Are best friends really worth it?

Question

Are best friends really worth it?

Answer 1

Yeah - those real best friends are one in a gazillion. I was just realizing that today. I have one girlfriend in the whole universe who always will be my best friend. It just seems like everybody else just comes and goes. It doesn't matter how much I invest into a relationship - things change, they go their own way. It will likely be this way for your entire life unless you meet a one in a gazillion. I only have one well - two including my hubby - that no matter how things change we'll always be best friends. We always just pick up where we left off and there's none of this sudden snootyness or being judgmental about my decisions or just suddenly acting like they just don't have interest. The thing is that alot of times people take the term best friends to mean that there are all kinds of expectations on a person that you have to do this or be that for them - but the opposite is true. A real friend doesn't have expectations on you because if they did then they would eventually get ticked off about something where you didn't do what they thought you should and then it's over. Just be nice to everybody and don't focus on it because what you're going through is totally normal. I hope you meet a one in a gazillion because you'll be best friends forever.

Answer 2

I don't think so. I would think that if you're gonna have a lot of friends, they should all be called your best friend. If you can't trust them all with the same stuff, they're not worth being around in the first place.



A true friend would never drop you to be with another friend. They would also make the friendship work and they wouldn't spend so much time picking a fight with you.



I understand where you're coming from. I'm not mean or even bad, but people still find a need to hate on me for one reason or another. It gets to the point where you just begin to ask yourself if all this drama is really worth the stress. To be honest, I don't think it's worth a little of it. Best friends should always be there for each other and should never fight. If they do, they should at least talk about it and forgive each other. I don't think a lot of people know how to be a real friend, let alone a best friend.



Don't get too close to people, otherwise you'll just get hurt. It's nice to hang out and trust your friends, but in the end, they will probably just turn around and tell others your secrets, which will prove that they were never really your friends from the start and now everyone knows what you're hiding!



Stick to having maybe 2 or 3 good friends, call them your best friends and make sure you don't have too many stupid fights. If they are trustworthy people, they will keep all your secrets, even when you aren't friends anymore.

Answer 3

Back in high school, many, many moons ago, I had a best friend I would have done ANYthing for. Then after high school he became a pothead and started dragging me down. He's gone. I have since found 2 really good friends that I would do a lot for and a best friend. And to be honest, I don't know what I would do without at least one.



I think people that are cold hearted and have an impenetrable emotional shield up are the ones that don't have any close friends or family. So, if you want to possibly turn out like that then cool. Go for it. But your going to get angry at anyone if you have known them long enough. No one is perfect. Do you turn your back on family? It's basically the same thing. No, it IS the same thing. Just make sure you pick the right person.

Answer 4

I don't really have best friends now that I'm older. I just spend all of my time with my boyfriend, we've been living together for 1 1/2 years. I actually stopped having best friends years ago. Once I was about a junior in college everyone started graduating, moving, etc and we all just drifted apart. I also avoid all drama no matter what so that keeps me away from a lot of people. I do have a "best friend" so I say but he lives thousands of miles away. I also have old friends, but we don't talk but ever few months. I think it's perfectly okay. I have a strong base of family and my bf that I can count on for everything that I need. If I were to be single and not near family I would probably work at making best friends, but I don't find it necessary for me. It's really hard to find truly genuine people who I would consider becoming best friends with. I have had many disappointments too. My boyfriend is my best friend.

Answer 5

"Of course. They will be there for you no matter what you do and always support you."



I completely disagree. Friends will not be there no matter what, and no, they will not always support you. No matter what, you are not their first priority. First comes their own self, their family, possibly other friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, personal situations, school, work, other priorities, etc.



I'm in the same boat as you are at the moment. I saw that my latest "best" friend was using me for my money, trying to feed off of me, asking for things but never paying, etc. She only cared about herself - was sometimes there for me but her biggest part was listening, which let me tell you she did not even do because she was thinking about what she was going to wear or what guy she wanted to hook up with. Everything revolved around her. And even when I was in the hospital for 1 week, she did not even come to visit me or call. And because she was jealous of me, my intellect, my new job, my success in school and work, my reputation, my manners, etc. (what can i say, i am a good person with morals who shows respect to others, and I work hard in everything I do, unlike her) and my family and financial situation, she would try to find things about me and make me feel insecure..for instance, my weight or height (i'm short and a bit on the chunky side, but not fat at all by any means..I'm an 8 and wear s/medium shirts). So why be a friend with this type of person, or anyone you realize doesn't care?



A friendship goes both ways - it's a two way street and if you realize your friend is on a one way, move on because it's not worth it. Don't invest your time and feelings in these type of selfish, self-centered people.



The only people you can trust and know will be there for you are your family. And I don't disagree that friends are a good asset - of course they are - we need them for social growth and development and let's face it, someone to have with and talk to besides the family. And you should not feel bad because you can't "keep" a friend. If they are not there forever...they shouldn't be there. If they were friends, you would know and would not let them leave. Be brave.



Hope all is well. The time will come when you'll find someone who can be your friend for real, not like those we've previously encountered.

Answer 6

My best friend is not talking to me, because I blurted out that she s been dating losers and it s bothered me for a long time. I suggested therapy because I thought she would benefit from objective advice.

We ve been friends for 3 years. She was dating a real scary guy before she even got divorced. Looking back it was such a mess. He was illegal and had warrants. He was an alcoholic. Then she started with other ones, mostly illegal guys, a guy who was pretty much homeless.

In my worst nightmares, one of these guys puts her in the hospital or in the morgue. In a way it s a relief not to worry about her wellbeing all the time. Did I just end up being friends with someone with more issues than I could handle?! I don t know. I care but she interprets it as being judgemental. I think I have a good basis to suggest that she needs help or at least someone else to talk to. Am I a horrible friend?

Answer 7

To be completely honest with you, I don't believe in a best friend simply for the same reason as you, they either drop me for someone better or we end up in fights. Now I do have a lot of friends who have my back. you need friends, let's face it you can't really expect something good out of a best friend. There is always gonna be a fight. Now you might not even get a chance to read my answer buut I don't think bff's are even worth it. Friends now they're worth it :P

Answer 8

I think the answer lies within your perception of what a best friend is. If you are looking at the friend as "yours" and they can have no other close friends, thus making you two "best friends" then that may be why you are having trouble keeping a best friend. Truly, it is rare that anyone really has a best friend. There are just friends that we enjoy more than others, or friends that we have a little more in common with than others. Perhaps if you are a little less worried about the BFF thing and just concentrate on enjoying the friendship while it lasts, it will last a lot longer! Try it... see if that helps! I wish you the Best!!!!

Answer 9

If you can't keep one then you don't have one.

If they drop you for another person they aren't your best friend.

If you get into a fight then you should be able to overcome it or not get in one. Everyone fights so you are bound to have one with a best friend but in the end you should still be together and get over it and the past is the past.

If you lose touch with them then you should be able to get back in touch and stay in touch.

You just haven't found one yet. They will come along soon so don't worry about it now.



Hope this helped.



Btw, when you get one then you will deffinently know it. They will be there through everything and stick up for you. They might even be the total opposite of you or be just like you.

Answer 10

Of course they are! A best friend is someone who is always there for you! Maybe you just haven't found the right friend yet! Throughout lower school I never had one best friend because it would cause arguements calling one person your best friend and not the other, so maybe you will find a best friend sooner or later.

My best friend and I are happy and sharing secrets one minute then we are telling each other where to go the next! We are so comfortable in our friendship and know that we will always be there for each other all the time. When you go to different schools etc you will soon find out who your true best friend is!

Answer 11

Yes I think best friends are great as long as its 50/50 just as any relationship otherwise it will not work out and you'll end up getting hurt. And you always have to remember to be a true friend in order to have a true friend and really treat them how you would want to be treated. Listen..don't just talk. Give good advice..keep their best interest in mind. Give them a shoulder to cry on if they need it....be a friend...a best friend even..but don't spend too much time with someone or you will get sick of them and start to argue and fight(just like in any relationship of course) And don't feel like every time you go to the mall you have to have the same person with you at all times..or any person at all for that matter. Try and be accepting and befriend everyone...you can never have too many friends although we all have those we consider our "besties".

Answer 12

Yes best friends are important. A friend that will be there for you.



I'm sure your not a bad person, I think sometimes you have arguments with your friends and that pushes them away. Arguments are probably the only way you'll lose a friend.



For myself I totally gave up arguing, I don't anymore if there's a disagreement I'll talk about it with a reasonable without seeming threatening.



When you argue you only want to make the other person want to prove that they are right but if you don't sound threatening the other person will be open to reason.



"The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it."

-Dale Carnegie



Do this and you won't have this problem anymore.



-Phil

:-)

Answer 13

For Sure!

I am blessed to have had my BF for 20 years. She has been by my side or at the end of a phone line through all of the tough times in my life. I could tell her anything and she would show unconditional support, I offer her the same.



We have a wonderful relationship and it is worth everything to me.



If you feel truly connected to your best friend and you have a disagreement, take the time to hear their side of the story. If you have lost a number of BF perhaps you might be able to see a pattern emerging.

From my experience having a BF is worth it. There will always be times of give and times of take.

Answer 14

Perfect question and i have the perfect answer! i am really,really surprised. that there is someone else out there that actually wonders the same thing as i do! the big problem is that these so called best friends. are actually not on the same level as we are,don't appreciate a kind of person that we are! and sure of enough don't even really take the time or care to get to really know us as what we are! so don't even worry the true friend will come along soon! don't look for her! she will find you! and no they can't keep you!

Answer 15

I think they are till some point I totally understand where your coming from because I've gone through the same and I'm just like you ....... it sucks cause you wanna just be like the rest with a good friendship period but I guess that does not happen to everyone so my best bet is to do what I did have them for as long as they last but be strong and if faith and life treats you the right way you will find or have your better half the that you could your best friend and more. Good Luck

Answer 16

You need to be really careful with your friends. Especially your best friend because that's who your going to tell a lot of personal things that you don't want most other people to know. Im guessing your probably between 7-12th grade right? Im 19 years old and I do have friends, but no best friend. They have all either stabbed me in the back, or they were fake. I just stopped talking to my best friend that I've known since I was like 5. I thought I knew her, but it turns out that I didnt. And this was after about 14 years of being best friends. So be careful who you tell stuff to because you never know what can happen. And when you guys stop talking they will start telling all of your stuff to their other friends, if they haven't already!

Answer 17

I have found over the years I have had MANY best friends. Depending on the road of life I took I always found someone at my side. Once I come to the end of that road I still have a friend & great memories but am on my way to making new friends & memories. Do I have best friends at the age of 36.... NO but I have the best memories from many good friends. I think you need to find friends not just 1 person, I found my best friend when I married him. Good Luck! Find people that have the same interests you have, they might change but so will your friends but you will always have memories... make them good ones.

Answer 18

I was always in your situation. Every time I went in a groupthere wud always b one grl who'd hate me. But now I'm with my old friend because they realized those grls were mean. So yea i'd say its worth it. But the best thng is to hav a guy best friend. He'd b there 4 u no matter wht. So yea id sacrifice my life 4 a best friend. Cuz if there always there 4 u and ur always there 4 them ud feel like theyre a prt of u and like family. YES THEYRE WORTH IT it may not seem like it now but l8r on ppl WILL appreciate you for who u r... SO keep on trying never give up... hope this helpd its actually lng 4 a short kestion lol...

Answer 19

Best friends are worth it if you find that one special person.I have a friend that I've have known since we were 11.It's been a 21 year friendship now and I can always talk to her and she won't judge me.I really don't get to see her because she's a 3 1/2 hour drive away but we talk on the phone and correspond on the computer.The fact is though,woman are caddy and judgemental so the quality isn't always there.If you can count on one hand TRUE friends,then you are ahead of the game.God bless.

Answer 20

Friend, Best Friend make sure these words are not interchangeable for stranger you hardly know. Friendship take years and a best friends takes longer than that. I hope you are not using the word FRIEND, for people you have only known for a short time. Real best friends, see you through good time and bad have seen you at your worst and knows about you best and worst secrets but is still YOUR FRIEND. This relationship many times is worth everything, sometimes even more than In LOVE because we fall in and out of LOVE but real friends last a lifetime. So when you have a real friend you are never dropped for another friend and certainly you have disagreements but you get over that with a real friend and move on, and the FRIENDSHIP last through it all, not matter! So make sure you are a friend to have a real friend you have to know what it takes to be one.

Answer 21

Just don't let them take advantage of you!!! That's what I used to do then I learned. I got so happy with the rest of my life such as family that I acted like "Whatever" about my friends friendship, you know when they were being bitches. That made them think "Huh she don't really care? She's not letting us call the shots no more?" And I noticed that even when I didn't care if they stopped being my friend cuz I'm sick of the bullcrap, they stuck around and even got closer---(Wierd huh)! I was always a person that they knew they can push around and they did it for so many years that they were so shocked. I think they value my friendship even more now cuz I stick up for myself. Friends may come and go but I figure if they leave the friendship they weren't that good of a friend anyway! Stay true to who you are and not who they want you to be! Hope that helped! Take care!

Answer 22

They are definitely worth it. They will stick with you through the good and the bad and wont force you to do what you dont want to....its just about finding the right one for you.

it isn't that theres something wrong with you, i just think that you have not found the right best friend yet. I had the same problem, i went through at least 1 best friend every year. Once i started college, 2 years ago, i found my best friend in someone that i had not expected. Give it some time and you will find the rihgt best friend for you, get to know people and who knows you might find them where you least expect it.



Good Luck!

Answer 23

yes! i had the same problem as you. i had best friends every year and every year, i got into a big fight with them or they just decided i wasnt good enough for them and i would be left alone for the last month or so of school. i was so depressed. but in 8th grade, i made friends with the kids at my lunch table and now we are still best friends as freshmen in high school :] this is the longest best friend relationship ive had since private school(2nd grade to 5th grade is when i was there)!!!!! i love my friends and they are the people who try their best to drop fights as soon as possible which is great and i love them so much! so just deal, and keep on trying to find those people and you'll find the perfect ones :] (p.s. im not a mean person either: im weird, wacky, funny, shy, and a nervous wreck lol)

Answer 24

Well best friends are really worth it, base on what youve said i think your okey to be with. I think your doing some things that your friend dont want, i mean, maybe your doing some things that you dont even notice that your hurting or stepping your friend thats why they are dropping you off.

Or you should pick you friend, pick someone that you both have the same thing or same attitude so you would have less problems. Know your self first and see whats in with you why is that happening, maybe there is something that you just dont even know.

Know your self first very well and we'll see whats going to happen next.



You see, im kinda having the same thing..

Answer 25

Best friends are worth it. I have a friend who I met when I was 15. We are still the best of friends today. We went through some tough stuff and endured through the fights but it has been worth every bit of it. I will be 50 next year and it's awesome having someone in your life who you can count on to understand how you are feeling and has known you most of your life. I am not lesbian, but if I were, I would marry her. She knows that I love her and she loves me too. Through anything, she would be there for me and has been. It's funny, when I met my fiance I called her right away and told her I finally found a man who was like a male version of her. We laughed. I am getting married in two weeks. She lives on the East coast and I live in the Midwest, but she will be there for me on my big day. Best friends are like that.

Don't give up, just make sure your bff is as committed to your friendship as you are.

Answer 26

I used to have the same problem. From the time i switched schools in 5th grade to my 8th grade year I could never keep a "best friend" for more then a year. we usualy just drifted over the summer and each school year i would have to start all over impressing people and getting them to be my friend. But finally in 8th grade I found a group of ppl who completly accepted me and two years latter were still the greatest group of friends. A few years ago I wouldnt know if best friends were worth it but now I cant stand to go more then a few days with out atleast talking with my friends. and there always there for you no matter what. so keep trying and you will find the ppl your ment to be friends w/ and good luck.

Answer 27

It is an issue with yourself if you feel you provoked an arguement rather than try to resolve it together. If you feel that they did not try to explain why they left you then it may be just a lack of communication and understanding on both ends of the stick. Best friends are worth it.

Answer 28

Not having a best friend is totally fine.



Having a best friend is totally fine.



Lately, I have been feeling that one of my best friends in particular isn't worth it, but that's a whole other can of worms far outside the scope of this question.



You're doing just fine; especially since you're probably relatively young. It is difficult to make friends let alone become "best friends" and just like romantic relationships, friendships take work and time to develop and sometimes do not work out.



Don't sweat this one too much :-)

Answer 29

honestly actual best friends are worth every bit of work it takes to get them. you have probably never had a best friend if they could drop you that easily for someone else. and as for the so called best Friends that you lost over a big fight they weren't either. one fight could never separate best friends. for years i didn't have a best friend and felt weird because of it but i have now found two best friends that i love more then myself. best friends isn't something you can decide it just happens one day you ll be sitting there and notice that they are a part of you forever and always. that is when they become a true best friend. give it time you ll find the right one and chances are you ll never expect that person will be the one to push the limits of friendship and become your best friend. hope this was helpful.

Answer 30

You know, just recently, I was asking myself the very same question. I had lost two of my closest friends over stupid arguments and I truly regret giving up so easily. True friends don't end their relationships so abruptly. I still have close friends from when I was 7 but it isn't how it used to be. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, best friends are worth it. When they're there for you and you need them...if they're good friends, then they're by your side. Good friends are worth every fight and I truly do believe that we need friends to get through this life.

Answer 31

Best friends are worth having. But it does take some effort from both people to develop best friend relationships. Some people are unfortunately not prepared to commit them self to that extent. People that are prepared to commit to a best friend relationship will always be there for you.



Interestingly enough some best friends come in and out of our lives but still remain our best friends. Why is this? I think it is we have a history with them. May be that has been forged through tough times and as a result we will not risk losing their support or the sense of mutuality their relationship brings to us.

Answer 32

Most Definetly..... best friends are amazing, because they will support you no matter what, and if your friend doesnt do all they can to remain best friends, they arent a best friend. Its good to have a lot of friends. Having a best friend helps you a lot, if you're going through a hard time, they'll help you get through it. If you tell them your opinion and they disagree, it can help you remember that everyone has an opinion and that other peoples opinions count too. If your in a fight with someone else and you turn to your best friend, but disagree with you, they can help you look the other way.

Answer 33

The only people you should keep as best friends are your family if possible. Other than that, it is rare you will find a TRUE, BEST friend. There are some out there, but extremely difficult to come by. It is best to not tell too much of yourself to others. Ive been in your place and it sucks, but most people arent very reliable.

Answer 34

Since you get the same results with all these different people, the problem must be with you. You obviously have some issues that you're not aware of that keep either driving away people or attracting only jerks. Maybe you could ask one of your current non-best friends to be brutally honest with you. If they're really honest, promote them to New Best Friend.

Answer 35

Ive been in your spot before but I know that it is worth it yes, because you real best friends should always be there for you. Honestly, I have never found any pair of friends that never had a fight. So dont be too hard on yourseld . Keep trying . I believe one day you will find one that will be there for you for quite a long time . Believe in yourself.

I know you can do it!!



From The Advist Columnist,

Paige

Answer 36

Sometimes i get in fights with my best friend, and if they arent willing to drop it, you should ask yourself if they are worth it to just look over their flaws. My sister has the same problem as you. I think that you need to have a group of friends who share a similar interest as you and most likely, one of them can be your best friend. If you don't have a group of friends, you can probably just eat with someone you like from one of your classes at lunch or something (assuming that you are still in school).



Best friends are always great to have, but it's not a totally bad thing to just have a lot of close friends. It really depends on your personality. Maybe you can't keep best friends because you just need a large group of close friends.

Answer 37

Best friends are totally worth it, I have 3 actually and smetimes we have disagreements but true friends can work through anything, so if your friends left you in the past look at it as their lost. Because good freinds are hard to find and it seems lke they lost one! Cheer Up!

Answer 38

obviously you have not found a true friend. I can tell you from experience that it is not easy to get a "best friend" so many people claim to be real and turns out they aren't. You will find one and then you will know the answer to your qusestion.



The answer is yes they are worth it if they are truely your friend nothing will ever come between that.



If you go through your life and have found just one true friend then you have accomplished something that most have not

Answer 39

I think a true friend is a best friend. There shouldn't be a hierarchy of friends to begin with. If you get into a fight with them or they drop you for someone else, doesn't that tell you they weren't your best friend to begin with?



Anyways... If you want to have a best friend.. Make as many as you can until you eventually find the one person you truly love hanging out with. Make it someone with similar interests and beliefs. Someone you're comfortable with and you enjoy confiding in.



Friends come in all shapes and forms... There is no such thing as a "best" friend.

Answer 40

trust me i know what you mean , I had a best friend for 9 years we were unseparable , but we started drifting apart right after high school, now we don't even talk , then i had another bff, our friendship only lasted about a year, now it's not really easy making a new best friend and honestly I'm not sure I really want one, why? because there's always jealousy, back stabbing, and things like liking the same guy etc.. I'm fed up with the drama!! so I just talk to everyone and I'm friends with everyone,

Answer 41

I truly understand what you mean.

It's not easy to be a best friemd or find a person who is interested in being a best briend. It's just something that happens. There isn't anything wrong with you...its just a matter of hooking up with that right person with whom you have a lot in common. Its kind of a compatibility thing.

Good luck and don't give up. In the meantime, just hang out with people with whom you have common interests and when it happens, it will happen.

Answer 42

I'm sorry :[

This happens to me all the time, it makes me madd sometimes.

But they are worth it.

You need a best friend to talk to and to be there.

Just try imagining your life without one..it's hard.

Trust me,Ive been on the other side.

It suucckss.

Just remember communication is keyy

Answer 43

I have been in your shoes. I know many people say that, but I have been there. Most of my best friends have moved away, and they have gone on with their lives. So for the most part, I stick to myself.



Understand, that best friends will fight and argue, but that should not stop anything. The key is watching who that best friend is and knowing them before they become your best friend. Are they trustworthy? Will they stick close with you through thick and thin? Believe me, if they can answer yes to these questions, then oh yeah, they are worth it and more.

Answer 44

I would say yes but only when you get to know the person well enough. Meaning being in bad situations together and seeing how she would react... will she leave you or stick by your side?, if she does stay then maybe there is something there, but i don't think you should declare someone your best friend until you know them well enough. i know for my experience, i had what i though was a best friend for two years until we drifted apart.

Answer 45

u gotta watch hu u call ur best friends cos most of the people u call ur best friends will stab u in the back 1 dae. u cant trust alot of people these days.

dont get me wrong, having a best friend is great especially wen u got sumone that u can talk 2 and have fun with, but the thing is u gotta find people that u can trust and people that u think will be there for u wen u need them.

Answer 46

You sound like a much younger version of me.

Meaning...You sound young and yes best friends are important. But at that age you will go through many best friends and there will be one that is worth keeping. You, they, will change so much as time rolls on. But the one who never waivers through time is the one to keep. How to tell if she is the right one? She will be the only standing when your world falls apart!

Answer 47

I've had some recent trouble myself (check out my recently posted question). I've come to the realization that it's best to have really good friends, and only be best friends with someone you've known a really long time and can trust. People who are saying it is worth it most likely haven't had the stuff that's happened to us, happen to them. My recommendation would be to keep a couple of really good friends around, unless you known someone for a long time that you can trust. Good luck!! (=

Answer 48

Not really, there's times when we all need a friend to share our thoughts with, talk with and have fun but it doesnt always hav to be a best friend. it could jus be someone close. Sometimes having a best friend is like having a stranger when they suddenly drift away from u and mak u wonder why? Best friends? worth it? it all depends. some may be good to you, even closer than a family member but some will jus break your heart. Being close friends r enough but best friends are hard to find especially the ones who really care about u.

Answer 49

I would sure like to think so.



For the first time in my life I actually had someone call me their best friend. I am used to it being one-sided. Me thinking of the other person as my best friend but they'd never consider me as theirs and I was okay with that. But I notice said friendships never last years and years, they always fade away, like you said. Seems to be a time limit from one to two years.

Answer 50

Yes they are. Girls will be there for you, especially if your love life gets drained. They are fun to be around. They will be there when you are an emotional wreck period. But sometimes you have to keep your options at a limit. Some friends can have hidden thorns. Turn your back, and bam, there goes a stab.

So maybe you need to give it another chance.

Answer 51

Best friends will be there for you no matter what happens. IF your so-called "best friends" have been leaving you left and right, then maybe they weren't your friend to begin with.

That being said, sometimes people do just drift apart and it's better to cut your losses and make new friendships than dwell on what went wrong with friendships in the past.

Answer 52

Yes, provided you both form a genuine bond. Best friends are not just the coolest person to hang out with at the time but someone with whom you can really share everything that is going on in your life with total confidence. But they are hard to find, and you must choose wisely.

Answer 53

Best friends are people in life you have for company. Even though you might think of the bad times, why not think of the good times? Then you will know how fortunate you are not a loner. Loners have no one to comfort them, confess to, enjoy the good times with.



But if you think that you and your best friends are getting into fights all the time, try some other friends. Some people can't get along as well as some people can, and some just seem to be able to get along well immediately. You can try other friends you think its worth making and stuff.



Just try to get friends-remember they were with you in the darkest times of your life, and the brightest.

Answer 54

heres the deal. I used to have the same problem. all you need to do is get a friend just to hang out with and if you all really bond then u guyz can b best friends. never ever ever let anyone push you around. dont go looking for best friends. try to hang out with all the different types of cliques at school and c which group u fit in with the most. If you hang out with everybody then your best friend wil come to you and u wil no it instantly

Answer 55

I am 38 and until about 10 months ago i never had a best friend, i lived, i wasnt missing anything, i was not incomplete. sheesh



I have had several friends at one time, but not 1 best friend...I think its better to have alot of friends then just 1 best friend.



you dont look for a best friend it just happens, and real best friends, fight and make up 2 min later. so when the right friend comes along, youll just know it, dont have to label it.

Answer 56

Look, you should try to find someone who is compatible with you. If they drop you for another girl or you get in a huge fight that you cant fix, they're not true best friends. It justs takes time for a friendship to grow. So be more social at school and make plans with other girls. Eventually, you'll find her-your one true best friend!

Best wishes!

Answer 57

I know what you mean! I just lost my best friend of 10 years because she met a guy who completely changed who she was. I think it is worth it bc of those good times you get to have together. The end always sucks... but it leaves room for a new friend.

Answer 58

I'm not sure what to tell you. I have a "best friend" but our relationship isn't like the kind you see on tv or in movies where they'll go to great extents for each other. It's like...we share secrets and hang around each other a lot. That's the only reason why we're "best friends. Honestly....it's harder to find a best friend than keeping one.

Answer 59

Yes, true best friends exist and they are worth it. It is hard, but it is possible. They are probably friends of interests. I advice that when you meet a new person, give them the right to be trusted, but do not do it that quickly. Before you trust someone completely make sure they'd do things for you.

Answer 60

Best friends are great, but a lot of them can be temporary. They can say the you're their best friend one day, but dump you the next. There are lots of people you'll meet that are like that.



In fact, most people have only a couple friends that they've had a long time. I only have one friend like that and I've known him for 6 years.



I guess it also depends on the age group that you're in. When you're a kid, you'll have a ton of temporary friends, but maybe not one forever friend.



Depends, depends, depends, but don't worry. I'm sure you'll find someone who will be your friend forever!

Answer 61

thats really the question of the year huh! well it deffinitly depends on the best friend. In my case the answer was no. You have to really think about it. Are they worth it? Do they ALWAYS make you feel included? happy? Yourself? And are they only ur bff because you like them better then the rest of your friends or are they your bff because you trueley love them? And if not, you have a desision to make; would u rather be friends with them or not? its okay you dont have to be. One day you will find a bff who you do love. So to answer your question yes, REAL bffs are worth it

Answer 62

i would legit die without em.



i got

met one in 4th grade one in 5th the other in 6th



we have been through everythng together and know eachother inside and out. they got my back. they give advice. and when i need a place to go they're there. and they make me laugh we allways have good times and we never feel the pressure of the new friend that u dont wanna make mistakes infront of. were all eachother has. were like a family now soon to split....

im a senior and high school now and they have been in my life for half of my existence.



they are well worth it.

Answer 63

Well first how do u know if thats a bestfriend or not.they don't drop u to easily and they usually make up wit u after a argument.you have to go through some togh situations wit a person to see if they get through it wit u or they don't.a bestfriend usually will because they love and care about you.i feel that if you have to ask that question then the answer is no.

Answer 64

Look, bestfriends are really worth it..

Everyone needs friends.. Needs someone to laugh, help and cry with.

You can't live without friends.



Remember, not all people can stay in your live forever.

Some people are just meant to go.



Maybe you should take a look at your past, maybe your behaviour annoys your friend or whatever.



But in general, friends are the flowers of life...

Good luck with ur friends =)

Answer 65

Whatever, just keep playing your cards, and if a true friend come along you'll be able to keep! The ones that left wasn't real no way, because if so ,after the fight they should have come back being more friendly! Keep your head up, to many friends not good no way! As a friend, you really can't trust no how(smile)!.............Love ya, pal !!!

Answer 66

I try not to make best friends just friends. I love to have parties at my house and last year i had four, they all sucked cuz last year i had a best friend. my best friend ruined all of them by being a jerk. I found out she was jealous cuz her parents don't let her even have sleepovers. Now I hang out at the mall with more than 1 friend and have a ton of people over for parties like every weekend.

Answer 67

I totally agree with everyone else that friends are COMPLETELY worth it. You just need to find one loyal enough and compatible with your personality. The best way to start off is to be introduced to a large group of people who like you and you them. Then conflicts between people will be harder to come by. As long as you didn't start the fight or disagreement & didn't harass anyone you should be making tons of friends. Just keep trying! you can be that inharmonious! ; P

Answer 68

I think best friends are optional after about age 9. At that point, some people still want a bf, while others find them unnecessary and possibly a burden. You may be in that category, and there's nothing wrong with it. Don't worry about it.

Answer 69

yes..

i believe everyone at least needs one best friend..

but i also think that you have to get into fights to see if your friendship is strong..

if you get into a fight and then they leave... then they were never really your best friend... but after a couple of days if they come back then they are worth keeping...





and another thing you should ask your other friends..

is if they feel like you are pushing them out of your life..

because you might be the reason your losing them...

you just dont realize it.

Answer 70

Best friends are hard to come by, if they drop you for another person - then perhaps they are not your best friend? Unless you are talking about someone that returns eventually - then you just have to learn to tolerate that person and accept them as they are. Don't start blaming yourself, some of us are more committed to our friends then they are to us - I have 2 best friends and sometimes I really can't stand them, but I will always love them

Answer 71

yea they are.

and i have the same situation as u.

i hate it though.

but i feel that having a best friend is worth it

cuz they make it worthwhile when ur having fun.

being alone is really depressing and having someone to share ur time with is a relief cuz u no most of the time they understand or try their best to.

i hope i find a best friend one day and u do too

i think that the msg ive recieved/sensed is be my own best friend first before anyone else can.

Answer 72

want to be treated. Listen..don't just talk. Give good advice..keep their best interest in mind. Give them a shoulder to cry on if they need it....be a friend...a best friend even..but don't spend too much time with someone or you will get sick of them and start to argue and fight(just like in any relationship of course) And don't feel like every time you go to the mall you have to have th

Answer 73

My advise is don't take nobody to seriously. Even if they start the whole, "we are best friends" thing or if they ask you to be their bestie, just be like "i really like you as a friend to, but let's not put that much preassure on it". Or try to just ignore them, and when people as you if you guys are best friends, say we are good friends.

Answer 74

Finding a BF is something that just happens. It is so worth it though. I have had my friend since I was in the 2nd grade. Now it has been 25 years. You probably haven't found the right one yet. Good luck.

Answer 75

Id say NO! But it also depends on the person.Some people need other people to survive.It is actually a sign of weakness to say that you can not go through life without friends.But if you are the type that lives and thrives of other peoples support and affection then sure.Chase after your "friendship".

Answer 76

It seems that way because you are picking people that aren't meant to be your best friend. They don't choose each other best friends just happen. Some people are compatible with everyone, a best friend has to accept all your flaws and you have to accept theirs. Don't rush it if you were meant to have one the will come along and it will be easy. Not complicated.

Answer 77

Here's one sentence from a wise man ,which I read in one book .Never be very friendly may one day they will your enemy and never be too enemy may one day they will your friend .In my dictionary people are Friend when they gain some thing from you and it's only enough they do not gain ,immediately they will turn back on you even closest person to you ,this is apply to all human been relation.The best Friends are whom when you need them are there before you call them .

Answer 78

Worth it? as in time? yeah they keep you entertained :p

It's not a curse or anything so don't worry you will find someone

who is really worth keeping as a friend.

But nobody is perfect everyone you meet will come with their good and bad side and it's up to you as a friend to put up with them in good times and bad times.

Even my best friend can get annoying sometimes but that's okay I have my flaws too and that's prob why we are good friends because we can put up with each other on things others just can't handle about us...

Don't let anyone change who you are though.

Best Wishes to you!

:)

Answer 79

Friends will always come and go. I know exactly what you mean. I feel like I am a nice person too and I feel like I am a pretty good friend too but, they always find someone else. I do have a best friend and he is my husband. You will find one one day. Just don't worry about it.

Answer 80

honestly, don't worry! I'm the same, i never am really good at making friends and after a long time of worrying about it, I've learnt to only trust myself and not to worry about anyone else, it really isn't worth it! I'm sure you're a really nice person , but maybe nows not the right time, don't worry, you'll find someone that really cares about you...



just remember the

- person you cry for isn't worth your tears and the person who is worth your tears will never let you cry!!! ^_^



hope this helps!!!

xxx

Answer 81

maybe they're not a true best friend. It's hard to find one like that, they're rare.



Ever heard the quote "the hurt you get over makes you stronger"? that's what i think..



You choose the people who you think are your best friend, but they drop you or get in a fight and you get stronger and stronger.

Find that one person who's always gonna be there for you.



And yes, best friends are really worth it. Most of them are at least..

Answer 82

I think it's very important!



It doesn't necessarily have to be someone your age either.. it could be an aunt or an older advisor or maybe even a grandparent.



But yes it's important! There are a few people I consider my best friends and I would be so lost without them!

Answer 83

I've had the same best friend for 24 years. I don't know what I'd do without him. He's been there through everything. Best friends are hard to find, they are the person that will be there through thick and thin.

Answer 84

I have had best friends that drifted away (or purposely walked away for "cooler" friends) but others that have remained. if you are drifting away from your friends then I don't think you were very good friends to begin with so it's not really that big of a loss

Answer 85

Don't feel bad. It's better to have friends all the time, even if they keep changing than to have one best friend that you might get in fights with and stuff. I don't know how old you are, but as you get older that problem will probably lessen.

Answer 86

Yes, they are worth it!

Don't panic if they drop you for another person.



You can never really keep one?

You will when this happen:

Attitude. Change it, even if it cause you pain.

If you are not "mean" avoid getting into fights, because that's not being nice "at all".

You are not going to worry about making a friend anymore, for they will ask you to be their friends!



Blessings,

J.A.

Answer 87

of course there worth it! there ur extra sisters! well think about losing all ur best friends like boyfriends







you havent found the ryt one.. if u and ur best friend were meant to be with eachother than u guys wil meet and wont break.. not everyone finds there best friends in a young age...me and my best friend have gotten through a bad year and were still going strong.. just keep looking or they will come to u..just like a boyfriend...[:

Answer 88

Sure they are worth it. Don't get into big fights and even if you are 'dropped' for another person, ask if you can stay friends or stay in touch. Friends are worthwhile and best friends are worth the most of all.

Answer 89

wayy yeahh, i know that they can totally suck cause the fights and eveything, but seriously they are. I mean they will always be there for you and if you are feeling down because of fights or whatever just know that it is normal to have fights and they just make you closer. If you are having a fight try to see her side and work it out from there. Yeah i know it might not be your fault, but sometimes you just have to take the first step.



<3

Answer 90

You don't have to just have one, you can have a lot. Its better to have a lot of friends who truly care about you. Not everyone has a BEST friend. Who likes giving out labels anyway?

Answer 91

You sound like me!



I mean, there are plenty of things that a friendship can contribute to my life, but certain things about best friends irritate me so much, and if you talk too much about all of them, they get mad really fast.



I had one friend who was overweight and super arrogant, and another that is super-sensitive and makes me do everything at work (workmate/friend).



It isn't worth it, because a best friend isn't really vital. Just have acquaintances.

Answer 92

It is always good to have that one person that you can always count on and go to for help when you really need it, but i completely understand where you are coming from.....most of my "best-girl-friends" have become very distant from me, obsessing with their boyfriends, and only coming to me when it is convinient for them. But my best guys friends are always there for me with out the drama, lying, and what not. And heck most of the time they give better advice then any of the girls would, I don't know what I would do with out my guys!

Answer 93

Honestly? no they're not worth it. I'm getting ready to ditch my best friend of 15 years. She retired last year and did a complete 180. Gained a ton of weight, drinks all the time, her smoking has tripled and she lets her daughter use he and abuse the hell out of her....I'm sick of being the sounding board for all the complaints.

Answer 94

That only means one thing, they were never meant to be your real friends in the first place. If they were meant to be your real friend, they will not drop you for another and will stay understandable with you no matter what happens.

Answer 95

The reason for friends is so you can meet different people and learn to become more of yourself. You learn what you like from them and you learn what you don't like.



If a person dropped you for another person, they really weren't meant to be your best friend.

Answer 96

Their def worth it. You'll find a bff dont worry! Youll just click and its like your personalities will mesh. Dont give, up or push people away. And trust me their way better then boyfriends they'll be there when you have a break up. Good luck girl!



Love Haleigh<3

Answer 97

I do not know your age; however, my best friend from highschool and I grew completely apart............. just like a good man, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I had rocky friendships in school, and it was only after I was older, when I could tell who loved me for me and not for the things I had and whatnot. You'll be fine.

Answer 98

I can't say I have a "best friend" I have lots of regular friends. But, I'm also very close to my family, which I think makes up for that. Just do what works for you. Friends come and go, but your family (for better or worse) is always there.

Answer 99

I'm in the EXACT same situation as you.

I cant keep a best friend (of the opposite gender) for any longer than half a year. and I am never anything less than nice to them.



girls are just weird, I guess.

Answer 100

Maybe you just havn,t found the right one yet and when you do yes the are worth it,a good friendship can take a while to happen and friends always forgive

Answer 101

i know exactly what you are going through. i had plenty of best friends/friends in high school and all of a sudden they all hate me.... one girl told me she didnt want to be my friend without any reason and said "you know what you said/did" and uhhhh i wouldnt have asked why she was dumping me if i already knew the reason.... then i had this other friend that all we did was fight. so i was sick of it.... all in all you may be the nicest person in the world but its the other people who might just have the problem and you cant do anything about it...... im sorry..... i really am cuz i understand.....

Answer 102

well if they're a true friend they'll apologize and be there for you. you cant control what other people do, so if they treat you bad you dont need them anyways. good friends are hard to come by these days because people are becoming so selfish and rude, they only do what will benefit them. just wait for another one to come along.

Answer 103

I don't know how old you are, but it took me until I was 35 to find my best friend.......someone who would never abandon me, someone who still let me have my own friends, didn't care if I was gaining or losing weight, would make me tea when I was sick. A best friend who would take care of the laundry and cooking and housework and homework when I had to work late. A best friend who would rearrange a schedule to fit my needs...............I married him!

Answer 104

Not really. I look at life this way: They're the five people you trust and everyone else.



Lets just say, I've been burned to many times...by Best Friends

Answer 105

Of course best friends are worth it. But it sounds like you haven't found yourself a true best friend.

A best friend is someone who is going to be there for you no matter what. I guess it might be the people you're choosing as your 'best friend'.

Hope i helped.

Answer 106

They are worth it, if you can find a good one! Someone once told me that at the end of your life, if you can count on one hand how many good friends you've had in your life, then you're a luck person.

Answer 107

i know how you feel that always happened to me until i met my best friend we just clicked and we have been best friends for like 8 years. And to be honest we have gotten into many big fights too, but thats what really brings us closer together. and yes best friends are totally worth it because thay are always there for you and you know that you can trust them with anything. so dont worry it will come to you one day!

good luck! :]

Answer 108

i guess those people are not really your true friends at all.best friends are great coz they will always be there for you nomatter what and they love ya and accept you for who you are.you may get into fights and misunderstandings but if you are BFF's you will make up and hang out again.it is hard to find a true friend thats why when you find one,keep your friendship special and tru.

Answer 109

If they where your true friends they wouldnt just " Drop You" Trust me.

And you seem nice but try not to get int fights and if you start to disagree with something they say then try to ignor it and go on and just forget about it.

Best friends are always there for you

And yeah there are times when you fight but most people forgive and forget.... get on with it and try to be friends again!

Answer 110

hey try living without one and answer your own question, is hard...you feel alone and feels like a part of you is missing... "never regret what made you happy" just a quot so you dont hate your old best friend remember the good times always and tell me if they are worth it

Answer 111

having friends and having best friends can certainly be a lot of work at times

it shouldn't be constant work, if it is...there's something wrong there



i have had friends go thru bad times and sure it's a lot of work being there for them, but it's something they would do for me

and i know that it's just a bad time



BUT if i just met someone and they were all 'needy' and stuff, that would be hard for me to develop a relationship with them for sure



hope this turns around for you

Answer 112

You need a friend that is always there for you and loves you no matter what, girlfriends or boyfriends will come and go, but best friends truly care for you and will always be there to help you.

Answer 113

I think you have a wrong idea of best frineds. best friends are people you have a really, really, strong connection with, stronger than any other friendship you've ever had...it takes work...it takes putting the other person before yourself, like any relationship. but it's definitely worth it.

Answer 114

believe me, they're worth it. they will always be there for support and encouragement. if you can never keep one, then the ones you had were not really your best friends. best friends will stick together no matter what. maybe you just haven't found the right person yet. but you will, no worries.

Answer 115

Best friends are worth it. Someone who will stick by you during thick and thin. Maybe you haven't found a good one yet. I haven't found a best friend like that either but i wish us both luck.

Answer 116

Yes, my best friend and I have been best friends for 20 years...even now even though we are married, half of the time when something happens I call her first!

Answer 117

neither can i, thats why now.. i don't have bestfriends =) it gets a little tiring because i can't tell one person EVERYTHING anymore and all my other bestfriends didme wrong,



except this one girl who i did her wrong by changin bestfriends. but other then that ALL my other girlfriends either hooked up with my bf, shared a secret of mine, dogged me for someone else, never made time for me ever! and always with their bfs.



we are soooo in the same situation, so i just tell my bf everything i spose i just have trust issues wiht girls since my last bestfriends

Answer 118

What you would call my best friend is what I call my kindred spirit. He and I have known each other since we were 18 months old. To call him my best friend would be to sell him short. He is one of a small group of kindred spirits who are steadfast and true. They are the refrain to all the verses of my life song and sing in tune whenever I see them.

Answer 119

I know what you feel... i feel exactly the same... I am in a fight with my best friend right now... because she leaves me alone then goes with a different friend... its not because of jealousy though... its because we usually go together then she suddenly doesn't anymore...

You deserve much more than that... everyone does...

I'm sure you haven't met the right friend yet...

Answer 120

Your true best friend haven't come along yet. True and Best friends are rare, but I believe if you continue to get into society (church, club, etc) a true friend will come along. Good Luck

Answer 121

of course you should make best friends

best friends are the best things in the world

if you don't have a best friend sometimes you feel lonely and stuff everyone needs someone to talk to, to have around in life=)

best friends are definitely worth it

Answer 122

Hell no because best friends always end up fighting and then they end up bringing 4 of there friends to your house when your not there and steal your tv laptop couch remote control and bed because thats what my best friend did to me so no there not worth it

Answer 123

Yes. I would met someone where you go regularly go like church, school, work, etc. If you say Hello and introduce yourself and after a few times of hanging out, decide if they are a good friend.

Answer 124

Heck yeah.

Those girls are not your best friends they arent even friends.

You are not alone there are hundreds of girls who would kill to have a best friend.

So find someone who seems left out or lonley and be there for them.

You said you werent mean at all so prove it and be a friend to someone who needs one :)

Answer 125

is it the kind of best friend thats always there for you no matter what!! cause i have both and i know which ones are worth it and which ones arnt!

Answer 126

personally wat i think is that you havent had a best friend because if you did have one fites wouldnt matter...you would ALWAYS get back together. and you will know when you have a true friend. usually wen i know i have at least a true friend is wen they trust me with somthing no body or only a couple people know. or wen you feel you can just open up to that person.....best friends are worth it. they make life eaisier then what it actually seems...

Answer 127

I call mine good friends whom I cherish and



keep a relationship with, I need people in my life.





I suggest building bridges with the right types of friends.

Answer 128

Well if u want to be alone then go ahead give up!

But i think Best friends are the best in the world they will help with problems and listen to your problems but only if there your true true true friend! so yea best friends are important!

Answer 129

Oh yes,and sweaty if there leaving you then there not a "bestfriend" because a real bestfriend wouldn't walk out on you like that.So don't give up hunn :]



Best Of luck,

diana :)

Answer 130

It's ok but friend r way better then your boy Friend. If you break up with your boyfriend you go to your friend, if your friends do not want to be friend your boyfriend probably won't care he wants some action instead.If you known what i mean. Good luck. you can e-mail me if you have anymore problems.

Answer 131

Best friends are worth it you just have to find the right one the one you dont think it will be is always it!

Answer 132

yes! best frieds respect each other and make each other feel special and nothing can get in the way. It's ok ay that you don't find a best friend fast because that makes it even more special between you and your best friend.

Answer 133

Like any relationship it takes two people. IT is difficult to keep friends for life...and if you do you are blessed. You will find people will come and go in your life ...and you hearn something from each one of them. For some reason everyone in your life will teach you something...



I am 60..and I have two very best freinds. WE have been friends since we were 4 years old. It is great...but most friends aren't that old. I have two that are friends for about 20 years...and the rest come and go.



You both grow...your lives are different...you have boyfriends and husbands and children and your lives go in different paths. In school your friends are just starting out in life. They don't understand what it takes to keep friends forever. They are children...they disagree and get angry and don't realize that you can have disagreements and still remain friends. You can have different opinions and remain friends.



Most think if you argue it is over.! Sometimes you have to give more in a relationship or friendship because you are more mature and then you have to decide if you want to be the caregiver of that relationship. If it is too high maintenance you might not want it.



when you are just becoming friends you might get along..but then expectations of that friendship are unrealistic. I have a friend who I have loved dearly for two years. But I have decided that I can't handle it anymore. She is quick to judge and get angry and it is me that works at it all the time...it is me that makes things better... I helped her through two years of grieving when her husband died..and when my husband just went to have heart surgery she told me she couldn't be in my life anymore because she is reminded of Ryan and how she had to take care of him and she can't see that.



I thought that was selfish..but then I know Eva. She isn't as strong as I am..she hasn't seen life as I have seen it. She has been in a golden world..where nothing ever bad happened until Ryan died and I know she can't handle grief too well. I can forgive her...but I can't continue to give 90 percent to a friendship when she isn't there for me either.



So I will go to lunch with her and even go shopping etc..but I am not going to try to think of her as a best friend or even someone I want to be with as much as I did. I have other friends that can fill those needs and are my "sisters". She is a friend...but not someone I can depend on.



I can't take care of her and my husband at the same time right now. I also have a handicapped child...and the stress is too much to worry about having to take care of Eva right now too.



So as life goes on you will find people fill certain needs...and others are quick to judge and quick to leave...



just hang in there...life is forever and you will find some friends that you can depend on. It takes time...and you need to nourish a friendship but it takes TWO to do that.





Enjoy people as you meet them and give them the best of you. Be true to yourself and enjoy each day with everyone for what it is worth. Soon you will find you have a best friend somewhere out there...it just takes TIME to develop one. When you are older it is a little easier than when you are children.

Answer 134

the same exact thing is going on with me. and ive figured out if those people drop you than they really aren't your best friends. i think its harder to find and keep a best friend then we all think

Answer 135

well it depend there always going to be fights with your best friend even huge one but in life people need best friend well not need but every one have one i think you just still need to find your true best friend and you really found out if a best friend worth it

Answer 136

Best friends get in fights occasionally, and they may have other friends besides you, but they will never drop you completely. If they do, then they are not your true friend.

Answer 137

of course!!!!!

best friends are really important in a person's life

they will be with us when we are sad and try to bring us out of it



when you are saying you are not a mean person at all.how come you always end up in fights???i did not get you

Answer 138

you already have great friends here in YR, but you must have a close relative who likes most, his mother is his great friend, as the people outside of a chance so that they come close to you, beijinhos sorry if I wrote something is wrong I am from Brazil.

Answer 139

trust me i feel your pain, my last best freind decided one day that she hated me and devoted the rest of the year in making my life miserable....

on the otherhand my bestfriend from elementary school is like my sister, except we dont fight. i dont know who came up with the whole, best friends have to fight, thats the beauty of it...

but i guess if you find a true best friend, it will be worth it

Answer 140

You just suck at keeping friends there is probably something very wrong with you because i am sorry but best friends are worth it if they were u bestfriends they wouldnt have left u .. ur just a loser!!!!!

Answer 141

It really depends on the kind of people you are hanging out with. A good friend wouldn't do such a thing.

Answer 142

Don't despair. You just didn't find your true best friend yet. Best Friends should not be a hard work. Best fried will be your soul-mate, so to speak. Someone that believes in you.

Answer 143

Sometimes they are and sometimes they are not.



Sometimes you are better off having several really close friends instead of one "best friend." At times, relying on one friend for emotional support can be dangerous, especially if the friendship should go on the rocks.

Answer 144

To tell you the truth, best friends are really worth it. They are someone who you can trust, loyal and making the best times of your lives.

Answer 145

i dont really have one best friend i have many but me and my best friends dont always get along and dont always say nice things about eachother and we also get into fights

but most of all me and my best friends have fun together and without them life would be pretty boring for me

so i would say that best friends are like water

without it you cant live

Answer 146

mabye your friends are relli ur bffs

my bff and bffls and even friends have brought me through the toughest times rumors and all also the can find out a lot of stuff for you like if a guy likes you and stuff like that!

Answer 147

it depends i had a best from 8th grade who was a seventh grade but he wasnt a good one...he tried to convince me to smoke and he always get me in trouble...but now ive got another best friend, he is pretty cool to me but he doesnt go out much

Answer 148

Yeah? Haven't you heard the saying? A good friend will bail you out of jail. Your best friend will be sitting next to you in jail saying "Damn, that was fun."

Answer 149

No. I use to have one for like 4 yrs and all of the sudden she only called me when she needed money or favors... those are not friends the only friend is your mother and father you can always count on them !

but no one else!!!!

Answer 150

A best friend can be the best asset you can have. Friends are like gold. Treasure your friends and they will always be there for you. If I had my choice between money or friends I would choose friends.

Answer 151

yes!!

they really will care for u and supporrt u through difficult times in ur life.



lyk for eg, when u r suffering a breakup, they will help u cheer up and all!!

i think u just havent met the group of ppl who share the same personality as u do..

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Answer 152

Best friends are so worth it. I just got mine back after a long absence,and I'm never letting her go again... you would miss out on so much. hugs

Answer 153

it is hard to be in a relation ship with a best friend i tried it once and we broke up and needless to say we werent friends anymore i would say it isnt worth it yes you guys are confortable with eachother but sometimes you have to think would i want to loose my relationship with this guy if we break up?

Answer 154

Ok, I think that the concept of a "best friend" is overrated.





I find it a better to consider your friends basically equal.



That way you don;t have to worry about finding another one. :P

Answer 155

Of course! It's someone that you can look up to. But you have to be careful about who you choose. Sometimes its one of the people that like you one day and don't like you the next.

Answer 156

yes if they are truly best friends they are worth every moment of ur time. if they are what i call fair weather friends then no. fair weather friends are the ones that come over to play with your stuff then leave u the mess to clean up and leave u when their friends are over.. best friends last a lifetime. i cherish all 3 of mine.

Answer 157

true best friends are worth. u know, the kind that are there for you, who make u laugh when ur down. but that doesnt mean that u have to have a best friend.

Answer 158

it depends are they the kind of best friends who blow you off all the time and don't talk to you cause they are to involved with there boyfriend or is it the kind of best friend thats always there for you no matter what!! cause i have both and i know which ones are worth it and which ones arnt!

Answer 159

A best freind takes years and years to get, I have had my best freind since kindergarten he is part of my family.

Answer 160

omg yessss in risk of sounding cliche i love my best friends soo much and would do anything for them. i am so grateful to have found a group of girls who we all became so close with one another. its really worth it. its always easier when you have someone else with you in a crisis. work it out. you'll find them

Answer 161

hey i know how u feel i was bff with a girl in junior high and as soon as we hit high school she became miss popularity and i have done everything to try to make our frienship stonger so i guess you just need to let people make there own choices

Answer 162

i kinda had the same problem till 7th grade nd i met my bestfriend nd its just GREAT...dont worry juss be yourself nd make friends tht u can be yourself around nd u will find ur true friends...answer is yes they are most definently worth it my bestfriend one of the best things in my love shes like my sister!!=D

Answer 163

actually it depends on u..i know how it is coz my frns also behave the same way ..the moment u think u like them/understand them they close themselves up or go into a shell............they fall apart suddenly and dont wish to explain..........

but sometimes if ur TRUE FRIEND breaks up with u then the pain is unbearable.....but dont we njoy those happy moments we spend with each other.....but best frns are definitely worth anything......even if its for a few minutes its nice to feel that somebody cares for u..............and thats wat a best frn's supposed to do

Answer 164

No! .... friends are too needy and draining. be friendly towards everyone

but keep your distance. if you want to experience peace, live a life of solitude.

superficial relationshiips are the best. keep your life simple.

Answer 165

well maybe sometimes you don't choose the right people to be your best friend. you have to get to know them and be nice to them and hang out. and if they don't become your best friends its okay. its nice to have friends who are there for you. eventually you will find a best friend. maybe even one of your friends can be your best friend. just talk to them and what not. its going to be alright. eventually the people around you will become closer to you and you will be able to trust them. don't rush into finding a best friend. you will just find one.

Answer 166

sometimes yes sometimes no.... family always will be there for you more than your friends will.... but a best friend is best to talk to on more serious stuff and just to have fun with.... in everyones life they will have a best friend at least once or twice..... you just haven't met yours

Answer 167

that not really a best friend then.

when me and my best friend get in a arguement or something we'll be laughing in like the next 5 min.

Answer 168

friends come and go, but you need to find one that wont. someone you can trust, and friends fight, but usually, really great friends make up by the end of the day.

Answer 169

BFs forever!! It's ok friends take time and youve got to think of them before yourself sometimes

Answer 170

Yes, best friends are very worth it. idk where i would be without mine. Try to find people who like the same things as you, otherwise you can drift apart very quickly. If you are on a sports team, try to find someone from your team. It works the same with band, choir, even art class.

Answer 171

Good friends are price less. you need to show that you care to be a good friend.

Answer 172

yes! you just have to find the right person...u can always depend on a best friend

Answer 173

best friends r so cool 2 have!!

idk y u cant keep 1 sry!

Answer 174

Relationships, no matter who they happen to be with, family and/or friends, two people, are always like ships passing in the night. :( :)

Answer 175

if they drop you don't give them up if their real friends their worth keeping so stay friends and keep them close even when friends "move on" u can still stay good friends! my friend and i are best friends she has been in fights with me she lives in Huron and i live in Mentor but we are real friends so we forgive and get over it.

Answer 176

i don't have a best friend too. It is not a big deal not to have one, really. All you need are FRIENDS! Friends are fine, really, doesn't have to have a best friend.

Answer 177

Just have a lot of friends not a "best" friend. That title( BEST friend) seems to cause problems.

Answer 178

i'm not a mean person either and i'm pretty easy to along with too and noticed that either i feel like my friends don't like me or think i'm ugly and stupid.



So don't worry i'm here for you.

Answer 179

when you said you can never keep one, i think its because you didnt find the "best friend" you were looking for... finding good friends nowadays have become so convoluted.. but once you find one it'll b totally worth it because you can always depend on them.. especially when you need someone there for you

Answer 180

well u should relax and try not to fight

and best friends are worth it cuz theyll be there for u all the time

Answer 181

honestly, lately, i've been thinking the same thing, are bestfriends worth it? cause i mean if you fight you end up blaming yerself, if you dont you just cry, its like nonstop blame & everything, but on th upside, if its goood, you know bestfriends are really helpful.

Answer 182

maybe you just dont meet the right people!

try getting to know the person good and just spend time together!

you should be able to be yourself!

Answer 183

Its not worth the hassel. and plus best friends like to get on nerves and beg for things.

Answer 184

yes. Best friends are probably one of the reasons i'm here right now!

Answer 185

yes they are worth it when you know that their is one that you can really count on.

Answer 186

Its hard to find really good friends, just keep trying,

Answer 187

yess of course they are me and my bestfriends have been bestfriendz since kindergarden

yuhh need a bestfriend to tell everything too someone you couldd trust nd noe they wont tell anyone

Answer 188

YES!! I luv them. But if they aren't true, be careful because they might be using you or you might become to dependent and clingy!



Yeah, its hard to find the perfect one, but my BFF is OK!

Answer 189

My dog is my bestfriend... he will ALWAYS be there for me.I do have I guess a bestfriend since like 3rd grade.Its good to have one truly great friend that is there for you.

Answer 190

yaaa----the fight---wat do u fight about if ur an easy going person? there must be a reason---understanding is a way to keep ur friends--put urself in their shoes---but overall i know depending on someone is great but being too dependent is usually wat makes people selfish---so expect too much of them either

Answer 191

yes, provided they are best friends in the real sense of the words.

Answer 192

people don't believe in this kind of things but i do and actually my best friend would do anything for me and i would do anything for him/her. they have been there when i needed them the most..



so ill say yes

Answer 193

Well best friends are nice to have but they can be hard to find. just keep being yourself. don't worry i would be friends with you. good luck :)

Answer 194

I don't think they are, every best friend I have ever had has stabbed me in the back.

Answer 195

it doesnt really matter if you have a BEST friend as long as you have a couple of people to hang out with

:)

Answer 196

they are and you just need to try to find someone who you get along with





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Answer 197

definitely worht it. [:

But, if they do that, they are really ur best friends [: Im sure u will find a bff thats perfect for ur personality somedayy!

Lovee,

mee

Answer 198

yes they are totally worth it. I had mine for since kindergarten. even though were out of school for years we manage to keep in touch.

Answer 199

yes. i think its worth it because they can always be there for you.. but you don't have to be around then alll the time.. that will just drive you 2 nuts!

Answer 200

You will always have someone that let's you down. But it's always nice to have a friend.

Answer 201

Yes the people you surround yourself with say allot about you.

Answer 202

Well think of it this way.

How fun would life be with out having someone

to enjoy your best moments together with you?

Of course its worth it.

Answer 203

yes.

My best friend has been with me for 13 years and if not for her I would have commited suicide several different times. I always know I can turn to her for help with anything, I love her more than I love my fiance, just in a different way.

Answer 204

sure... but I do have to say, as you get older, you cherish all your friends as your best friends. I never say...."my best Friend", I would say..."a friend of mine" Life is way to short to have a best friend when you can have many best friends. I really don't have a particular friend that i care about the most, because i love all my friends and would do anything for them as well they would for me.

Answer 205

Most of the time they are, but you will meet a few who are worthless.

Answer 206

a true bestfriend is not something easy to come by, most people never do

Answer 207

best friends are the best thing in the world. don't doubt from bad experiences!

Answer 208

See its on you how you choose your friends to be.You know best friends are very hard to find.

Answer 209

yeah they are worth it. but i really only have 2 best friends. because all of them have betraded me ): it's hard to trust people so i keep my thoughts bundled up in my mind where i know no one can find out wat im thinking. so yeah. but make sure u can trust them b u tell them things. -annala-

Answer 210

i have a best friend they are so good they can keep more secrets then family or boyfriends or anything

Answer 211

I LOVE MY BESTFRIEND TO DEATH!



SHE IS SO FUNNY AND IS ALWAYSS THERE FOR ME!



I qUESS YOU DON'T NEED ONE.



BUT IT WOULD BE AWESOME.



I LOVE HER SO MUCH<3



2ND MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN MY LIFE RIGHT AFTER THE MOTHER=)



START MAKIN FRIENDS.LOL=]



GOOD LUCK

Answer 212

Yes they are and I think there is something wrong with you maybe that you're not noticing. (seek Messiah for more help)

Answer 213

REAL best friends are worth it

Answer 214

It depends on if your best friend is actually a "BEST FRIEND" or one of those that are best friends until a cute guy comes along, then you all are fighting over him. They aren't a best friend if they get mad that you like someone they like, if you are best friends, then you say, the hell with the guy and stay friends

Answer 215

"It's times like this when you realize who your real friends are.

You learn that being fake doesn't cut it,

holding back doesn't make it,

& sometimes being best friends isn't worth it"

Answer 216

Yes,they are worth it.You just have to find the right friend. :)

Answer 217

best freinds are worth it b/c they can turn into something more, and everyone needs somone to talk to and be there for.

Answer 218

youll eventualy find one dw n ya they r youll always need that one person to tell everything to n to always depend on

Answer 219

Well, who would you tell secrets? Have parties with? Do stuff with? Call/text when your bored?

Answer 220

They better be worth it. You know your standards, just make sure they fit them.

Answer 221

yes, best friends are really worth it. not only are they worth it, they are there even when you can't see or talk to them.

Answer 222

maybe the prob is not in u...but them! maybe they're just using u n thinking u're not their bestfriend...



my advice, if u befriend someone...try not too express urself too much! until he/she express it first...



make them trust n depends on u first...then u reply it!

Answer 223

eh its all good. one will come along, and before you know it youll feel it there.

of course i already found the best one of them all though. sorry

Answer 224

yes

Answer 225

that might be the stupidest thing i've ever heard, of course they're worth it

Answer 226

you always need a friend

Answer 227

Your best friend is your worst enemy.

Answer 228

it takes awhile to find your BEST freind

i still dont have a best freind in 7th grade

eathier they ditch me like you *lol*

or we have a fight

Answer 229

best friends are always worth it i love my friends

Answer 230

for me its 50/50

Answer 231

well it depends if that best friend is a TRUE friend if it is then its worth it..or maybe your best friend and you should talk about it and maybe make up...hoped that helped!!! :)

Answer 232

yes

Answer 233

Its hard to find someone as good as yourself

Answer 234

Drop them. Who cares? become emo! :]. like ME.



omgsh just kidding.



yeah they are.

Answer 235

uhh yes girll, best friends are everyhting! i dont know what i would do without my best friends

Answer 236

it sounds to me like you let people take advantage of you think of yorself for once

Answer 237

mabey your picking the wrong kinds of friends.

Answer 238

yes i last my best friend. she committed suiside. i know it feels bad to lose a great friend so i say they are worth it.

Answer 239

Of course.

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

Answer 240

They really are, and if you can find just one your a rich person.

Answer 241

NO. they are not worth it...........because the OLD SAYING IS......KEEP YOUR FRIENDS CLOSE......BUT KEEP YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER.......live by this rule. & you'll realize, there are a lot of evil people in the world.

Answer 242

Loki is ugly. How can you have an ugly avatar?

Answer 243

There are no such things as friends.

Answer 244

Friends are never worth their trouble. I imagine a best friend would be twice as bad. .....get a dog.

Answer 245

hmm sounds kinda weird, maybe theyre just jelous of you? lol :D

Answer 246

THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING A LONER. JUST REMEMBER YOU PICK YOUR FRIENDS NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. GOOD LUCK

Answer 247

Depends if you really care about them or not. In most of my experiences, no. But if they cared for you as much as you did for them, then I'd say yes.

Answer 248

If they're the right friends to have.

Answer 249

yea they are worth it who else are you going to go to with your deepest thoughts and secrets?

Answer 250

HELL YES!!! Best friends are the blood in your veins, they keep you going when you feel like you want to give up.

Answer 251

yes defff

Answer 252

Yep, i wouldnt give mine up for anything :)

Answer 253

shall i be your friend? even i cant keep one...



all of my friends are always angry with me...

Answer 254

sure ... best friends always worth it

Answer 255

Yes because one day you'll need them and they'll need you and you'll have their backs and they'll have yours!

Answer 256

you can be friends with anybody just like they do.

you can even be friend with me.

Answer 257

you know what,

in a way they are,

in a way they really arent.



but i have one, but i see we're slowly drifting apart.

dont get too close until you feel its right.

Answer 258

You don't know what you got till it's gone...

Answer 259

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p.s. im not a stalker!!!!

Answer 260

ya

Answer 261

True best friends are.

Answer 262

depends how much they mean to you

Answer 263

yes! you can't go through life without friends at your side.

Answer 264

uhmm yes lol theyll be ther when everyone else walks out :)

Answer 265

the you think is you're bestfriend, doesn't think the same way to you... coz if he or she do, he/she would never do that.

Answer 266

oh you have a problem i dont kno what to tell ya

Answer 267

in my opinion no .cause sometimes they turn they back on you**

Answer 268

hell no, u dont NEED then but they are nice to have around

Answer 269

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Answer 270

yes. like they're always there and they're the ones u'll always remember.

Answer 271

it is not u it this your friend

Answer 272

yes,

Answer 273

YES

Answer 274

.,they worth it of course..

Answer 275

It is not worth it. Nobody can be a best friend in this world. We are all selfish and conceited.

Answer 276

Best friends are necessary.

Answer 277

Of course. They will be there for you no matter what you do and always support you.



Best friends are better than boyfriends.



:)

xxx

Answer 278

yes, i thing so

Answer 279

ofcourseeeeeeeeee

Answer 280

of course.. it must..

Answer 281

I'll say.

Answer 282

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Answer 283

sometimes.

Answer 284

yes...

Answer 285

try harder

Answer 286

no.

Answer 287

kinda!!!!!!

Answer 288

YES!!!!!!!

Answer 289

Duh you should always have friends