what do i do about a group of kids that won't leave me alone?

Question

I used to hang out with this group of kids over a year ago, and they still harass me. Everything from my hair to weight to an outfit, they make fun of me behind my back. Start terrible rumors that aren't even true. Any secret that I ever had with any of them isn't a secret anymore. They've thrown things at me, and yelled things at me in the hallway/lobby.
It's a group of like 4 people, and it's growing. It's like they're recruiting.
I'm seriously considering switching schools in the fall. Because of them.

As if this wasn't bad enough, the other night I got a text message from one of them, who is also my ex boyfriend. It was just like "hey."
But then last night I got 5 calls from a withheld number (which is what they do, call me from a blocked number and leave me voicemails). I answered and then immediately hung up. then I heard a knocking on my window and spent the next two hours scared that they were looking into my blinds, tee peeing my house, writing something on the window, etc. And the fact that I was scared in my own house makes me really uncomfortable. It turned out to be my cats making the knocking sound. But still. They're totally capable of doing things like that.

I just don't understand it, I've never done anything to any of them, I've taken "the high road" for the last year. And I just can't do it anymore, something is going to happen if they don't leave me alone and forget my name.

It's not like I can go to the guidance counselor at school or anything-because school's over. I wasn't going to do that anyways because it would just make the whole situation worse. They'd just make fun of me for ratting on them.

I hate the term "bully" because it seems like I can't handle it. But I'm just at a loss at what to do here about this situation. Any guidance or anything would be greatly appreciated. I just want them to forget about me.

Being a teenager sucks.

Answer 1

You should tell your parents just as a forewarning, in case these (lets face it) "bullies" ever do attack your home instead of your mental state, they'll be able to take the necessary and appropriate actions against them. I know it doesn't seem ideal to "run to mommy and daddy" because you don't want the repercussions from these tyrants to worsen, but it is the best idea. Be sure to tell them that you're afraid in your own home too. This way if things get worse you can put a restraining order on every last one of them and they can't have any kind of contact with you or else stronger consequences will be in their near future. I would also strongly recommend asking your parents to change your phone number so that they cannot call you and leave you nasty messages anymore. In the mean time, hit the "ignore" button on all of their phone calls and let it go to your voice mail. Save everything they leave on your phone, that way when you do go to get the restraining orders you have something to back it up.

Next time they start this up, make sure you warn them that if they don't leave you alone you're getting a restraining order and you're not joking about it.

Answer 2

Let's just call them "Bad People." Bad people aren't always inherently "bad," They may not be murderers or thieves - maybe they're just users and abusers. Either way, anyone who sends up a red flag of suspicion, or seems only to cause chaos and misery in your life is probably bad - at least for you. Once these negative relationships take hold, it can be difficult to find the resolve to eliminate them from your life.

Begin to surround yourself with "Good People." Good people bring joy into your life, and they respect and support you. The more good people that you associate with, the more quickly you will start to recognize (and eliminate) bad people from your life.

Negative “energy people” are not living a life full of happiness and success, yet they will happily drag you down to their level unless you escape their clutches before it is too late! Complaining accomplishes absolutely nothing other than drawing attention to an already less than favorable set of circumstances. If something is worth complaining about, then it is also worth taking action on. Stop whining, and start taking action, because if you don’t, all of the whiners and complainers will crowd around you in order to get their negativity fix. Burn these bridges. There's no easy way. Get some help from counselor. If not go to their house and explain to their parents. You need to do something or they will keep stepping on you. Don't wait another year!

Answer 3

Calling you for no reason other than to disrupt your life and to scare you is considered harassment.Call the police and tell them that you've been harassed by a group of teenagers and you are afraid that they may be stalking you and may even vandalize or break into your home,then tell them that they have been spreading malicious and untrue comments about you that has harmed your reputation (slander) and that they have hurt you by throwing objects at you (battery).The police will look into the matter and you can ask the police to trace those calls if it's possible.The next time they do any of those things to you,get concrete evidence and then call the police again.Those people who are bullying you will be arrested and charged with crimes or misdemeanors.You can even sue them for slander.



They can make fun of you for ratting on them,but they'll be the ones with a criminal record.This is not even bullying,it's criminal intimidation and harassment.You have every right to ask the police for protection.



The thing about ratting out someone,is that if you don't get any benefit from keeping quiet,then you should start singing to whomever can put a stop to this.Arm yourself with other friends because if you "rat them out" then expect them to retaliate with violence.If people in school do not want to be your friend,then go outside school and make friends with other people.Not like gang members or anything,just enough people that you won't be set upon by them if they find you.

Answer 4

I do feel sorry for you and quite understand what you feel. Is there anyone in your family who can intervene and contact their parents one to one? Or maybe you should just ignore them or try to make friends with their ring leader. If they feel you are scared, you are the very one on whom they will pick because bullies always choose the weakling or the underdog to attack because there is a group mentality that motivates them all. Catch them individually and try to talk to them but they could then regroup and you would have trouble. I have copied the following websites which may give you a bit of guidance on an approach that you could take.

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Answer 5

either go straight up to them and tell them whats wrong or ask a friend to do it or get even with them.