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Question

I am in relationship with this guy from past 4 years.Like every relation,everything was going very nice in 1st year.But the things slowly became worst.We had so many fights.Sometimes we had a gap of 2 3 weeks we dint talk.He hurt me alot.I got to know about his other relations also but i forgive him everytime he came back to me.But after every patchup he will remain nice for 2-3 days and then he is again the same.He will ignore my calls.He will abuse me and will hurt me like anything.But then,after everything,he will just apologise and everytime i will forgive him.But past few months were the worst.He used to talk to one girl,according to him he treats him like his sister.initialy he did not told me about her,they used to talk whole day on some other number which i was not knowing.I was in college whole day.After some days i caught him talking.We are in long distance relationship.Even after all this he was not accepting that he has done wrong.He said that its your bad thinking.I accepted everything.Then one day he saw me chatting with my collegemate on fb account.so he broke up saying you are chaeacterless bcz i talked with some other boy uske mana krne k baad bhi.We did not talk for 1 month.This time i decided not to call him.After 1 month he called me, we cleared everything.it was all fine then.Now,suddenly he had some problems with family so we used to talk very less.He got a job meanwhile.Now he used to call me whenever he gets time or whenever he will want.last week he called me after a week.i know he could have called me everyday but he din't.So i decided to ignore him.From that day onward i'm ignoring him.He called me many times,i talked,everytime he has different issues.But from that day i have never called him even once,even after his fights.Now its been 3 days he has not called me.I am confused if am doing it right or wrong.

Answer 1

Well it may hurt you but that guy treats you like a punching bag or maybe a garbage can, you have forgiven him everytime so he takes you for granted but ask yourself that is he worth it. As for the job thing, he has a job but I guess he eats everyday, sleeps everyday and does his daily chores everyday now when he has time for this then he should be having time for a brief call. He calls you when ever he wants to talk so why do you talk at that time. Well I know people like them very well, according to them the littlest of their problems should be considered huge and when you tell about your problem they will not pay any attention to that.

You took a very nice step by stopping to call him and now when ever he calls consider every call as the last call i,e, now you both won't talk ever and soon you will hardly be affected by any of his gestures.

You can't take a tough step at once after 4 years but just find happiness in your life through yourself and it should not be dependent on someone else. Even you know that your future life with him would be very painful right, so when you are getting this golden chance then use it, You won't be blamed for it and also you will get rid of a useless person.

Answer 2

Frankly, he is not a guy worth your trust. There are huge number of monogamous makes in this world to choose. Also, in our country I have seen it commonly about abusive husbands turn wife beaters after marriage. What's the point when you don't have piece of mind? Relationship is understanding and not doubting each other at all times. Don't be unfair to yourself. Look around with your near female friends, so they fight so often and so extreme? NO.

Though it would be a difficult decision, but it is worth for your inner piece. You should be with someone who makes you happy and fights occasionally but for sure not frequently and badly. Moreover the guy should be monogamous (one woman type - jab we met?). See how others choose their life partners and don't get troubled for such mistake which will hurt you for a lifetime

Answer 3

there is a lot of things wrong with that relationship however you are doing the right thing you should not go back with him i've heard long distance don't work so well and if he is abusing you even just emotionally you shouldn't be with him if he could've called every day but didn't it shows lack of interest and lack of caring if he cheats he doesn't care so stay away from him he won't change obviously he isn't ready for any kind of real relationship good luck

Answer 4

Just dump him IMMEDIATELY and STOP thinking about him. Give yourself time for introspection, compose you self and move ahead in life. Be happy smile a lot spend time with your family and people who make you happy but don't let anyone dominate you. Remain single for some time.

Answer 5

i think of the whole factor to your question became which you needed a revision? if so, right here is what you ought to do: substitute all the genuine names on your tale, and clearly label it as a artwork of fiction. then you quite could have your characters do despite you like, devoid of offending or slandering genuine human beings.

Answer 6

Relationships are meant to be happy. . If you don't feel you are happy,just leave him. . It's likely he'll hurt you again and again. . Move on!!!!

Answer 7

just forget him he is not suitable for u , he couldnot understand u better to avoid him , bye