both of you should leave him alone. hopefully she won't go behind your back. but first i would let her know i want to be with him and he wants to be with me and give it a try.

Answer 2

You have it right. She is not being a true friend if she wants you to compromise on a relationship for her. You may need to talk to her about why she is specifically interested in the boy who is interested in you. I am sure there are many other fish in the sea for her. Tell her how you feel that you don't want to ruin the friendship but you really are interested in the boy. If she is insistent I don't think she is being fair to you and you should not have to give up the boy for her. She may pout for awhile but if your friendship means a lot to her she will realize what has occurred and hopefully look elsewhere for a boyfriend and try to reconcile your friendship. Growing up tests true friendships. And I hope this episode brings the two of you closer, but by no means should you have to give up a boy for her. And if it should happen the other way around that a boy likes her, hopefully you would not interfere. In fact you should tell her that. That if a boy showed interest in her you'd be happy for her and not try to get in the way. She probably feels bad that you were noticed before her. Maybe you could reassure her that she's likeable and that with time she'll have a boyfriend of her own, just not yours.



Best of luck.

Answer 3

I don't think you should reject him. I did the same thing three years ago and regret it immensely. The rejection itself causes a strain in the relationship because he begins to question your feelings for him. Guys dont understand things the way we females do. If you're really such good friends with him as you say you are, making the transition to more should be no problem. At best, you guys will stay together for a long time. At worst, you'll break up eventually. But not dating him leaves you wondering "What if?" the rest of your life.

Answer 4

Don't do it. Crushes do tend to be shorter than friendships, but this friendship needs to end. What she so desperatly wants you to do goes against "Friendship Code of Law" Established by me and my friend. She is forcing you to break the code (no you don't know the code, but everyone knows this part) she wants a boy to come between you. You need to talk to her calmly, face to face, and tell her no. On the other hand, you shouldn't go out with him or you would be just as bad as her. To save the friendship, keep the boy out and make some minor attitude adjustments in the girl. I hope this answered your question! -Cherriey-

Answer 5

You like him and he likes you. There isn't a chance right now that he likes her. I think that your friend is being unfair and unkind. Let her know that you would be glad to be her friend but if this is what she wants you to do it is out of the question. If she is a true friend she will understand and be happy for you. If she is not she won't be.

Answer 6

i understand where u are coming from. friends can become really jealous over guys, and other things, but mainly guys. my friend likes this guy, and we went to this game where he was at....and he and his friends kept lookin over at us, so we were telling my friend ooo he likes u...well we called him later and for a fact he liked me. so she wanted me to start datin some other guy so she cud have him. W

ok so my advice.....u shud go on a double date with ur friend...and bring one of the guy your both fighting fors friend, and have a double date. maybe she wil realize she duznt like that guy much after all.

hope everything works out, email me if u wanna be email buddys

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Answer 7

apparently she's not a friend. she's not considering your feelings and is being selfish. don't give into her because she'll expect you to do it all the time then. be strong and she'll either respect you for it or find some other weak person to walk all over.

Answer 8

Your friend has no right telling you to ignore your crush.

Answer 9

Well it's totally obvious that she is NOT a best friend! It's plain and simple Best Friends DON'T Do THIS!!!

Answer 10

WELL WHAT THINK IS THAT SHES NOT REALY YOUR FRIEND BECAUSE

A FRIEND THOSE NOT DO THAT . IF YOU REALY LIKE HIM TRY TO BE HAPPY WHITH HIM AND LET YOUR FRIEND MOVE ON YOU COULD GET MORE FRIEND . DONT LET HER TAKE YOUR MAN AWAY FROM YOU.

Answer 11

Heck no. A true friend does not do that to you. END OF STORY.

Answer 12

Sure you should! Just to make your friend mad! (by the way its happened to me!)

Answer 13

Whoever liked him first should get him and the other person should except it.

Answer 14

ask the boi if he likes your friend.

Answer 15

Hell no!!!besides if ,like you said he likes you. then he might not go with her anyway.sounds like you need a new best friend.You should watch her around him!!!!

Answer 16

Hell no, date him, he likes YOU, not your friend and tell her that

Answer 17

NO SHE IS APERANTLY JEALOUS!

THAT ISNT EVEN A QUESTION.

HEARING IT MAKES ME ANGRYYYY.

LOL

SO NO AND DONT.

Answer 18

dont be stupid douche bag

Answer 19

that's not a friend !!!!....so don't worry about loosing her