my friend is a user, or is she spoiled and oblivious?

Question

I fixed a computer for a friend not long ago, for no charge at all. She was fully aware of how long it took, I know because she bugged me the entire time I had it - wanting to know how soon I would be finished!
Not only did she not offer to pay me or do any favors for me, at the time I returned her laptop to her she reminded me that I owed her $17 from a couple weeks back *and* she also made me pay for her coffee and cake on top of that. Let me add that she has had "money problems" with friends before...she gave a friend a very expensive gift, and then later tried to get money from the friend, or get the gift back (I think she was trying to pay her house payment but still!).
Now she is wanting me to do the same data transfer/tweak type thing to her new computer and she is being very pushy and demanding, and of course is again not offering anything in return. Also, a few weeks ago she was supposed to sell me some of her old electronics and other household items that I was going to give to my son for his birthday. I had already bought some things from her to help fund her next venture. So, for months I tried to pin her down about a price and when she finally gave me one, even though it was a little high, I agreed. When I got paid and tried to seal the deal, she told me that it was not for sale any more.
Today I told her in a nutshell that since I had just recently lost both my laptop and my desktop, that I needed to work on those first so that I could complete my tax return and use the refund to buy my son something else for his birthday! Basically, I told her that I needed to look out for number one at this time. I thought she would be pissy, and maybe she is - we have only been e-mailing - but now she is bugging me for the names, costs, and where to buy the equipment and software that I used to fix her computer before. I don't think I can take it any more! This girl is clueless as to how entitled she seems, and I don't have the heart to tell her that she's acting like a selfish, spoiled brat. I am not even interested in giving her the information she is requesting. Should I just walk away now, or tell her she's a selfish, spoiled brat? I'm not perfect by any means but I don't ever treat my friends this way.

Answer 1

tell her how you feel, but don't come on too strong. People tend to get defensive and if you don't tell her then she won't understand why you left the friendship and any other future friends. tell her that this affects your friendship and you can stand it anymore. then walk away. if she acts like she has no idea what you're talking about give examples from what you just said. Hope i helped.

Answer 2

Ugh! what a spoiled brat... ya cut her off she's obviously not your friend and shes taking advantage of you fixing computers takes a lot of time and most technicians that do that charge a lot of money. You were very nice to do it for free. But it should be a one time favor and notting more she's seeing you now as a person she can step on so be strong and dont let her do that to you. Tell her that you dont want to help her anymore because you think shes taking advantage of you dont tell her anything make her feel guilty and maybe she'll come around and if she doesnt then just cut her off cause she obviously doesnt value your friendship at all. Hopefully this helps you out a little bit!

Answer 3

i dont believe he's spoiled...its purely a distinctive way of existence. and why are you counting his clothing?? it looks you have some jealousy. i stay in an wealthy community besides, and notice that commonly. i actually very own some eye-catching clothier products of clothing, colorings, and purses. inspite of the incontrovertible fact that, i do no longer flaunt those issues on objective...it incredibly is purely the style of stuff and issues i'm familiar with and grew up being surrounded by. you need to sense and be fortunate you reside in a wealthy community; no longer all are so fortunate.

Answer 4

she is way too much of spoiled brat. i mean you did all that stuff for you and she still thinks you owe her money. that bull crap. she seriously needs to get a life and pay you back some money

Answer 5

tell her shes selfish and a spoiled brat i mean u did all this crap to her and she still trys to get $$ from u...comps to fix takes like hundreds of dollars screw what she wants..