I Thought I Wanted Friends, But I was wrong?

Question

Okay, so I use Facebook and I realize that I don't have that many friends in real life, that I don't know that many people. Facebook made me realize I don't have that many friends. It's not just Facebook.

I don't know anyone or have many real life friends. I thought I was abnormal for this and I was a bit lonely and wanted some friends. However, I met this girl -- she is very clingy and attached to me and wants to spend every free hour with me...is this friendship?

I thought I wanted friends, but now that I have met a clingy person like her, maybe I don't want friends after all. Is this weird?

Also, why do I keep attracting these clingy people? I mostly keep to myself. But I always find (or they find me) these clingy, needy people to be friends with. You know what I'm talking about -- calling all the time, at all hours, always around, always talking about themselves, etc.

Are friends supposed to be clingy? Can't you be friends with someone without them trying to occupy all of your time? Or am I just odd?

Answer 1

even i m introvert there is no need to feel bad. if u are seriously not interested with that face book friend just make her clear that you cant give all ur time to her. say it once in a polite manner and see the effect sometimes being straightforward is good rather than suffering.. be franck.And if u dont like than that is it why do want an or give an explanation for it,do what to like, be how how you like(offcourse not affecting others or harming )just try once.

Answer 2

Firstly: you do not have to be clingy to be a friend.

Secondly: maybe you are just too nice and attract those people, be more outgoing and say no to people

Thirdly: its cool to not want friends but i think you're in a situation where you are not in the right environment and i am sure if you went off Facebook and looked for real friends you would find some

Answer 3

You want to get rid of clingy people? Just make it clear that you are busy with other things than just hanging out. You may have work and/or school (depending on age), family obligations, other friends and just your time alone. A real friend has a life too and will understand when you say no.