Question:
How do I deal with being bullied? This girl is getting the best of me?
anonymous
2012-03-06 13:55:39 UTC
I'm in high school and this girl is bullying me. It all started when her boyfriend talked to me one day. It was just friendly chat but she got really jealous. She's really popular so she managed to turn people against me even though I try to be nice to everyone. It's to the place where I can't do school activities like cheer leading because she'll bully me. She's beat me up a few times and just does stuff like knocking my books out of my hands and calling me names.

I just take it and go on. I'm afraid to fight back. Today, it got worse. I wore a skirt to school and when I was getting my history book out of my locker, she was calling me a s*** because my skirt was short, even though it wasn't. Again, I ignored her. Then she took my history book out of my hand and held it up. So then as I reached up to try and grab it, she just drops it on the ground. She looked at her friend and they laughed. So then I pushed her and she just laughed again. She grabbed me and put me in a head lock. I couldn't get out of it. So I just gave up. I thought if I just stopped fighting it, she would let me go, but she kept me in the hold.

I dropped to my knees and she tightened the hold, and as I dropped to my knees, I heard people laugh because my skirt came up and my panties were showing and her friend slapped my butt. My body was limp and she let me go and threw me to the ground, I passed out for a few seconds. Thank goodness a teacher finally showed up and her and her friends ended up getting suspended. They got what they deserved, but I'm tired of looking weak and helpless all the time when she bullies me. I'm sure suspension won't stop her from humiliating me, it'll probably make it worse. Without violence and telling authority figures, how do I defeat this girl? I'm tired of her beating me up and bullying me.
Seven answers:
Bree
2012-03-06 14:06:46 UTC
Wowww what an insecure B*tch.



Yeah ive been there before.

Listen: Use your voice.

Even if shes beating you up.. Stil Fight back.. If you cant physically.. Do it verbally.

" Oh you think your so tough? Atleast i have some confidence. What you just go crazy after just seeing me talk to your boyfriend? Grow some Self respect. And while your at it maybe a new personality because your looks aren't going to get you anywhere. " <-- that's what i would say!



Making fun of you for wearing something? Say



" Atleast i can pull this off, Are you bychance, JEALOUS? ;D " -walk away -





If shes physically hurting you just keep saying



" OH Does this make you feel better? I Guarantee after your done beating me up you will still be the same shallow, b*tch you always are "



If it gets so bad, honestly tell a teacher.



If you wont do that - Pull.



PUll her hair. DIG YOUR NAILS INTO HER. USE YOUR FEET , LEGS AND TEETH.



Heres another thing - Spit.

She does something so bad to you.. Spit in her face. Spit right in her nasty face.



^

| I did all these things through middle school. im in h.s now and NO ONE bothers me. They know i will go ape sh*t if anyone messes with me or anyone im close to.





But please if it gets too bad - Tell someone.





These are all tips for self defense. Good luck!



P.S - Threaten to tell the principal , her mom , your mom or a teacher. She will get scared trust me.
Anonymous
2012-03-06 14:46:20 UTC
This is absolutely wrong. You need authority figures or violence unless you have the option of changing schools. She doesn't care what you think or what you say. "I'm rubber, you're glue" doesn't work on this type. This has moved beyond simple name calling and into assault.



What you need to do is keep very explicit documentation, and get your parents and whatever authority figures you can in on this. Note the days, times, what happened at the incident, what was said and by whom, witnesses, their contact information, anything that may be pertinent to the occurrence, and photographs of whatever injuries she's inflicted. Try to remember with as much accuracy as possible some of the earlier events that took place before taking these notes, and record those as well. Keep this information in a binder, notebook, or text file on your computer in a safe place, and never bring it to school unless it's a copy or print out to show to the administration - if this bully sees it, she'll destroy it and make your life even worse for it. You may also want to look into a lawyer.



Also, tell the administration of your school exactly what's happened and how long it's been going on (and maybe that you have a lawyer - this should get them jumping). Show them whatever notes of the incidents you have written down, and also make note of when you talk to the administration (meaning principal, dean of students, someone in charge, what have you), to whom you spoke, dates, times, what you both said, etc. Make sure they understand that you're keeping very extensive records of what's going on, and that you're writing down everything they say. It would be best to have this conversation with the principal, because s/he's the one who has to deal with the superintendent and bad press. Your parents should probably be with you to back you up and offer support.



You should also record exactly how this bullying has affected your day to day life (cannot attend cheer practice, afraid of walking in the halls, cannot wear skirts, afraid of physical assault, &c.). What you're doing here is building a case and putting pressure on the administration to do something about this problem. If nothing improves or she beats you up or makes you pass out again, slap the b*#ch with assault charges and get her taken care of. This is where a lawyer would come in handy, because I'm not sure how this works with minors. Don't mention your notes to the bully as a threat. You need to keep your cards hidden until the last moment, or until you really need them.



And I'm going to be honest here: she bullies you because she can and you let her. Don't be afraid to draw blood. I would much rather my daughter draw blood from a bully and get suspended for a week (or be injured herself) than know she's letting all this come down on her without a fight. If you do end up fighting her, record the fight in your notes with all honesty about the physical damage you inflicted on her (and her on you, accompanied by photos), and how it all started. The consistency, accuracy, and details included in your record up to that date will indicate to the administration and the court (if it gets that far) that you aren't the one starting crap, and were in fact fighting in self defense. Your parents should be able to back you up on this one, and when they come to pick you up from the office, make sure they know to bring a fresh copy of your records. And then take notes on how the administration handled it.



Good luck.
Precious
2012-03-06 14:05:17 UTC
The best thing you can do is let her see you be happy. That would really work her nerves, because she likes to see you in pain and in a bad mood. Also, you can not let these things get to you that just gives her power over you that she is looking for. This may or may not work but one day just tell her off about how jealous she is, how she has nothing better to do but hurt others to make herself feel better about herself,how you don't care, and anything else on your mind at the moment, but you have to be smart about it. The only way to get her to keep her hands off of you is to press charges or something. Good Luck
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2012-03-07 18:42:14 UTC
THat girl who bullies you is the definition of jealous b*tch

I'm so sorry for what is happening to you at school. My advice from experience is to ignore them. Those B*tches want a reaction from you. Don't give them one. Ignore them, and they'll stop cuz they'll be bored with you. If ignoring doesn't help go tell someone! You'll be in my prayers. Stay Strong!
Alexis
2012-03-06 14:06:12 UTC
I'm so so sorry for you my heart sank when i read this . Well I know your scared to but YOU GOT TO TELL AN ADULT !!!!!!!!!!! I wouldn't tell an adult about her boyfriend and the panies thing but tell them she's putting you in headlock and calling you names. I feel bad for you but if you chicken out and don't tell an adult then things ARE gonna get worse. But if you don't say either these to lines or both Just because your boyfriend was talking to me doesn't mean there is anything between us or say Geese do you know how it feels to be bullied so it's nothing mean so you don't get in trouble I hope she stops and learned her leason.
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2016-10-02 06:11:16 UTC
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captainvideo
2012-03-06 13:58:02 UTC
Sorry, but the best thing to do is to tell an authority figure.


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