How will u u react to this kind of a friend? what should I do? plz plz help me friends!!?

Question

If u have a friend who is always there for u. When u need to talk to some1 or when ur bored.. some1 who is always available for u and make u smile everytime u talk to he/she.
How would u treat this kind of ur friend?
Will u think of he/she just an available option in ur life or will u respect them for being there for u in ur time of need.
Will u give the same love n care that ur getting from this friend or will u take he/she for granted? Does this kind of a friend sounds to u like a pet or a door mat?
I am exactly this way but I feel my good friend use me thats bcoz she talks to me only when she wants and that is also for a short time. She has given me such a picture of her life like she is always busy that I am scared to talk to her by making a call on my own bcoz I feel like I am disturbing her. But when she calls me I feel used by her thats bcoz she shows me like she had nothing to do so she thought of talking to me.I feel like her entertainment and she says that in innocent way

Answer 1

unfortunately people with a kind heart as yours often get the dirty end of the stick. My advise to you is call this person just to talk if they don't have the time or respect to offer the same time as you have put forth then they are not worthy of your friendship. the next time they call don't answer the call and wait a few hours or days to get back to them. tell them you were busy and didn't have time for their problems because you a big one of your own. If they ask what the problem is then tell them that it is them. then you will have the opportunity to discuss your feelings. If they don't care or dismiss your feelings. then you have the answer that you were looking for. Don't take it to hard or yourself and don't change the way you are just be more selective in who you spend your time and effort on.

Answer 2

A friendship is a two way deal. Sometimes one relies on the other more but answer this: If you were in some kind of tricky situation; or had bloke problems; a family fall out, would she be there for you anytime of day, or try her hardest to listen and give support even when you talk about your problem over and over to make sense of it? If the answers yes then you need to have a glass of wine and a good chat about it. If you don't think she would make the time and be sympathetic then the thing is to distance yourself from this friend. Maybe if this is just a recent phase she will realise what a good friend you are and feel bad at how shes acted and apologise. Bottom line is - friends are equals and you deserve to be treated as one. good luck x

Answer 3

My best friend (2nd to my husband of coarse) is wonderful. She recently moved about 12 hours away and our friendship has stayed the same (except for the coffee shop) we can talk about anything. There are times when I am more needy or she needs my attention more and in those situations we both try to hold back on talking about the little things bothering us until the other can work out their major problems. For example when it came time for my wedding, the little stuff she kept to herself in order to be able to help me. She is more than a friend to me, she is my sister (even though there is no blood relation) and I charish our friendship. It sounds like you are a fair weather friend to this person, you should be able to talk to your friends the same way they talk to you with out having to worry about what they will say or do. Dont let your friends walk all over you, you are not a door mat and you deserve to be treated with respect... if for nothing else you deserve this as a human being. Good luck hun ))hug((.

Answer 4

There are some people in this life who want to be there to help others and kind of live off other peoples issues if you get my meaning. Your friend sounds like one of these people. She may have been trying to help you originally, but is now it seems putting herself on a pedestal at your expense - as in she is always busy etc., etc., and in turn your are getting low self esteem from her vibes. I would call it a day as to what you tell her - prove to yourself that you can be strong and stop off loading on her and try to establish your own way in life. When she does call you next time, I would fill her full of hype on what you have been doing and come across very confident in yourself - this will throw her. If she comes back after that, perhaps you will get an invite into one of her outings and see just what is going on. I do not suggest you throw her to the side, simply re-evaluate yourself and grow from the learnings of this friendship.

Answer 5

A friendship should be a two-way traffic...

Whatever you give you should get in return...and that's not a rule...but it's just what should be happening between 2 friends...

If you are feeling used, then maybe your relationship with this 'so called friend' is actually one-way and the best thing to do is to just change direction and look for another 'route'...

As the proverb goes: "There is plenty more fish in the sea"

Answer 6

This kind of love doesn't get its due dear friend. This seems to be pure, selfless love. Almost divine! I am afraid, you are in for a lot of hurt and pain if you don't change your ways.

Refuse to be a pet or doormat. Stop acting like a lovestruck fool! Though it will be very difficult for you, almost impossible because you love. But that is the only way you can come out unhurt and the chances are that in the process, she may start liking you in the real way...the way you want her to like you!!!

Can't believe that? That is the way women are, my dear!!

All the best. Bravo!!!!

Answer 7

i know exactly haw u feel

drop her b4 she causes u trouble or pain bcoz shed do da same 2 u!!!

i know life sukz but i recently went throu the same and i dnt talk 2 them ne more and im happier than i hav been for ages

its betta 4 u honest!!!!!!

Answer 8

I know exactly what you mean. I have a friend like that but one day I jus realised that I was trying so hard to please her so much i was becomin a walk over. Coming to her rescue everytime she had problems.

Totally one way.

Think its because i thought she was 'cool'. {Fat kid inside me that i've worked off}

I just drifted from her for a while and now she CHOOSES to contact me to see how I am.

Friends are family you choose why should you settle!?!?

Worked for me...

Answer 9

use an AK-47, or maybe just a automatic pistol like a Glock 18 on them.

Answer 10

In some relationships there is one who loves and one who lets themselves be loved. This is one of those relationships.

Answer 11

shes using you dont be so available and jumping every time she calls make yourself busy when she needs you

Answer 12

This women is using you, drop her now before you get hurt

Answer 13

i would not be there for her when she needs you for a while until she realizes what the dealio is :)

Answer 14

dont be fooled by her