How do i break this news to my parents ?

Question

To give you a background , i have 3 sibling all which are older than me. one is 33 and still lives with my parents. He works but cant seem to manage his money ( Didn't graduate college ) the 2nd is 30 she takes care of senior citizens so she lives with my parents half the time and the home of the senior citizen the other half (Didn't graduate college ) the 3rd is 27 she has 3 kids with a guys who is 40 something she moved away from my parents and lives with her boyfriend ( Didn't graduate college, currently attends ). Then theirs me who is 24 yrs old. am currently in college with an associates in advertising design. My college had been giving the students a hard time due to changing the way we register for classes , decreasing credit for classes than making more classes, changing the names and numbers of classes without us knowing which made many of us take some classes twice. Due to this and other issues ive been in college for 6 yrs now. My school has lied to me about my graduation date for my bachelors for some time. They tell me all you need is these classes and your done. I take the classes than they say oh sorry you also have these classes to take. I was suppose to graduate this December with my bachelors . But i just found out that i need one class which is design team in order to take my last 3 classes. design team is full for the fall which means i have to take it in the spring and take my final 3 classes next fall. My parents think i am graduating this december. They are so happy because i will be the first in the family to do so. Now i have to break the news to them that i wont be graduating in december but i have 2 more semesters after this one. They are going to freak out and be so angry with me. I feel like i failed my parents. They work so freaking hard to provide for my me and my siblings. all my siblings haven't lived up to their expectations so if i fail its like my parents did all that hard work for nothing. They are also paying out of pocket for my tuition. My dad had to quit one of his jobs due to surgery so him and my mom are having a bit of trouble with the rent and other things. My other siblings aren't helping them much i am not either. I currently have no job , i actually never had one. I do freelance design which brings in a little bit of money. i try soooo hard to get a job so i can support my parents and myself. But no experience = no job. so many applications but no call backs. I call design firms they tell me they don't need interns i asked them if they are hiring they say no. Its so hard for me because i am dirt broke am relying on my parents for money which sucks. I have no job , no license, no money and no girl friend . plus i have social anxiety and facial spams. Sometimes i feel like just dying so all this pain can go away. I am not looking for pity just seeking advice or maybe just for someone to listen. I cant bare to tell my parents i am not graduating this december i have so many friends graduating college , going to grad school , having families , and basically living life. And then there's me . I am so freaking lost in life right now , i can not take it anymore .

Answer 1

Look you are doing all you can my friend, its unfortunate college can be so deceitful! Believe me anyone who went to college knows your pain. My degree was supposed to be 2 years I was there for 5 thanks to all the pre reqs I that to take! And the problem is, I graduated over a year ago and the job market is so bad I don't even have a job still. And like you my parents paid all my tuition, talk about being extremely upset and feeling like a failure! I am also 24, looking for a job, and I have a side job but it isn't anything great! Life is stressful all the time!



Look your parents love you, they will understand tell them your college unfortunately is gonna take a lil while longer and I will stress this to you so MUCH. Since you have no job tying you down, GET AN INTERNSHIP/VOLUNTEER at a company you are interested in and maybe when you get out of school you can fall right into a job! I wish wish wish I would have done this, no one told me jobs would be so scarce in my field or I would have. You just gotta keep your head up, you will graduate, and I know how you feel with your parents. I want so badly to have a good job and be able to help mine as well for providing for me for so long. Good things will happen for you, if you have good intentions and don't mind waiting. I have to tell myself this often because I get really depressed too...



Good Luck, try to calm down and enjoy everyday my friend. I feel more lost than you but I take it day by day and try to figure my life out. All my friends too have good jobs, families, and are just thriving and I am just in a tailspin of destruction it seems like. Things will change for both of us and we will be better people because of it. My other advice to you is AVOID social media when you are down in the dumps. It is the worst thing for your emotional state when you feel bad, because people simply get on there to brag brag braaaag! Keep your head up I hope this all helped!! Just finish college and focus the next year on getting a foot in the door somewhere you want to work, so when you graduate, you can just fall into your place!!

Answer 2

If they like him and his folks it won't be a problem. If they don't then good luck! It pays to be truth-full. With the parents being friends they will find out. Better to hear it from you than anyone else. You could ask your boyfriend to ask your parents if he can date you. That always goes down well. Polite well mannered boy = good enough for their daughter.

Answer 3

Just tell your parents what going on and explain the ****** system your college has and I believe they will understand. Oh and about the money go do a volunteer psychological test that they have at college they usually pay good money

Answer 4

Tell them the truth. Sounds like your school is playing games. They won't be disappointed in you. You're still graduating, just not when you thought. They'll still be proud of you for sticking through it and not giving up