How to make friends in high school(I am shy)read more please?

Question

I'm 16 and going to start my junior year in high school in augest. I have always been shy but i am DONE !! I'm fed up of being lonley in class, not having partners sometimes, being LONLEY ! I mean I have friends and a best friend and I can keep up a conversation when people come talk to me but I can't start a conversation.
HOW DO I START A CONVERSATION?
HOW DO I MAKE MORE FRIENDS?
WHAT SHOULD YOU TALK ABOUT WHEN YOU BARLEY MEET SOMEONE?
HOW DO YOU MAKE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE IN THE CLASS?
please try to answer all the questions

Answer 1

Well first of all, your a junior in high school. so it seems like your old enough to know that being shy wont get you anywhere. In order for people to know who you are, you have to know who you are. I was like that that in high school too. I would never really talk to anyone in my class, and i would always feel alone and have no partners. But I eventually got over it. I just took a risk and started saying random things to people. Just say anything. Asking someone a question about an assignment is one way to start a conversation with your classmates. You could ask him/her a question you already know the answer to. just for the sake of conversation. Or by saying "This is class sucks" and one person is likely to say "yeah, this class really blows" and you can start pointing out the flaws of the class. I know it sounds dumb. but a lot of kids would agree and jump in on the conversation. Another rule that works is to always BE NICE. no one likes a mean person. If someone asks for a pencil, say sure. and give it to them. and when they say thank you, say "no prob, anytime" and SMILE. People always assume that when a person smiles a lot, that they are really warm-hearted people, and really approachable. This will make people come to you more often and they will feel comfortable around you. So if you look nervous and sad, people will stay away and leave you alone. But Smiling and looking happy will help. Also, dont try to change yourself. If your not loud and funny. dont try to be and assume everyone will like you for it. If they remember you as the shy/quiet one, youll just look crazy if all of a sudden your trying to be the class clown. You should be the person you are with your friends. But if your friends are weird, dont try to use the same humor with someone who is the total opposite of your friends, you can adjust your personality when talking to people who are different without completely changing yourself. There are different sides to everyone, just choose the side of you that best fits with the person you want to talk to. Another thing is to also look approachable. you do not have to completely change your idenity, but just clean it up a bit. clean yourself up. look approachable. If you dont know how, observe others around you who have alot of friends. Pay attention to what they where. Matching the color of your shoes with your shirt or your belt is one trick to get people to think you dress well. Color cordinating always pleases people. Dont try to wear funky colors that dont go well together. If your not sure, get a second opinion. Another trick is to wear a band Tee that you like. and if someone else likes it, they might say "hey I like that band too" and then start a conversation about their songs and stuff. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, Dont try to be everyones friend. some people may not click with you instantly. Its just the way things are. Not everyone has to like you. But you shouldnt hate them or waste your time wondering why they dont like you. Thats just high school. Youll be friends with the people your meant to be friends with. It will all come natrually. Hope this helps and Good luck!!

Answer 2

Hi I will try and answer all your questions, To start a conversation just be yourself talk about things you like ask them questions like what do you like doing at a weekend or ask about there family and hobbies. Your next question you asked - you make friends by being YOU and only YOU people will appreciate this more instead of being someone your not, that will help you make friends. You should talk about anything and everything when you first meet someone because lets face it, its all about getting to know the other person and them getting to know you. You don't need to make friends with everyone in the class you will slowly get to know people and their personalities and you yourself won't like everyone. So be yourself - talk about your likes and dislikes ask them questions about them show an interest and you will make friends you sound like a lovely person and I hope you feel more comfortable in starting conversations. Good Luck

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Michelle, my name is Brian and I will also start Junior year at my high school as well.

I can say this, BE YOURSELF.

Don't act stupid, don't change yourself; from your personality. to how you act, don't change YOU.

You must be a very charming young girl and I admire your courage to ask this question. It proves to me that you're not shy at all [: That's one step completed. Act natural Michelle, people will find it easier to talk with you if you don't pretend to be someone else.

I would love to be your friend, if I can.

I always need a friend that I can communicate with, share my feelings, be chill, be fun, be friends.

Talk about your hobbies,

your likes and dislikes for example: Myself, I like to play football and what I like the most is watching Spongebob with my nephew and what I hate the most is are Scene Kids hahahaha.

Be friendly, always smile and say hello. Most people, when you first meet them or vice versa, they make a first impression of you: This person is nice, he says hello and smiles or oh no, this guy walks like a drunk and he acts rough. Once again (I'm sorry) act yourself.

Answer 5

Best answer I can give you is to just talk a lot and be nice to people. Talking a bunch is really important, lets people get to know you better and feel comfortable around you. I know I wish people could just approach me and open up, but the thing is that you gotta 'reach out' to people before that can happen

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Answer 7

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Answer 8

i was pretty shy in high school. always the smart kid who liked art. "helped" the popular kids do their homework. about my sophmore year my older brother moved back to town. he had just turned 21. then i turned into the popular kid. so to sum things up: find someone who is old enough to buy you beer. buy the popular kids beer, you dont even have to drink it and sometimes it makes things easier if you dont.

also if you feel akward make everyone else feel akward and then you know you are all the same.