Hi im 13, and im shy. all my "friends" are gone and i dont no what 2 do please read my story and answer my ?.?

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Hi, im 13, and I need help, I'm one of thoses shy, quiet girls that sit in the back and try to stay away from trouble, the kind of girl who has friends, but not, "real" friends that are there when I really need them. I'm 2 weeks away going back to school. and all my friends are gone. ( there the only people who make me want to go to school, and ride the bus, and get through the day) its not that I moved to a diffrent school, its that all my others "friends" moved. You see I'm the kind of girl who gets picked on in every class, because, im quiet, tall (5'10), and im african American. And a little strange. But does anyone care. No, even my "friends". They don't give a damn. They are social, i'm not, they don't really invite me to hang out with them. They sometimes forget about me. Here il kinda word it out for you. My house is the first house on the block. They know where I live but they just pass it by like its garbage. Plus I can hear them out side laughing and playing, and il go outside to try and confront them. but its always the same thing. " Oh we didnt know you were home" usally my response would be. Well did you even bother nocking on the door? And I go back inside. I only have one best friend, buts shes still not a real friend (i'm not ganna say her name. so im just ganna say Her.) and we just have this little group me Her and some other girls, ok, and this is what the other girls do. Be reminded my house is the first one on the block, now they have to go. Past my house to GO to Her house, ain't that B****. Everybody likes Her. Why Idk? all the kids like Her, all the Parents like Her, some of the boys she talks to likes Her!! Always Her, But doess anyone give a damn about me?! no im like there second to last choice In everything. Hear il give you an example of what im talking about. Ok it was a long time ago. It was saturday, and as everyone was sopposed to go swimming at this guys house, for a pool party, so everyone wanted to go, but I didnt really want to, I just wanted to stay home with my bestfriend on saturday and we do watever we wanted on sunday. anyway So I called Her phone like idk 7 time no pick up, 3 more times she finally picks up I say Were are you?, did you wanna hang out, she tells me she wants to go swimming, and I say, well ok but, I wanted to just have a sleep over just me and you. She hangs up says she gtg, says shes going to the store, i'l call u when I get back. I waited 2-3 hours, I was so mad I went over to her house, she has 2 little brothers, I ask them weres Her, they say up stairs in her room, I'm thinking to myself well she might have just gotten home, I go up stairs, there she is in the bathroom getting ready, She look at me and said Oh!?! Hold on. (shouts the door) I yelled why didnt you call me?? I go over to her bed to sit down, and I start talking for about a min, soon enough she wasnt even in the bathroom anymore. She was running I had to catch her down the stairs yelling WAIT WAIT!, she left me in her own house. By the time I wen't outside she was with the other girls and the guys and she kept on screaming come on! ( now if I didnt say this im sorry. Its 12:00 p.m. on a saturday. I'm not dressed, and even if I was like I said I didnt want to go swimming) I tried running after her but, you know it wasnt even worth it. She got gounded that day. for God knows what for. and I didnt talk to her for a 3 days. I went home that day sad, and lonely all my "friends" were gone and know one to talk to. So I geuss what I'm trying to ask is. Can somebody please Help me, with some advice. Now that all my "friends are gone. Im ganna be riding the bus alone, going to classes alone, sitting at lunch alone. And I dont know if Il be able to handle it. So if anyones ever been in this kind of situation please help, or at least let me know so im not the only one out there, and if anyones ever seen some one like this before please tell me what they did. Thx for reading. :)) (((((Please no hate answers)))))

Answer 1

I don't know if I can say I can really relate to your experience buy when I moved out of state and had to go to a new school (Elementary School) and I was the new "shy" kid for the first few days (in the mid school year) but I made a lot of "real" friends that I later went to middle school and the freshmen year in high school with I knew almost every1 in my school and they knew me. And back to my elementary school story: I was a super tall kid the 2nd tallest in my class, the first prsn was a girl. I looked like a white kid and alot of the girls in my class liked me and we would hang out after school since most of the lived in the same building ad me. I was never picked on except by some Mexicans (not trying to be racist here) everybody has there hater and they hated on me cause the girls liked me and I was a little playa lol. But I would put them on check and they left me alone... uhh it hard to type on this, but I can give you some advice and if you wanna talk then you email me or im me, me email is on my profile, I'm not a perv or anything I'm 15yrs old and my name is Jose BTW. So if u wanna talk then you can pull my email off my profile. Look forward to talkn to you!:)

Answer 2

hi, aaw girl, i feel sorry for you! you sound so sweet and nice. You need to make new friends, your old 'friends' are the worst friends ever! I know its hard making friends when you're shy, im very shy myself, but i found it easy to make friends. Don't talk to these people, because they are taking advantage of you, they think they can treat you like crap and you will still run after them again. They are kind of bullying you as they are leaving you out and lying to you. Things seem bad now but wait till you make new friends your life will completely change! its lovely to have great friends. You should make new friends by sitting next to new people at lunch, saying 'hey can i sit with you' or join some clubs, there are so many possibilites, dont hold back! Those girls sound like bitches, no one should have to go through that, stand up for yourself and make new friends, if you need to talk email me<3!



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Answer 3

I was just like you, 13 going on 14 starting high school, and all my friends from middle school had gone to other schools, and my mom made me join the same school my older brother had joined. I WAS NOT HAPPY. I remember my first day of school was so scary i thought i wasn't going to know anyone and hell for the first week or so i didn't. i wouldn't see anyone i recognized except for like one or two people but they were the type of people i didn't hang out with at my old school. and then the weirdest thing happened i started talking with some people (forced by our teachers but still) and it turned out they were just as FREAKED as i was to start school. you get to know people and they become good friends especially in high school because after middle school you start figuring out what kind of people you want around you, and all those "fake" people will just start slowly going away, and all that's left are the amazing people you hand pick. another thing that helped me was my friend convinced me to join an after school program idk if they have those at your school but if they do i suggest you join and do something you love doing like arts or music, at my school we had a book club (i love reading) so i joined and i met some really cool people that not onlydidn'tt judge or act mean but they had a lot of things in common with me, im 20 now and some of the people i met in high school are still around. I even started dating someone i met in the after school program. i guess what im trying to say is don't worry about the first week or so of school, im not saying it wont be scary because it will be but it wont last long, trust me. just do you and im pretty sure you will find a core group of people to hang out with. maybe you will get a friend that you like more than Her lol. i hope this helps.