Do You Think I Care Too Much About School?

Question

I'm a high school sophomore. I go to a pretty small school of 180 kids where we've had the same people in our class since 6th grade with very few new kids, so everyone knows everyone.

I have a twin brother. We are two of probably about 9 black people in total in our grade, no asians, no mexicans or anything. Most of the black people are mixed so we're by far the darkest.

Our parents are from Africa. They were born in villages and through hard work and seriously taking advantage of very few educational opportunities they were able to come here and become very successful (almost millionaires.)

Because of this I have always worked very hard in school, and tried to get as much out of my education as possible.

When we first moved to the school in 6th grade (we were one of the few new kids) some people said they didn't like us because we were black. It is a very small town and school with very little diversity, and everyone knows everyone.

Ever since 6th grade though, I've gotten every academic and leadership award our school offers, and so has my brother. At the end of 9th grade, I was ranked 1st in the class of 180, and my brother tied for 4th.

I am also class president, in student council, robotics, science competitions, writing competitions, public speaking, and volunteering.

I really love achieving and being academic. My dream is to study at Harvard University and then go back to Africa and be a medical advocate, researcher, and writer to study and promote better health care and cures to diseases. I know that every extra hour I stay up after midnight, and every extra page I study will bring me one step closer to helping my family back home.

Now, the high school part. I have always kind of had friends, but they started ecoming really distant last year. It seems like they don't really like me around. It actually seems like no one really likes me. When people take pictures they never invite me to be in them.

I used to be best friends with a girl who turned on me in freshman year and said I had no life, and all I did was study, and that I was really ugly. I know her and a couple of other people that wanted to be 1st really bad, and after the class rank was announced, it seemed like all my friends kind of turned on me.

People always remark that I'm a really happy, sweet person, but they never seem to really like me. It really hurts my feelings that no one has ever asked me to homecoming. It makes me feel like I'm really hideous or something. A lot of guys in my grade and people in my school will tell me that I'm the smartest person they have ever met, and I'll finally be the 1st person from my high school to go to Harvard. My teachers also tell me they've never seen anyone work as me. But they also say that I should relax, and it seems like I have no life.

The thing is, I have parents who really don't want me to hang out with people from my school outside of school. I've never been to a sleepover, or trick-or-treating or anything like that.

But, I can see their point now. I know that out of the 180 kids in my grade, probably 160 of them have tried drugs. Most of the girls who used to be my friends are now completely boy crazy, and are making decisions that aren't good at all.

I really just don't want to be like that. I know that all the cool people do drugs, and I for the life of me can never ever do that. I always just think that since kindergarten so much time and money has been spent trying to spread drug awareness and as soon as people get to high school they do it, its really sad.

I also think that I should wait until I'm older, and done with college before I date. I have never told anyone this, because no one has ever asked me out. It still kind of hurts though, to just not be asked. I feel like guys don't like me because I'm dark skinned.

I know that the day after senior year graduation none of the people in high school or the stuff they did will matter because we'll all go our own separate ways in life. But right now it's just so hard to deal with.

I don't really have much in common with my peers because I'm not into the stuff they are. I'm really focused on the future and I meet kids at summer camps and we become great friends but I feel in my school everyone knows me and has labeled me the academic.

A lot of people have also told me they're jealous/intimidated, including my own twin brother.

Btw, most of the people who go to my school don't go to college, and most of my friends don't really think about it until senior year.

What do you think? What should I do? What do you think of me? I just feel so lonely, should I change who I am? Try to be more like my friends? What would I be like if I went to your school? I feel like the social stress is really getting to me because it seems like no one likes me? How can I have more friends?

Answer 1

I go to an all girls grammar school (I'm 13 btw) I get where you're coming from. However at my school acedemic people are respected and they are popular if they do a lot of extra curricular activities. I want to succeed in life too, as I came to England from Poland (I can speak fluent polish). My father is a psychologist and he explained the real reason why people try so hard is because they feel bad about themselves. I'm not sure if this is true for you, but I think it is for me, as I want to prove a point that because I'm foreign and have diabetes I still can succeed! Don't worry about looks, as they go when you're older and when you'll be successful and rich you can always hire a stylist, makeup artist, or a fitness trainer. The people in your school seem stupid and I would ask my parents to look for a school for gifted kids (where you sit exams to get in) or maybe a slightly better school. Dont worry about boys either! I'm beautiful and have never been kissed or had a boyfriend and all the girls that have loads of boyfriends, usually fail in life. Just try and be confident with yourself and proud, because you put so much work into everything! Don't think about other peoples opinions as they aren't valid! Just smile, be confident and relax, as the people in your school will go their own separate ways, you won't hear from them. Also get some more sleep as stress isn't good for the heart and brain. Good luck with your life!

Answer 2

The fact that they don't like you because you're black sounds racist to me. I think some people don't want to be your friend because they don't want to be the "dumb friend", it happenned to me. But that doesn't mean you have to get dumber. You're more mature than them, that's why they make so many bad choices, pretty soon they'll realize what a great person you are! Don't ever change who you are. You and your family are very hard-working, and hard-work takes you places. That's why your parent are so successful. I'm sure with your effort you'll probably be able to find the cure for cancer and many other diseases! Just remember to not work too hard.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Time is money and money is time....Dont worry about chasing boys or anyone else...Its important to chase your dreams, set goals and have the ambition and determination to achieve then the success, money and everything else will come....If they like you then they will like you,if not then who cares. Just focus on your goals and life...



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Answer 5

these no doubt that you are a ambitious person. it's right and you have gain a lot, you are the 1st in your school,it's awesome. you shouldn't care what other people say because you are just yourself. besides, you say that you are not welcomed in your class, i think maybe you are so good that cause others be jealous.

be confident, my friend.

Answer 6

yeagh we care poalty