Question:
I haven't spoke to this friend for a while what should i do? please read on?
anonymous
2009-10-27 11:31:22 UTC
ok well it started about 5 months ago. I know this friend from college and me and him used to hang out in college and out of college sometimes too. anyway we finished college about 6 months ago, but for the last 6 - 8 weeks of college he had been mentally ill and was having family problems. He sometimes used to get very paranoid and depressed, and he would think that friends including me were spreading rumours about him, which were untrue. Anyway so after i had finished college i sent him a text one week, asking if he would like to meet up, but during this time i was having alot of family problems also, and a family member died. And also i had to go into hospital for a knee operation, and during this time i had alot on my mind i forgot i arranged to meet him, i got missed calls from him and texts. So when i had come out of hospital and my knee was ok, i decided to text him again about meeting up, but this was 6 weeks later and i still had family problems at this time too. Anyway he replied with "i'm fed up of the BS can you stop with this and just leave me alone" anyway he texted me with similiar messages again and again, anyway i said "ok i'll leave you alone, but i want you to know you'll still a friend" And he text back with "you see me in the street just ignore me, no talking nothing" so i didn't text back after that. I'm now thinking about the situation and whether i should text him again asking if we can meet to talk this out. I know he has paranoia problems and stuff so maybe he was reacting angrily towards me before, because i genuinely didn't mean to not get back in touch with him, it's just alot of family stuff and my operation i had alot on my mind. anyway any help would be much appreciated.
Five answers:
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2009-10-27 11:49:19 UTC
Have you apologized? Sometimes that's all a person wants to hear. And if you have, perhaps apologizing again, he probably wasn't reading what you said very well, and it might have slipped through. Otherwise though, it was an honest mistake on your part, and if he can't take your apology there is nothing else you can do. And as you said, he does have some issues that may make him act irrationally. Even if you explain everything, he might not accept it. As long as you feel that you made an effort to patch things up, you shouldn't feel so bad about anything you did, because you didn't do anything wrong. It's just very unfortunate that things worked out that way.
anonymous
2009-10-27 11:53:07 UTC
Hey. Definatly you sound like you are really close to this friend. It sounds like he is going through some things in his life that is making him act the way he is. Usually people act like they want to be left alone when really they want someone to comfort them. If you havent explained why you didnt talk to him during that time where you were having trouble that might be something you want to explain to him because from his end it might look like you blew him off. Because from the reaction he seemed like he wasnt aware of what had happened to you? if you did explain it to him then still it seems like you are a really good friend for wanting to support your buddy and more people should have friends like you who hang in there and dont give up on them. Good luck though. :)
cashkill
2009-10-27 14:10:38 UTC
have him say this prayer, God can repair anyone!

Put aside your unbelief and Say this prayer so God can come into your life, He is right there waiting, hoping You will make this choice & say it.

He has a plan for your life He can and will help you with everything. He wants you to be the best you can be. He loves you and gave You free will to choose having His unfailing love in your life or not He loved you first and left the door open for you. Its up to you to walk through into His loving arms.

God can help you, If only you ask Him.

If you want to accept Christ as Savior and turn from your sins, you can ask Him to be your Savior and Lord by praying a prayer like this:

"Lord Jesus, I believe You are the Son of God. Thank You for dying on the cross for my sins. Please forgive my sins and give me the gift of eternal life. I ask You in to my life and heart to be my Lord and Savior. I want to serve You always." Amen

He helped me and I want you to feel his Love too.

Then pass on this prayer to others so they can get to know Gods unfailing love too!
Lacey M
2009-10-27 11:44:40 UTC
I would stop the texting nonsence. I would stop by his house and try to sort things out. But if you really consider him a friend try to fix it.

Good Luck =)
anonymous
2009-10-27 11:37:37 UTC
dude the best thing you should do is try talking to him


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