people want to be my friend now that i'm becoming something...Advice?

Question

I just turned 19 and from Bronx, NY. Well ever since i was in middle school i never had many friends everybody just knew me as another "ghetto problem child from a broken home" yadda yadda (What i been by broken home is my brother did drugs, mom work obsessed, her boyfriend a drunk and abuser with a real dad in jail for being a mobster and that's the clean version of my family). I was always one of those kids that loved to stay to myself because honestly i didn't trust anybody really and the people i did trust screwed me over and the people that went to my school were either really boo-gie or thugs and i had a temper to bad to hang with either one to be honest lol.Well in January I tried out for a part in a movie and ended up being picked for the top 10. Then when i went back to try out for the finale cut in the summer, the actual director was there and said he never seen a person be real as me and i ended up getting it. Well I guess people found out and that's when all these people that used to ignore me, talk about me and my family want to be my friend and all in my face. Then if i tell them i'm good on being cool with them it's "she's already acting stuck up and ain't even rich yet" or "only reason she got that role is because it's about a hood rat an who's better for that than Kema" (the movie is honestly like a female version of scarface except it tells the story of how she comes to be and for me personally shows the story for most of the kids in my neighborhood in my point of view without making it seem "ghetto"; if that makes sense). I was talking to my boyfriend about everything and he keeps telling me I just need to keep staying to myself but i don't even know man...I just need Advice please! :/

Answer 1

Congrats on getting the part in the movie. You have to know that what you are experiencing is quite typical and is referred to as 'moths drawn to a flame' syndrome.

You can enjoy your new found popularity or try to avoid it - this is your choice. Everyone likes to be surrounded by success, possibly in the belief that it may can rub off, even if only by association.

Remember to keep true to yourself and to your existing friends, even if you are swamped with new ones.

People may also be unkind and take pleasure in any failure or 'stumble' that you may experience - this is only because they are jealous of your success.



Everything of the best for future.

Answer 2

Congrats on the movie:) Must be a good feeling!

And to the other people, **** them. Unless they are just saying congrats. Keep the people you already have closer, and to hell with the other people.

Answer 3

jess ingnre tem, and wen you mke new friends, mke shure to choose ones tht you hve fun with, and likes you for who yu r. People who make fun of you are seriously jealous cuz tey rnt god enuff for a part just shake it off.