Why am I so intimidated by this group?

Question

I'm not the shy type, and I have plenty of friends - in fact, people often comment on how I can make friends so easily, and click with others so easily. But there's this one group, and when ever I see them around, I just hide in the corner and stay quiet. I mean, its not that I don't like them, or they don't like me, I'm great friends with one of the girls in that group too (we're only acquaintances now, like I wouldn't be able to ask her to go shopping or hang out), but really, I'm only a degree of separationn away from that group since outside the group, we've all got the same friends. But I don't know why this happens, well there's this one guy in that group that I have an awkward past with, I embarressed myself a lot with him. Maybe that's why my first instinct when I see them is to make myself invisible. How do I overcome this intimidation, I mean, they do look like a fun group of people, and I'd love to be friends with the rest of them.

Answer 1

I can see why you are a bit scared but if you keep hiding away from them it's going to give them the wrong image and you could be known as a scaredy cat or coward. To me it seems like you don't want this to happen however if you continue hiding from them it's going to make them think that about you. When they pass by again don't look at them because not looking at a person or persons you are scared of is better than hiding in a corner like a little kid would.

Answer 2

I have the exact same problem. I have a friend who is in this "group" that I seem to get intimidated by when they walk in the hallways. What I'm doing is trying to change my attitude. I think to myself "don't think about what other people think about you, just be your own person. Mind your own business and live your life". I know that sounds pretty queer, but that's what I say inside my mind, and it really helps me to overcome that intimidation. Now, I'm not scared to be walking/sitting near/or talking to that group. Hope I helped (:

Answer 3

You said it all "click on others so easily"? How Hard is it to just go to a bar and pick someone up?



I can click on others very easily as well, but mostly it includes destroying them not socialising with them. Get a life.

Answer 4

look, get a life.

be friends with ppl that matter, not only cuz they look fun duh