Kicked to the Curb-- what am I doing wrong?

Question

When I finally click with someone and actually care about whether we remain friends or not I always end up doing something so they leave..at tiems I think maybe they are just being nice because they feel sorry for me-- for I am always alone..and not by choice. I try to make friends..not just aquantices I guess maybe I am meant to be alone..My hubby uses this aloneness to manipulate me..control me..for everyone needs someone and he's not there either but has used that I am generallly grateful just for the smallest things for they do not exist in my life.. once again I am alone..I thought I finally made afriend on line..I clicked with them and tried to explain how fearful I was about getting close to anyone and having them leave without explaination..maybe people are playing to many games ...but for them I think they are just a nice person and meant well than poof they were gone... my hubby uses the fact I can't even keep a fiend agianst me..cuts me off of communication when I make mis

Answer 1

Maybe people get freaked out by your avatar's blue hair. Honestly, online friends can be strange. I'll meet someone, and get along grandly for a week, then hear nothing from her ever again. I think it's probably just the nature of the online medium. I think most people aren't looking for a full-time pal, they're just knocking around. They'll meet someone and talk back and forth for some amount of time, then quit when the novelty wears off and go find someone new. Drop me a line sometime if you want. I generally don't completely disappear.

Answer 2

I don't know what you could be doing wrong (or what you think is wrong) but I know how you feel. I don't understand how opening up to someone and letting them know your feelings could scare them away, but it often does. Maybe the only thing you're doing wrong is choosing the wrong friends. I guess it's best to be friendly to as many people as we can; there have to be people who are also friendly. The problem is, it's rare that we find someone we really click with. We might think someone is nice but we don't have anything in common. You might just need to seek out people with your interests and background. I am not sure I have advice for you though. Only the other person knows what you did "wrong" (in their opinion). Besides talking to them, there is not much you can do. If they aren't responsive, let them be. You honestly deserve better (and I know I do too). Be greatful for who you do have in your life and for what you have (even though you're still lonely...and I understand! )

Answer 3

Well nobody deserves to be alone..... you are not alone you have your husband! If you need to feel loved get a puppy and talk to it. You shouldnt change yourself, find someone who likes you for you! Give it time the right friend will come along! Never let anyone use you! Nobody deserves that! I'll be your friend if you want!

Answer 4

buddy no one is meant to be alone- and don't be so affraid of someone leaving. your hubby isn't helping at all , if he's useing your saddness against you he's no hubby he's a jerk. i think he takes your self confedence from u and uses it in the wrong way. take time off from him and try just doing things you love. i can guarntee their are other woman out there who feel the same way and you know wat they do-they do wat they want. go party- you might even meet a woman with the same probelm and she might help. just trust your self and don't let harsh words bring you to a stop. besides if you get answers from other people that shows that you are not alone-it shows you're loved and cared for by others you don't know

Answer 5

dont know, but you have to remember that we live in the Matirx, and our president is a liar and leeds people to kill and that 911 was an inside job.



so if you are a good person maybe those you meet are mental and have problems, just like those that follow this government.



good luck.

Answer 6

I feel bad for you. That sucks. I'd like to be your friend! Contact me..maybe we'll "click".



Keep your head up sunshine.