Overprotective and annoying mom. ?

Question

I'm 17 going on 18 and I can't stand how overprotective my mother is. She's always been this way all throughout middle school I wasn't allowed to go to other friends houses or hang out with them at the mall or something unless my mom was in the mall herself. And it wasn't until 9th grade that she somewhat loosen the reins but I still wasn't allowed to go to parties or anything. Which honestly was okay with me. That's not what I like to do anyway. I don't drink never done drugs and haven't gotten in any trouble for her not to trust me or at least trust my judgement. I asked her last night if I could sleep over at a friends house. She likes this friend but doesn't approve the decisions my friend has made. She parties, had an abortion a few months ago. But she doesn't behave crazy when she's with me. Because she knows that's not my style. But my mom said no. She hates when I sleep outside of the house. She's like "something could happen. Her mom could have a weird boyfriend. She obviously isn't that well-looked after". But seriously my friend lives up the street. And if I felt uncomfortable I wouldn't have even asked her.

What annoys me most of all is if my brother ask for something and she says no he becomes all moody and gives every an attitude until she agrees. It was the same way with my cousin when she use to live with us. She use to go out ALL the time. And they are both younger than me. If they start giving attuitude and whining about it she'll just let them go. But I never give her attuitude and when I do and she tries to make me feel guilty so that I won't go. My cousin and brother don't ever feel guilty so they just go without worrying about it but I do.

Answer 1

Your mom is probably doing this because she loves you so much. Also, she is old enough to have the experience to know how many bad people there are in the world. Of course it is frustrating for you, but it won't be long before you are ready to leave home and then you'll have to make these decisions for yourself. Try not to compare yourself to your brother and your cousin. One of my children was allowed to do much more than the others because she threw such huge strops. I didn't let her get away with it because I loved her more, rather, her behaviour made me love her less! And when she messed up her life (which she was so sure she wouldn't do!) - I had to just step back and leave her to pick up the pieces. I had done my best to protect her and she wouldn't be protected. You are so, so lucky - do you realise how many kids your age have parents you don't care about them at all?!

Answer 2

You may or may not like my answer, yet now that I am older I can understand that "mother knows best." Even though YOU don't participate in the things your friend does, if you hang around someone long enough, eventually you will start doing some of the things they do. Your mother loves you, and as long as she is setting a good example for you, you should not be upset about anything. You are almost 18 and can move out if you choose to then (not that I'm encouraging you to do so). Some children/teens don't have that type of example, and experience abuse, boyfriends coming in and out of their home (w/ the parent), drug & alcohol abuse, and more...so be happy that you have a mother who loves you & looks out for you =)

Answer 3

My parents are the same way.. it sucks, but your mom is only trying to protect you. You'll understand once you yourself are a parent. Yes, the overprotectiveness can only make crazy and you'll want to run and do something drastic to "show her" but just know she loves you and just wants to keep you safe. Your mom apparently has more respect for you than your cousin and brother because she gives in to them easier than you. Just keep your chin up. You'll be picking out a college soon enough, and you can stay in a dorm if you'd like. Then you'll just have to deal with their rules and regulations if they have any. Good luck!

Answer 4

Your not a alone my mom does the same s h i t I HAVENT EVEN WENT TO A REAL PARTY OR ON A REAL DATE Because my mom always thought the dude i would go out with was a "player" and my friends were whores...im 17 almost 18 too GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

She loves you too much she just wants the best for you Hang in there You'll be fine just sit down and have a serious talk about it

Answer 6

That was your mistake may be you did not proove you really need this somehow..For your mother it may be just more comfortable and she thinks if you are not upset it was not something important and nothing to worry about.