My best friend is going out with my ex boyfriend. She didn't even tell me till i squeezed it out of her..?

Question

Well my best friend told me she liked my ex boyfriend while i was going out with him i didn't really care because i was still going out with him till we broke up. Then my best friend and I talked about how he is a bad person and stuff, but then one day after school ( we go to different schools) i get a random text from a random number. It said did you hear about your ex and i said no and they said he is going out with your best friend and i said oh wow good for them. Then they were like your jealous and stopped talking to me so i went to my friend and started talking to her. She kept beating around the bush when ever i brought up my ex's name. She knew I still liked him but i don't really anymore. Then finally she told me and i was like he is just going to hurt you because he is a very mean person i should know i went out with him for like 3 months. Then the next day my other friend that goes to their school texted e and said omg your best friend and your ex are making out. NOT EVEN A DAY!!! And they were making out!! The other problem is i think he is using her to try to make me jealous and i don't want him to hurt her because of me! I don't know if i want to be her friend and she doesn't seem like the person to do that but i don't want to have to listen to her talk about him all the time what should i do??

Answer 1

Tell her that she is being used. If she doesn't listen, the I told you so will come someday. If she doesn't trust you, don't be her friend anymore. She will get her heart broken, but if its bros over hoes, then its also the same for girls.



I had a similar experience. A few years ago , a new girl moved to town and while I was talking to her in the lunch line she told me she thought a cute guy on the other side of the room liked her. The line went "oooooooooo!" And I told her that was my boyfriend. Months later we broke up, and by then she and I were great friends.



She began to date him a week lateran and we told her he was horrible, he cheated on me all the time and lied. She didn't listen. Then they broke up and she was heart broken.





We were no longer friends because of that. So I said... I told you so.

Answer 2

Just think of her as making out with your "slopping seconds". Real friends would never do that but instead of kicking her to the curb just yet, you should talk to her NOT "confront her" just talk to her and tell her about "girl code" friends are suppose to date the friends ex's EVER! Whether they are over it or not and if she doesn't care then there is not much you can do, I mean you can't control who she likes and he broke up with you but it would be an even better idea to talk to your ex about it, not about him "making you jealous" but the fact that he would dare to hook up with your best friend. Tell your friend that you don't care for hearing about her relationship with your ex. Also do not tell your bestfriend that he is going to "hurt her" because of what you went through, just by the way your putting all of this i can tell you would not warn your friend about your ex for her safety but because you are actually jealous. Every girl that has gotten dumped will tell the next girl "he's going to hurt you" you don't know what things are going to be different about THIS relationship. its truly none of your business .

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Well, you could start by telling them both how u feel personally id feel betrayed and probably not hang out with my best friend but u should tell her that u feel sad when she talks about hiim all the time if u really like ur friend than tell her how u feel and if she doesn't listen to u than maybe not hang out with her for a while

Answer 5

You should tell her that you're hurt she wasn't honest with you about it from the beginning. Then you should lay down some ground rules - tell her you don't care if she dates him, but you don't want to hear anything about it no matter what. If she brings it up, change the subject. If she brings it up again, hang up or walk away and remind her of your deal. Then, just stay out of it as best as you can.