how do i get people to listen to my advice?

Question

sometimes when i give ppl good advice they blow me off and do what they want anyways..so whats the point of me giving them my 2 cents.

Answer 1

Like they say it's always better to listen,, So, since you feel like it's a waste of time ,, Save Your Breath, and Your 2 Cents



Just Being Honest



My Son Had The Same Advise For Me Regarding My Daughter



Good Luck



Great Question



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Answer 2

Just because you think your advice is good, someone else has to use it. Advice is given only if you have experienced what that person is going through or what they have gone through and can live and talk about it. Wisdom and knowledge has a lot to do with it too. And it doesn't matter how old you are or where you are from. My advice to you is, don't criticize your own advice. All advice is good. But most times people will use your advice for another time in their life. They may not use it when you want them too, but when they need it.



Just keeping giving your advice. I guarantee someone will thank you one day.

Answer 3

I like Uzi Weingarten's approach in "The Art of Giving Advice: 3 Steps to Doing It Well"



Summary:

1. Listen first.

2. Ask permission.

3. Offer without insisting.



Full Text:

Giving good advice is a great gift. Yet, we sometimes run into trouble because of the way we offer it. The ability to give advice in a positive, constructive way is an art. Here are three points to help us offer advice with effectiveness and compassion.



1. Listen first. While this rule is true for all good communication, it is doubly true when we wish to give advice. Issues are often more complex than they initially appear. By first listening, we open a space for the speaker to more fully describe the situation and for us to more fully understand it. What is the point of offering advice based on partial information?



In addition, when we listen first, it makes it more likely that the other will then listen to what we have to say. In the words of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, one needs “connection before correction.” It is empathic listening that establishes the connection.



2. Ask permission. Unsolicited advice is a major cause of grief among friends and family members. It can be experienced as unwelcome intrusion into personal business. It might also be seen disrespectful, as implying that a person is incapable of caring for himself and resolving his own issues.



Asking if our advice is desired shows respect for others and prevents resentments. Here is one way to do this: “As I listen to you, there are some ideas coming up for me that you might find useful. Would you like to hear them?” It is very important to ask that question without attachment, from a place that both “yes” and “no” are equally acceptable responses.



3. Offer without insisting. It is worth keeping in mind that even after we have listened, we can never know with certainty what is best for another person. There is so much that we are not aware of. So we offer our insights, experiences and ideas, with the attitude that our advice is another point of view, and we trust the listener’s inner wisdom to discern what is right for him or her.



One of my teachers, Selwa Said, likens giving advice to a waiter in a fine restaurant who holds out a dessert tray and says to the patron, “here, if you wish,” and the diner takes what is right for him. This has a practical advantage, as well. By not insisting, we increase the chances of our words being considered.

Answer 4

People must learn from their own mistakes. It's what smoothes their rough edges. You as a friend, are just supposed to be there to love them when they screw up. Most of the time people are talking to you about the problem because they need to vent, not because they want you to fix it.



I do feel for you though. I felt the same way a couple of years ago until I realized the above paragraph to be true. Of coarse you may not take my advice but you do have to learn the hard way sometimes.

Answer 5

Learn a lesson my father taught me. He would ask everyone he knew for advice about what ever he was pondering at the time. I asked him why he asked so many people and did not then use their advice. He, wise man that he was, said. I get lots of good ideas from which to make up my own mind. S o do not think you are goddess or something. Just one of many helping out your friends.

Answer 6

The thing with advice is that, all it can ever be is advice. Not answersr, just advice. People are still going to make their own choices, and if that bothers you, just stop giving advice.



People will always make their own choices, and good or bad, that's their choice.



If the ignore your advice and it turns out bad, give them advice on how to fix it

Answer 7

When you give advice, you have to realize that people have their own minds and will ultimately make their own decisions. You need to be the best good friend you can be by offering them your advice and then being there for them in whatever decision they my choose to make. Even if you feel that your advice is the best in their situation, you still need to know that everyone learns from being able to make their own decisions. ;)

Answer 8

You can't make people listen if they don't want to. The only person you can truly help is yourself. You can make your advice available, but remember that people will do what they want--but at least you let them know your opinion on the matter, and some day it may help.

Answer 9

Most people ask for advice, but really only want to hear what they want to hear. Make sense? They want you to say something specific and if you don't say that, then they are not really going to pay any mind to your advice. However, there are A FEW who want the advice, but end up following their own hearts, making their own decisions. This is how most of us learn from our own mistakes. :-)

Answer 10

ugh, omg. People always ask me questions, and ask for advice, and well, I can't end up saying nothing, so I give them my advice. However, I really DUNT WANT people to listen to my advice, because if something goes wrong after they try my advice, they come rushing back at me, yelling at me for giving the stupidest advice, when they're the ones who took it. Now, isnt it better when u dunt hev people blaming u

Answer 11

First of all, you have to make sure whether the person wants your advice or not. If they don't want it, then there really is no point on trying to get them to listen.



Next, you also have to make sure your advice is believable and it has to be your true opinion and what you think is right. :)

Answer 12

A lot of times people ask for advice just to legitimize what they will do anyway. Always keep in mind that people will do whatever they WANT, not whatever they NEED. It's just human nature...

Answer 13

Just know you have done the right thing for the day and what they choose to do with your advice is their own decision. Some people are so stupid and conceited they wouldn't know good advice if it bit them.

Answer 14

when you give advice does not mean ppl will take it. you just have to give advice with the thought that you are trying to help them and if they are unwilling to heed it then that is there choice. just think of something someone has warned you not to do and you really wanted to do it, so you went ahead...you paid the consequences or reaped the rewards...bottom line its their life and their choice as to what they want to do, you cannot control their lives just as you wouldn't want anyone controlling yours.

Answer 15

Lots of times they dont' want advice, they want to vent. They already know what they want to do, they just want you to agree with them.



Just nod your head and say "you poor, poor thing"



Have you notice that sometimes you play the suggestion game? If they can shoot down 3 suggestions of yours, they win?

For some reason we tend to average 3 suggestions and then stop.

Answer 16

Realize that what you are giving them is just an opinion, something they can get anywhere. Even if it is good advice they are in no way obligated to follow it.

Answer 17

Don't give up. People are people and do what they want. Sometimes I think people feign asking for advice; what they really want is for someone to listen and allow them to vent...

Answer 18

hi sweet.



its as simple as this.give yor advice in front of an amplifier,definitely the ppl around u ll listen.:D



jokes apart .ppl ll listen to you only when you are succssfl.so you got the point

Answer 19

Make sure you're at a higher level than they are (have them sit and you stand up) and use a lot of hand motion (slap your hand upside down onto your palm gently) and always use open-ended questions at the end (example: Do you understand? or Do you agree?)

Answer 20

advice is meant to be given freely for people to do with what they will. what kind of person gives advice and expects them to do it as if the owe you?



try giving freely with no strings attached, give advice that comes from the heart not ego, and put others before yourself. its not about you.

Answer 21

Don't give advice quite so often. Give advice only when

u are sure about the answer and try to make

it profound and insightful.

Answer 22

Easy, just build up a history of being consistently right. That's really the only way to do it without being really annoying. You can't really make people listen to you unless you get yourself a bull horn, and I really don't recommend that. :)

Answer 23

that all it is advice. understand people will make up their own mines. they probably ask for your advice because your a moral compass

have a nice life priest

Answer 24

all you can do is give advice..it doesn't`t mean there going to listen to you..But if your right and they don`t listen..Perhaps they`ll listen next time..none of us are always right

Answer 25

You can lead a horse to water...

Answer 26

be credible enough for them to listen to you

Answer 27

YELL OUT LISTEN UP RIGHT NOW OR ELSE!!!!!!

Answer 28

you can say, i told you so ,when your right.