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Okay so I'm sorry if this becomes a bit longwinded but please read the entire thing:):)

I used to be best friends with this girl, let's call her 'Emily'. Emily is not a nice girl at all but she was popular at the time (and still is) and I wanted to be cool so I followed her around and sucked up to her alot. She was mean and bossy, she would talk about other people, swear alot and basically be a b****. There's this other girl, let's call her 'Rachel', who has always been my best friend and still is. Rachel also wanted to be popular so she hung around with Emily also. Emily treated Rachel the same way she treated me. Some days, Emily would decide she liked Rachel but not me and vice versa, and some days she liked both of us. Then one day, on a day she only liked Rachel, she was saying things to her like 'Oh Rachel, we must have a sleepover sometime, it would be so cool, you're such a good best friend' with me standing right next to then. Suddenly, I flipped out. I had just had enough and I basically screamed at her saying things like 'I've had enough of you!' and I stormed off, leaving both Rachel and Emily speechless. Me and Rachel are best friends still to this very day and I haven't spoken to Emily since. We had an argument online about another girl a few months ago where she said some mean things about my appearance but that is all.
Was I wrong to flip out? I went kind of crazy and I know I shouldn't feel guilty as she was so mean but I sometimes feel as if It was all my fault. I don't wanna be her friend again as I'll fall into the same trap, me following her around and listening to her bitching about other people.
Who is the real bad guy here, me or her? What do you think about this? I'm sorry this went on FOREVER D: Thanks so much for your help I honestly appreciate it so much :)
BTW I'm a 13 year old girl

Answer 1

Emily is a loser. Popularity never lasts. You will have friends like rachel for ever but people like emily they come and they go. You were right to flip out, somebody had to put her back in her place. Don't you even think about apologizing because you have done nothing wrong!

Answer 2

First off, you should never be friends with someone who is 'popular', you know what happens to all those people, after highschool, they fade away and no longer hold a ring of coolness and they get treated likee veryone else. A lto of them that think it is OK to fail school because they're 'cool', beocme gigantic losers. They're all losers really. Seocnd of all, GOOD FOR YOU FOR STANDING UP TO THAT GIRL. She's a bitchhh and not a friend. You are a strogn perosn and these people don't matter. Just ignore them till they go away.

Once you graduate, you won't ever see these people agian. Don't apologize! I was friends with this girl last year, Rebecca, and this year we were friends for a while and i almost apologized to her even though she was the bithhc and now i thank jesus that i didn't!!!!! cuz we hate eachother agian and i actually fought her. I, won. She will also probably try to manipulate you bac to being friends with you and make youfel like oyu did something wrong, PLEASE DONT' FALL FOR IT

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Answer 3

13? wow im surprised.

anyways, its your fault, now im not trying to be mean, but really? following a girl and being a poodle just to be popular? now thats sad.

usually u just let ur popularity grow on its own, u dont hav to follow a person to be popular, its not worth it when u get to high schoool.

true that was too much wehn you overreacted bc that showed you were jealous and that emily will use that against you.

the thing that u did wrong in the first place was becoming that girl's friend. u should hav just sticked with ur other friend rachel.

my advice?

stay away from emily bc u dont need a friend who puts you down or makes you feel down whenever she doesnt like you or not bc that creates sooo much stress, and a 13 year old girl doesnt need that. BUT apologize to rachel, since she has been ur best friend for a long time. bc i wouldnt want to waste a long term friendship just for popularity, bc thats just called being selfish.

dont worry, things will get better. :)

Answer 4

If she's being manipulative and catty, then she's the bad guy here. Maybe you shouldn't have flipped out on her in public, but she did deserve to be called out on her behavior, so if anything is your fault, it's just in choosing not necessarily the best time and place. Ultimately, you're doing her a favor by letting her know that people, or at least some people, understand what she's up to, and that she's going to lose friends as more people get tired of her BS.

Answer 5

That's deep.

Anyways, you realized that this "emily" was not a good friend/person to be with, therefore from my opinion i think you did the right thing.

the bad guy/gilr is "emily"

everyone hangs out with people who are mean... then we stop becoming their buds/friends

Answer 6

no you weren't"t wrong,and by the sounds of it you"ve had a lucky escape.just stick to being friends with rachel,she"ll eventually come round.also ignore what this emily says,"sticks and stones may break your bones but names will never harm you",normally when people are like that its normally a case of being jealous.your doing the right thing as if you go back into being her friend again she"ll just throw it in your face if you no what i mean.just stick to your guns okay.

Answer 7

I remember first going into middle school its not like movies or something you dont need to hang out with a person to be popular just be nice to people and socialize with them be yourself dont let one person bother you if she says something about your looks oh well thats her ignore her she is immature you also sound high strung calm down and just and be yourself and all you can really do is accept what people think of you

Answer 8

ofcourse the b****** one .. be urself .. if ur not popular then dont try to be.. alot of ppl r not popular, alot of popular kids r b****** and sluts.. im not popular i onli got 2 best friend well let say 1 cuz the other 1 never hangs out wif us.. and alot of friends...agen if u get what i mean..

Answer 9

i don´t understand you at all. how can you feel guilty when she treat you like a piece of s....h.....i.....t

you need to wake up! smell some flowers or something to wake up! don´t hang out with her anymore. why would you want to be with someone who doesn´t respects you!.



you can be popular by just being yourself and hang out with those people who make you smile everyday, respect you, treat you nice etc. don´t feel guilty. it´s not your fault.

Answer 10

Woohoo! student vigilante! good job you might have went a little overboard.... you know what no you didn't, just think of all of the people she humiliated and to know you stood up to her and no this did not go on FOREVER D: (just kidding)

Answer 11

Well done sweetheart she was messing you both up and you SHOLUD NOT feel guilty she's in the wrong and it's absolutely fine.



God bless you brave girl!

Answer 12

honestly u did what u did cause u have had enough and i think thats pretty cool of u. dont suck up to people cause then others are goin to start thinkin your crazy. stay strong gal u got it goin on!!!

Answer 13

THE EMILY GIRL IS A FRICKING JERK SHE'S TOTALLY THE BAD GUY!!!!!