Help! Should I message her again or leave it?

Question

My name is Ryan and I'm 17 years old, I have known a girl since I was 5 years old and we called each other best friends for 8 years, we made so many good memories and we loved every second we spent with each other, every night we would video chat on MSN.

Me and this girl went to the same secondary school, for the first two years we were still best friends however we both went to separate friend groups and our friendships sadly faded. In 2013, the girl was bullied out of the school, this broke me because I should of been there for her, I didn't even realize it was happening because how distant we were.

We spoke to each other since over Facebook, I would check up on her to see if she was okay at her new school. I would message her every few months however the time between each message got longer and longer. We still message each other on our birthdays to wish a happy birthday or if something tragic happens in our life e.g. she messaged when my Nan passed away two weeks ago.

Basically, I really miss this girl, I miss her for more than anything. There is not a day what goes past where I don't think of her, I really wish things were like they use to be, we were so happy. The last two weeks I have felt down due to my Nan passing but when the girl messaged me, it sparked something in me, I felt happy. I'm just scared that I've left this too late, that is too late to go back. I have never stopped calling her my best friend. What should I do? Should I message her again? :(

Answer 1

Of course. Message her again. Don't say anything about the spark or anything too deep, but you can definitely mention that you've missed talking to her. Just start talking to her frequently again, and if she cares she will try as well. Also try to hang out in person instead of just through text; since many people have jobs, pets, family, and friends, it's difficult to text constantly.

Answer 2

dude, firstly why do you miss her so much, is it just friendship or more

secondly, you should have defended her when she was bullied, that's just what people should do even though you're not that close anymore

thirdly, I think if you miss her that much, there is nothing wrong trying to get that relationship back together, you obviously think too much

finally, the important thing is to do what you feel for, I can read from your post that you are the guy that usually second guesses on most things, try to just do what you feel for and do it right away so you don't have the time to overthink it

Answer 3

Hi Ryan :),

I think you need to message her to let her know how you are feeling, and see what her response is.

Answer 4

yes! message her again dont let her go, its not too late!

Answer 5

you should be telling her this not posting it on here, what is wrong with you kids nowadays can't you bloody talk to each other

Answer 6

Go for it! Take every chance you get or you may never get one again. #noragrets