My boyfriend saw a comment I left on a male friends photo and went crazy?

Question

some back story, we got into a fight over him liking/reposting innapropriate photo of half naked girls all over instagram. I was feeling insecure and lashed out at him whih I later apologized for, I knew I over reacted and felt bad. I dont want him to feel like I want to contorl him...

Last night, he wakes me up in a rage...apparently he started snooping through my instagram friends nd saw that i had a left a comment that said "dark hair, blue eyes" with a thumbs up on a male friends photo...hes more of friend of a friend. Met him once, nothing ever more than that,

SO he goes nuts, and he loses it and slaps me...not hard at all but it was almost like his natural reaction because he was so mad. He wouldnt talk to and apologized almost immediately after but he's treating me like im some ruined whore now because of it. Hes treating e like I cheated on him.
I get it, I hurt his ego and he feels bad inside and its my fault...I apologized numerous time...We live together so we slept apart and I was crying all night from the horrible names he was calling me..
He said " great, uim dating another tramp" "I thought I knew you" "you disgust me" etc etc...I know how deeeply upset he is but I am so angry that hes taken it this far, to even lay a hand on me! He scared me.
How should I handle this? What should I do?
Ive apologized, admitted to being wrong, begged for his forgiveness & tried talking but he just wont budge. I know what I did wasnt right and that I would have felt the same way he does but hes pushing me away and has crossed several lines...

Answer 1

Dump him , he's not a very good bf is he .

Answer 2

Here's your trouble: "Ive... begged for his forgiveness & tried talking but he just wont budge". Stop begging and see this man for what he is becoming- verbally and physically abusive. That sort of thing doesn't get better on its own with time. So you commented on a guys picture with a compliment. Ok, so maybe it wasn't considerate of you to say that. Do you slap him when he's inconsiderate and leaves the toilet seat up? You've apologized, you've done your part. His part is to forgive. And no man should EVER have ANY reason to slap you or hurt you in any way (even if it was just lightly), no matter what he's feeling. Stand up for yourself and quit babying him. He needs to man up and stop licking his wounds long enough to take into consideration that he is hurting you (emotionally by posting those pics and calling you names). A man who really loves you would not treat you this way!! Even though that's hard to hear, I know. :(

Answer 3

Why are you apologizing!!!!!!!!!!!!!?????? Gosh, I can't understand victims like you that automatically accept the blame when you've done nothing wrong!!! All you did was compliment on a guy's features. There is NOTHING wrong with that!! It's not like you said "ooh, I wanna get with you tonight. Want my digits?"



Your instagram is YOUR business and he had no right snooping through that, which meant he has trust issues and is insecure. I don't care how enraged he was. He has no right to hit you or call you names. That just proves that he has no self-control and patience and is too barbaric to even be reasoned with.



If every single time you do something he disapproves of, THIS is how he's going to act? I can't IMAGINE if you actually do, do something terrible than this messily little thing. I would HATE to see his reaction.



This is the kind of guy you want to be with? This is the kind of guy you want to be the father of your kids? The kind of guy you want to spend a few more days, weeks, months, perhaps another year with him?



A man shouldn't make you cry at night, calling you names and refuses to communicate and compromise with you to resolve problems. He is clearly too immature to even be in a relationship with anyone and if you care and respect yourself, you'd get out. Call family, friends, get the church involve in you have to. But don't stay another night with him. He will hurt you again.



There SOOOOO many good guys out there that are waiting find a good girl they can cherish over, but it baffles me that the are girls like you who put up with such low-quality trashy jerks. I don't get it. I just don't get it.

Answer 4

He's definitely overreacting. I'd move out if I were you. I mean, there are some limits, and physical violence crosses that limit. Its just a comment, not like you're sleeping with the guy. Tell him his behavior is unacceptable and move out, if you can. If he calms down and asks you to stay and apologizes, stay, if he doesn't just consider the fact that you have just done yourself a favor by leaving him.