Do you have to trust someone to love them?

Question

This is not just a "relationship" question...it relates to all friendships and other relationships in life. Can love transcend the issue of trust at times?

Answer 1

You can love someone you can't trust but you can't be IN LOVE with them because there will always be doubts in the back of your mind. It will cause fights which will make the relationship unbearable and eventually lead to a break up.

Answer 2

Love is a strong, complex emotion that, at times, seems to have more control over us than we have over it - and we don't always choose the people we love in certain relationships outside of family - it just happens, and we love many different people for many different reasons. We don't get to choose our family either, of course - but a family relationship, usually, is such a strong bond and our love for one another so ingrained; that even though sometimes we don't even like certain family members, have been hurt or even betrayed by them, - we still love them and are much more forgiving.



So, do you have to trust someone to love them? I would have to say that trust is very important and would affect the quality of your love for that person. Eventually, I believe if trust became an issue, that lack of trust would erode the love. For love to be strong and positive, trust is an important component. Can love transcend the issue of trust at times? I believe that depends on the reason why trust became an issue in the first place and the impact it had on you and the relationship and how forgiving you can be, or should be - trust can be regained, but it takes time and a lot of work. But a person will take the time and will work at it, if the love is really there and worth saving - so yes, love can sometimes transcend the issue of trust.



Love, and relationships, are complicated - and there are no simple answers.

Answer 3

No to the first question, yes to the second. For a long time I did not trust my husband, but I still loved him very much. Our trust issue is getting better, and we have a better relationship because of that, but I don't think you HAVE to trust someone to love them, you just have to care about them a lot and want to work through all the difficult parts in life together.

Answer 4

Not necessarily, but in any *healthy* relationship, people should be able to rely on and trust one another. But you can still feel like you love someone even if you have doubts. Some people tolerate more mistreatment and bullsh*t than others and will continue putting their trust and love in someone who doesn't deserve it. You can still care about a friend who repeatedly flakes on plans, or be attached to a boy- or girlfriend who has cheated or otherwise hurt you. You can feel obligated or naturally inclined to love a family member who criticizes you or your choices, suffers from alcoholism or a drug habit, or is absent or distant in some way. Sometimes we want to believe in the best in people and hope that our pure love can be enough to keep everything happy and well. But unfortunately trusting someone who constantly lets you down only builds up resentment, stress, and grief. I'm sure we all wished love was enough, but stable, happy relationships require not just trust but trustworthy behavior.

Answer 5

Trust is very important in any relationship in life. You do not have to trust someone to love them, but be careful about such love connections. Even friendships need to be selected with care, otherwise, you might have to deal with the consequences. There are unscrupulous individuals who take advantage of people and just dissappear when you are in need. There are opportunists!



Love transcends the issue sometimes but you need to love and trust yourself first before you do the same for others. This includes mutual respect which is the basis of a healthy relationship.

Answer 6

No. You can deeply love someone (especially a child, a spouse, a parent) knowing that they would steal money from your purse the minute you turned around or take the first chance to spend the night away from home, or knowing that they will probably once again beat you to a pulp the next time they are angry or drunk. Some love naturally transcends the bad actions of others. I think your real question may be a matter of questioning if you love yourself (and the other person) enough to set limits with the person on what behaviors you will not tolerate and when it is time to painfully cut off the relationship for your own well-being.

Answer 7

You can love someone without trusting them. If you want a lasting relationship the trust must be there.

Answer 8

Sounds like your boyfriend has had some poor experiences in the past with women. That's unfortunate for him. It's not going to be fun never being trusted by the one who claims to love you so much. I'm sure he'd not like it if you felt that way about him. Perhaps over time he will learn to trust you if you don't play games with his heart and you're honest. If not...it's up to you whether you can handle the knowledge of not being trusted even when you know you deserve to be.

Answer 9

Yes it is very possible to love someone and not trust them. Although trust is a major factor in most relationships, it's not a condtion of "love". I have a few family members that I love with all my heart, but I would not trust them ith my credit cards.

Answer 10

I do believe that you have to have some kind of trust to love anyone. I guess what I am saying is that the people that I love have my trust in one way or another. I don't know that I trust each person that I love in the same way because everyoen is different!

Answer 11

Yes, love and trust in any relationship is as vital as breathing is to life. trust and love therefore co-exists and transcends in any form of relationship.

A person who loves cannot love fully without trusting. A person who trusts you expects that respect and love for the trust to be maintained if not made stronger.

Answer 12

Sometimes the ones you love make mistakes and for a time you may not trust 100%. Over time trust is gained again. Everybody screws up, try to forgive and later you will forget.

Answer 13

Relationships are built upon trust and respect. You cannot have love without some degree of trust.

Answer 14

ya you should trust someone to love them, no matter if its friendship or boyfriend/girlfriend. Trust is what makes love grow, its what makes people get along, which goes with love. If someone broke your trust like told something very important, would you still love them?

Answer 15

No---not with mortal man. Only the love of all incompasing goodness will transcend time, that would be the love of the Creator not what He created. The heart is deceitfull, trust no man. Trust all to Allah but tether your camel.

Answer 16

i think it depends who the relationship is with. I love my family, but dont trust all of them. But, if it somes to a friend or boyfriend, if i can not trust you, andi think i love you. I know in my heart it is probably just lust and not really love.

Answer 17

Different levels, stages, and definitions of love. To come upon trust @ any form is a blessing.

Answer 18

No. I don't trust my sister with my credit card, but that does not mean I don't love her.



Now with my husband, our love for each other grew through trust.... so yes on that one.

Answer 19

Sounds like you've got a guilty conscience about something. The two don't go hand-in-hand. Trust comes over time.

Answer 20

Good heavens, of course you have to have trust, how can you love someone if you don't trust them? That isn't love, it's something else entirely.



Trust is something that is built over time, you don't give your heart to someone (or your body) until they have proven who they are to you. Big mistake if you don't wait to find out just who they really are, most people don't tell the truth.

Answer 21

trust .. is a big deal in any relationship. you can love someone and not trust them but where does that get you?? a relationship full of fights and being controlling

Answer 22

Trust is not an issue of love. Love is an emotion or feeling.

Trust is secondary and not necessary.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love

Answer 23

You can definitely love someone without trusting them

Answer 24

I don't think every mother trusts her child but still loves them unconditionally. That is about the only relationship where it would truly work though

Answer 25

I think that it is a matter of setting your own personal standards. I feel that I need to trust myself, and others, to have meaningful relationships. I think it also depends on the depth of the relationship.

Answer 26

Absolutely! Trust comes first! You can't have love without trust.

Answer 27

Yes I think so. People lie all the time and they have their reasons for doing so. But I suppose it depends on what the the issue is and what you share with them.

Answer 28

Yes definitely. I love my husband dearly but I can't trust him at all..he has drug issues! But I still love him.

Answer 29

No, but to have a meaningful relationship absolutely!!!!!!!!!! You need to be able to trust them. Other wise your just setting up for failure.

Answer 30

Yes because if you don't trust them they will hurt your love very much!! I know

Answer 31

There are kids that love their parents unconditionally even though the parents are constantly letting them down. Thats just one example but I think its sufficiant to answer your Q.

Answer 32

No, if i love you i got to trust you. if i don't trust there is no love

Answer 33

don't...I repeat...don't ever trust a women ever. They all have knives that they use to stab all males with sometime in their girly lives.

Answer 34

he he you are funny!!!

and if your question is serious my answer is no. but if you love them you will trust them.

Answer 35

No, my best friend and i used to and we have had to work it back up but we still love each other

Answer 36

no, our parents loved us as a child, but they didn't trust us, i loved my brother when he was strung out on drugs, but i didn't trust him

Answer 37

with love come trust so yes

Answer 38

Yes if you want to love them for the rest of your life, but if its only going to be few years then no.

Answer 39

No. I love my family, but I don't trust them.

Answer 40

You have to trust someone to be true friends or lovers.

Answer 41

YES if theirs no trust theirs no LOVE

Answer 42

ofcourse!!!!....TRUST is a very important element to have a healthy relationship at all aspect...

Answer 43

I suppose it can. People love others who are total scum so yes.

Answer 44

There are people who believe they love other people and don't trust them as far as they can throw them.



To me that is not love.....but they think it is.

Answer 45

Nope, u don't HAVE to trust them, I mean they can steal ur money and ur... dog..... but it's recommended u do ;)

Answer 46

No not at all in fact its rare to have both

Answer 47

no, you do not. you have no control over who you fall in love with.

Answer 48

YOU HAVE TO HAVE EXPLICIT TRUST TO LOVE SOMEONE.....

Answer 49

i believe so absolutely

Answer 50

YES-

Answer 51

might help

Answer 52

YEA

Answer 53

No.