How Do You Leave Your Current Lame "Friends" and Get New, More Popular Ones?

Question

Okay, so here's my story:

I'm a 13 year old girl and in the 8th grade. I'm kinda in a bit of trouble here. I don't have a lot, but my so-called "friends" that I had been stuck with since the 2nd grade are starting to become a drag for me. You see, other kids at my school consider me to be a complete loser (which I'm totally not) because I only hang them at school. They aren't bad people, but my "friends" don't like to be active, like everyone else. They never want to hang out at the mall on weekends when I ask them; they always stay home. Plus one of them cares WAY too much about their grades, so they are always too busy doing extra credits and stuff (don't get me wrong, caring about grades is a good thing), so she never goes out much. The only reason to how I got stuck with them from back then was because I didn't understand what "popularity" was, and neither did my old school because no one really paid attention to how people were like.

Since I'm going to be a freshman next year, I'm planning to meet better people to be friends with. I can't stand what my current companions talk about everyday. They don't understand the facts about being "chill". I'm definitely not a mean person, but I really don't like much as friends anymore. I can tell they've seen that too because some started to ditch me. Can someone help me out on how to stop hanging out with them and get with cooler people? It would be such a pleasure if you could take the time and help me out here. Thank you :)

Answer 1

Don't worry about popularity, it never lasts. Just find friends that ENJOY you, i found friens that enjoyed me, their friends came over and we became friends, thats how i got popular in 7th grade

Answer 2

You are going through what a lot of others have done before you, and even more will follow: all wanting to be with the "cool" kids and wanting to dump the not-so-cool ones.



Believe it or not, the ones you want to dump are quite likely to stay friends with you through school and still be friends with you after you leave school.



Guarantee: the cool ones will eventually think that YOU are not cool enough for them and will dump you. It will probably hurt you when it happens, and it will happen.





How to guarantee that? That is what you would do and you will know this because by the time it happens, it will be what you already did to others.



You have very shallow values, and unless you straighten out very quickly, you may go through life that way, and never understand why you never have true friendships like others do.



Shallow people tend to attract shallow friends.. Look in the mirror and you will see what shallow looks like.





What exactly do you want in someone who is to be a good friend? "Cool" does not make for real friendship. It just does not do that.



"Cool" tends to be temporary, and leaves many wishing they had never gone there.,





You may dilsike the word "shallow", but look back at your own decription of your wishes: you want to dump friends that have stayed with you through some apparently difficult times and you want to do it so you can look more attractive to "cooler" types of potential friends.



Do you have some other definition of "shallow"?





One problem with dumping the current ones is that will leave you with nothing at all, except loneliness and for many teens that too often becomes a desperate need to join groups of lower class or idiots just because they are available. Many thousands of kids do that.



To avoid speaking or admitting the truth, it is often called part of "growing up", but far too often it leads to involvement with drugs, crimes and police, not to mention unwanted pregnancy and sexual diseases that can ruin their bodies or even kill them. STDs are often laughed at, (.everybody has one, right?,) but any doctor will tell you that once you get some of them, they cause damage that lasts for a lifetime and can affect any baby you might wish to have in the future.



Try being honest, first with yourself, and then with someone you consider a close friend. Again, FIRST be honest with yourself.

Answer 3

Be honest: would you like it if you were one of your "lame friends" and your "lame friends" decide to ditch you because they thought you were "lame"? Or lets say the you right now was able to ditch your lame friends and suddenly the popular people think you became too clingy to them? And since your lame friends started to ditch you...doesn't that mean you became lame to them (the lame ones) too? Just a perspective you might want to look at.

I'm a freshman. And I stuck to all of my old friends. And I'm glad because high school isn't about popularity, its about having a good time and I do have a good time with my freinds. Also my "lame" friends became the studs of the grade.

Wouldn't YOU (yes you only) think that would be a smart move? Sticking to lame friends that becomes studs later on in high school?

And yes, I made plenty of new different friends; athletic ones, band geeks, "popular" ones, smart ones, dumb ones, quiet ones, as well as some sophmores, junior, and seniors. Because I liked them for who they are and they liked me for that.

So basically, it won't hurt if you stick with your "lame" friends even though you're going to be friends with the "popular" ones.