Should i resolve this problem with my friend?

Question

I KNOW THAT ITS LONG BUT PLEASE READ =) I'M REALLY WANT YOUR OPINION OF THIS, ITS BEEN GOING ON FOR LIKE A YEAR NOW AND IM SICK OF IT!

My close friend just arrived at school, and was putting her stuff away. I was really bored so i started to peel a sticker from her locker. When she saw me, she told me to stop, but i thought she was joking. Then all the sudden she was like "ive had enough" closed her locker without putting anything away and sits down. later she says to me "why aren't you letting me put my stuff away" and i replyed by saying "i never said you couldn't your just chosing not to." i got so mad when her heard her say that. she was blaming me for her own stupid actions. so for the rest of the day we didn't speak to each other. we haven't been speaking for a week now.

something like this always happens, i do something and she completely blows it out of proportion. and we end up not speaking. she NEVER makes an attempt to resolve the problem. its like shes always waiting for me to do something about it. and say sorry to her. which is what i always do. but i want to put a stop to it

what should i do this time? should i resolve the problem once again, or wait for her to do something about it

i want to confront her about it, however, i've tried confronting her before and she COMPLETELY denies it, she always makes it seem like it was never her fault, or its something thats all in my head. that i just magically made up.

what should i do! help me =(

Answer 1

She's not a good friend, you should not confront her anymore and just leave her alone. If she does approach you, then talk about it.





...this is the reason why I prefer to have acquaintances.... =)

Answer 2

That is an unfortunate situation, but easy to solve. You sound like a mature young lady and unfortunately your friend not so much. In my opinion, she is not sharing the responsibility of being a friend and communicating with you. Because you have gone through this similar situation many times, I praise you for having the courage to stand up for yourself.



What you need to do is the following:

Very maturely with no voice raising or facial expressions you need to get your point across. You walk up to her and be direct, but not rude. I would say: Mary (or whatever) we have been friends for X amount of time and I thought you took our friendship seriously. FYI:IF SHE TRIES TO INTERRUPT YOU DO NOT LET HER. I am not going to be a victim to your immaturity anymore. When you can approach me with an apology then I will be ready to listen. Until then it is in my best interest to not be friends with you.



Then just nicely walk away and she will get the point. After that, if she is your friend she will want to talk to you about the problems.



Good luck and hope I helped!

Answer 3

You've got a couple of choices:

#1) Hope for the best situation and hope she changes. You could wait for her eventually come around and apologize for whatever is going on between you to. With this one you can potentially run the risk of losing the friendship depending on how stubborn, or mature she is or your friendship could reach a more mature level once she realizing whats going on.



or



#2) You take the initiative and continue the cycle of you solving the problems.



It all depends on whether or not you're willing to take the risk of losing the friendship either forgood or temporarily.

Answer 4

I think you should probably end your friendship to a sort of walk past and say hi and sometimes talk after class or something,, its not worth being friends with someone if they cant even be asked to own up when they're wrong and putting you threw stress and pain because they've done something wrong. Friendships shouldn't be controlled by one person. you should do what you like and feel right about what your doing.

Answer 5

Well, that very sad to hear.





1.) you can confront her once again but be very strict but reasonable about what you have to say. try to understand it in her and your point of view and have her try to understand how you feel and don't let her interrupt you while you are talking to her. let her understand how you feel and how her actions affect you and the relationship.



2.) if she blows you off again just try to give each other space so you guys can think things over, but i would suggest 1 first but be very caring don't be so mean or rude when you try to explain things to her and don't yell or blame her.



i hope this advice can help.

Answer 6

Shes obviously not a good friend to you and never will be .



dont say sorry to her , its not your fault , let her come to you

and when she does/if she does think really hard do you want to go threw this situation with her again and again ?