How not to hurt a friend that's using me?

Question

A friend of mine counts on me for everything... Baby sit, clean up her dirty messes in marriage, Now, wants me to cover for her cheating.
I am at my last draw.. I wouldn't do it or ask her too. I want to tell..But, afraid I will hurt her kids, and husband. My husband is best friends with him, I told my Husband.. He said.. Stay out of it.... What to do..







how do you tell a friend, that relies on you for everything... to back off and find another to bug...without hurting feelings????

Answer 1

He's right. Look her in the eye and say no, I won't cover for you this time, because what you're doing is wrong. And turn and walk away. I agree, she's gone too far now.



Of course, she'll go on about how you're hurting her, betraying her ... but she is doing worse to you by putting you in this very difficult position. Stand your ground and refuse to let her bully you.

Answer 2

Oh I have been there and my husband had said the same thing. Trust me he is right. I think what you should do is just be up front with her. Let her know that you are uncomfortable with her asking you to cover up something like that. Tell her it is her mess and she has to clean it up without your help. Once you stop being available to her she will move on and find another "bug". Good luck I hope it all works out.

Answer 3

Just say no to her.She keeps doing it because she thinks you are condoning her mess ups.Say you've had enough and tell her what you think are the effects of what she is doing to her husband and kids.You cannot avoid hurting other people's feelings.But it the right thing to do

Answer 4

don't cover for her, this is way over the top. and u should stay out of it, its their family business. just be there for them when things fall out of order.