I'm being excluded purposely, is that bullying?

Question

For the past about four or five months I have been getting excluded from pretty much everything, in school. All the girls don't want to be friends with me anymore, because of something that happened 5 months ago. I got mad at a few of my friends because of something that bothered me. I could have handled it in a better way, but i don't regret getting mad for something that annoyed me and hurt my feelings. They would constantly tool on my life and call me mean names and stuff, as a joke though. It just got annoying after awhile. So after, I got mad at them.. I told them I needed time to think about things, and they got all mad at me I guess because I didn't forgive them right away. Then at a guidance councelr meeting, all the girls were ganging up on me saying how I was wrong.. blah blah.. I don't want to be friends with you.

I've pretty much gone crazy over the past few months.
I hear myself being talked about, saying how I'm alone and everything.
and today I almost cried in school. I'm just sick of being ignored, excluded etc.
I'm a really nice person, and I almost feel as if it is bullying.

One of the people that I got mad at, was pretty much talking about me to my face today.
At the lunch table she was like.. "yeah, you know what i hate. when people get mad at stupid things, and overreact. and they think there gonna get more friends, but then it just backfires and they end up having absolutely no one anymore. that just annoys me."

^^I was right across the table when she said that, but I paid no attention to her.. and gave no eye contact to make it look as if I didn't care and wasn't listening.

Most of the girls in my class ignore me, don't include me in anything.
I feel like a terrible person.
sometimes i've gone crazy thinking that i'm a mean person.
I know I'm not, people have just gotten me to think that.

I would really like some good answers.
I might transfer next year if I can.

What should I do ?
& is exclusion really a form of bullying ?

Also, some girls give me dirty looks
and I just feel so depressed at school now.

Answer 1

People have every right to choose their friends, so no, excluding you is NOT bullying. There's no way that every person in your school is part of the same clique, so you need to find and befriend these OTHER girls. And this time, don't make the mistake you made before. You seem to have an anger management issue, and if you don't get it controlled, you'll probably wind up losing your future friends too.

Answer 2

Well you've done all you can. You apologized (for something you really shouldn't have to apologize for) and they still won't let up. And yes, exclusion is a type of bullying in the "social" category. This means that they might not insult you or say things to your face, but they do their best to make everyone dislike you by spreading rumors. First, talk to your mom or dad. They should know about your situation and know how you are feeling. Next, you should try talking to a trusted teacher or guidance councilor on your own so that you can say what you need to without them interrupting you and trying to prove you wrong. Then if the girls are still being like this, talk to your parents again and tell them that the girls are still bullying you and ask about transferring schools. One you transfer, you can start fresh with new friends that don't treat you like this. Good luck.

Answer 3

Dunno, it depends. You could be right or in the wrong. What did you get mad at?

Anyway, the thing is you should never let them see you angry so often. I mean, really? Talking about how someone is so 'alone'? That's 5th grader stuff and really immature. If I saw somebody alone I would either talk to them or not give a sh!t, but I wouldn't TALK about it. And the girl at the table talking about you was a coward because if she has a problem she should say it to you and not be a stuck up cow playing mind games.

I'm not sure. You may have overreacted. I think you should sit down with each of your friends individually, so they don't have the bias of other people's reactions. Talk to them about it. Tell your feelings without raging and let them tell what they think. Even if you don;t compromise and apologies are not exchanged, you'll feel a lot better. If your situation doesn't get better after that then ditch this school and go to a new one if you can.

Answer 4

Yeah,that's bullying.

They think and treat you like their lap dog. The clown of the group. An extra. This is common to girls with a large group of buddies, as they prefer, but in reality, there's like an organized and level within the group. Honestly, you don't need them. Maybe they've just made a reason to exclude you from the group based on what you've done, like talking back when they think you have no single authority to do so. And they're justifying their bullying from the action you took when you were only defending your self. Hope you can overcome this. Find some good friends. Ones that don't criticize every little thing you do and accept you whole-heartedly for who you are.

Answer 5

You sound like a good person. That people is bullying you. Don't worry if they got so mad for something that is not so important like to get mad so badly. If you wanna transfer then do it cause there is nothing good for you in there. Plus that thing hapened 5 month ago! I think that not being able to forgive someone for something that isn't THAT serious is pretty pathetic. If you maybe want to talk then email me to "[e-mail]" im Daniel and im 16.

Answer 6

honestly, you should try harder to let them know that you honestly care this much about it. it happens to me a lot, but i have a few close buds that i know i can talk to and they usually have really good advice, and even though it may seem that all the popular girls are just mean snobs, there is always at least one that will lend you a shoulder to cry on or just listen to you. i guarantee that if you explain everything to that girl, she will give you really good advice! i hope i helped and im sorry for your distress!

Answer 7

i would say to make new friends because what they are doing is childish and stupid. they shouldnt gang up on one person like that just because a few of them have a problem with you. just find some new people to hang out with.



and idk if thats bullying but you can just tell a teacher they will do something about it i would think

Answer 8

My sister had friends like that. She moved on with her life, got some real friends, and those whores are now fat losers with retarded husbands and ugly kids.

Answer 9

I don't know if it's bullying but it sure isn't very nice. Why on earth would you even want to be friends with such mean, spiteful girls? It doesn't sound like they would be very good friends at all, how could you ever trust them? Trust me, it's only a matter of time before they do to another girl what they have done to you. Then as soon as picking on that girl gets boring they'll find as reason to be horibble to another girl, and so on and so on.



But, if you really want to be friends with any of these girls it would be really easy to get them all mad at each other, or get half of them mad at the other half, whatever. Girls like them are mean and stupid and crave drama and gossip and that makes them very easy to manipulate. If you were once friends with them then you know at least some of their weaknesses. Is one of them sensitive about her looks or weight or hair? Is one embarassed about having a skanky Mom or a Dad in jail? Each one of them has something she's sensitive or embarassed about, pick which one is dumbest or most volatile and make her think a couple of girls in the group (whichever ones she likes or hangs out with the least) are making fun of whatever she's sensitive or embarassed about behind her back. Don't do it directly, if you just tell her something like that she'll probably figure you're just messing with her and then they'll all REALLY be hating on you. You have to be sly about it, let her hear OTHER people talking about how her so-called friends are saying horrible mean things about her behind her back and when you hear her asking other people about it or (better yet) crying about it that's when you pipe up and let her know you heard the same thing. Act like you don't really care and if she asks you about it directly tell her you don't want to get involved because you don't want everyone mad at you again but you thought what they said about her was awfully mean and you feel bad that they were so mean to her and hurt her feelings.



As to how to get people talking about your fake rumor, there are several ways to do this. 1. Let people (girls who can never keep their mouths shut) overhear you "talking" on your phone to someone (no one) about how these girls at your school are saying really nasty mean things about another girl who is supposed to be their friend. Tell your phone "friend" a couple of the things the mean girls are saying, make them as hurtful and nasty as possible. Be sure to say how sorry you are for the girl being talked about before you "hang up." 2. Write a note about or if you can draw, draw a horrible, nasty picture of whatever girl you're decided will be the "victim," preferably using the pen & paper belonging to one of the girls you've chosed to be the "mean" girls. DISGUISE YOUR HANDWRITING!!! You may even want to do this part at home, just steal the pen & paper at school. Teenage girls are easily distracted and not very observant, you should at least be able to steal the pen while walking by her desk or something. Make sure the note (that says all the horrible things about your victim) is found by the victim, preferably on the desk of one of your "mean" girls, or by one of their lockers, sticking out of one of their backpacks, something like that. Make sure the names of at least 2 of your mean girls are on the note or picture IN THEIR HANDWRITING or what looks like their handwriting anyway. Act totally clueless, bored & uninterested if anyone should tell you about this drama. Do not try to look innocent, that only makes you look guilty as helll.



Divide & conquer. Teach those mangy little twits a lesson!

Answer 10

Well , they are not supposed to be your friend , so you are not supposed to talk about them as well , make new friends , or if it is not even possible in your school , you should trasfer for a better school

Answer 11

if they decided to exclude you i think its a way of telling that they don't like your presence. its normal to get mad so don't feel sorry for yourself its their lost.they are not the only people.you can have new friends .people like them are nuisance.

Answer 12

Have you tried saying sorry.