- How to not be jealous of another girl that is friends with my best friend & not me any more?

Question

Me and this girl have been best friends for quite a long time - about 4 years and we had everything in commin and we liked a lot of the same things and we would do everything together have sleepovers listen and sing music basically people almost thought we were twins cause we were both small with brown hair and simaler names - PS she's a little younger then me but not by much only a year
And NOW ever since I left the school - she got in with all new people and basically we now have what's so ever nothing in commen - were totally different now - I mean i have had friends all leave me before cause nun of them after a while except me for me it's so hard for me to make any and I get VERY depressed esaliy cause I feel so different then most people I'm so alone and so I one day poped up say and thinking were not as close anymore why don't we do stuff together and long story short - I like some stuff that she doesn't and she likes stuff that I don't so I'm like why don't we be open to everything that we like and I was like sometimes I'll do the stuff that u like but I don't like but I'm not that picky when it comes to having fun so I said I'll do them with her just so I can hangout n be with with and when she has to return the favor - she starts to hate me
And my sister and her friend do I mean EVERYTHING together and they don't both always like each others choieses they just do everything together it makes me sick how mine wont well EX friend now - & the sign that knowing that we're growing apart scars me and gets me really depressed and mad wanting to kill my self cause I don't have that many and I don't know what changed and she started hangout with different and new people
So how can I not be jealous of my friends new friends - & stop hating the fact that we grew apart (only cause I have so many) and should I find people who except me for me please help with what I can do and help me not be depressed over my ex friend and me growing apart (cause Iv had a lot) and they replace me with new people and she's pushing me away and always hangout with them now and then the rest is history and then got mad at me I told her how I couldn't stand and except being grown apart and I got mad at her and now she hates my guts and won't talk to me EVER and no one think I did anything wrong all I wanted was to find more stuff to get connected so I suggested that we do ALL the stuff we like so were both happy -& I know I didn't

And how can I find new friends who except me for me and aren't friends suppose to do everything together even if one doesn't like somethings as the other does - cause my sister and her friend do EVERYTHING together even if one doesn't like something they just do it to be together and they don't believe in such thing as growing apart and neither do I - I don't think it's fear

These are the things I love

First and for most is MUSIC & SING ING - I sing songs from the heart and that relate to my life Iv been singing since I was born and I sing song mostly by Taylor Swift
Songs like Skyscraper, A Place In This World, The Outside, Believe In Me, Born This Way, Will You Be There, and now I sing the song Ghost Of You about my Ex friend
I love Disney movies
Going to Disney Land/World
Traveling the world
Hugging\Cuddling
I love laughing/having fun
Looking at magazines like Bop, old Teen Beat and Tiger Beat magazines of old stars like Jonathan Taylor Thomas and John Stamos I love them
But then I also like a little of the new like Jonas Brothers, Zac Efron, One Direction and Justin Beiber
I love them all equal and I love Michael Jackson, Celiné Dion, Britney Spears, then to Hilary Duff, Kelly Clarkson, Taylor Swift, Demi & Selena Gomez
I LOVE Watching FULL HOUSE I just think the whole show is SO heartwarming and SOO cute and characters are so awesome and cool I love Uncle Jesse haha lol /Home Improvement/ well I love laughing and I love 7th Heaven
Romantic or Sad Movies - like- The Notebook, A Walk to Remember, Raise Your Voice, The Boy In The Stripped Pajamas, and so many more
I love reading/Talking about celebrities/ people at school (not in a bad way though)
And I love writing stories & song about my life, other peoples lives - mostly celebrities , movies, music family, bullying

The one thing about me is that I never wanna lose touch of being a child I'm a big kid at heart I love fooling around like my sister n her friend do

Answer 1

You say that you're a "big kid at heart," and not to be rude, but it sounds like you're just a kid. Period. That said, things are going to change. YOU are going to change. From what you say, you're not in the wrong, but instead are just guilty of not letting go. So let your friend have her friends and go make some more! Putting yourself out there is going to be really hard, but I promise that you'll see that you've made friends that have much more quality to them than this one that you had. Quality in friendship means that you love each other for your similarites AND differences. Good luck! :)

Answer 2

It appears like you might be aware of the fact that she possibly however are both simply curious to find out if it is genuine or comfortably no longer interested. The question then is whether or not you really wish to go down this street (no pun supposed). Keep in mind that once she does admit to liking you your relationship will change. She is going to count on you to make some variety of alternative. So if you are not , comfortably inform her that you don't appreciate when she behave that method when other girls are around. In case you are , simply ask her if she likes you (straight out --don't beat across the bush) :)

Answer 3

Hey, maybe you loosed your pal. If you'd read the following paragraph you'd understand what I mean.



I had a pal. For you, her name is Judy. Judy and I were also like twin sisters. She loved to read, laugh,make nicknames of people.......a lot more. So as I liked this stuff. We had reached till a phase of soul mates. We would both do girly fun and shared secrets. We both were decent girls.



A Summer Vacation Later...



She met me @ washroom on the twelfth day of grade. She said she has a friend and doesn't like me.

This way it ended. But I wanted to strengthen it again. We would meet but she was changed. The girl who hated to play. Started playing foot ball.