Question:
Should i win the trust back of my friends or let them go?
2009-03-25 09:22:46 UTC
this is gonna be long..but i need help..please..!!so they are twins..and were my really close friends
so its my fault i really agree..it was a whole misunderstanding..i thought they're mad at me..so i became really mad at them..and i kinda back bitched to my friend about them and she went and told them..but they weren't mad at me..they even asked about me to my friend...bloody she didn't tell me that they asked about me..!!!
i apologized..they didn't really accept it at first..but after a week they were fine with me..they said it was ok..
but things aren't the way they were before..we rarely talk..
today i went at their place to ask them if they wanted to hang out..i felt insulted..i said hi to this twin she she looked at me but didn't reply (that was a weird look)..the other twin said hi but after i did..and then i asked her if she wanted to hang out..she said she'll come after 10 minutes..i was standing near the door the whole time i wasn't even welcomed..!!!
it's like they're very popular and i agree to the fact that if they don't talk to me.. my other friends won't ...this makes me feel depressed..
i'm trying the best from my side..but there's nothing from their side..
it's been one and a half month already... i want things to be like they were before..i don't thing talking would work things out..coz if i try talking to them about this they'll ignore it or something like that..i;m trying to work things out but if they are gonna act like this i don't know what will happen..!!!
so should i still try or make new friends?
thanks :D in advance!!
Eight answers:
Toxic
2009-03-25 09:34:39 UTC
Honestly??? Stop trying. They've shown you all you need to know. If your other friends wont talk to you because the 'popular' girls don't then thay are not your friends. Try and make new friends and if you can make some in a different social circle from these girls. Most importantly NEVER b***h about your friends to a mutual friend, it never turns out well. If you find yourself needing to b***h about a friend it's time to evaluate that friendship anyway. Good luck and i hope you find some better friends.
somethingspecial
2009-03-25 09:35:09 UTC
That depends on how much you care for these twins. By the look of it, it seems like you care for these people and that you are really trying to make things right. I would suggest trying even harder and keeping your mind open. While doing this, you can always try making more friends! So in a sense, both!

<3 hope i helped!
killerapple
2009-03-25 09:31:08 UTC
Things may very well never be the same. You can keep them as friends, but perhaps it's time to find new best friends. Know what I mean? Sounds like they're not giving you much time anymore, so it's time to find people who enjoy your company more so you're not just waiting around for them. They may never get over the fight.
tepper
2016-12-24 13:34:52 UTC
of course you shouldn't be rude to her, i'm happy you do no longer evaluate it to be an decision. you ought to have a communication together with her approximately what she's feeling. tell her you like her very plenty as a buddy, and you have observed she seems to be like unhappy with you, and you may prefer to comprehend what you probably did that disillusioned her plenty. make certain you're waiting to hearken to issues you do unlike, with out having indignant or disillusioned your self. regularly adult males have not the slightest clue they did some thing hurtful, and girls folk are undesirable approximately hinting around and not asserting issues promptly out. Why do you think of she thinks you have been chasing her? And why ought to that hassle her? And, whilst you're only associates, why might YOU be stricken if she replaced into flirting with somebody? you at the instant are not her boyfriend, she has no reason to no longer flirt with somebody once you're around. solid relationships of any style, be it boyfriend/lady buddy, buddy/buddy, husband/spouse, are based on solid communication. in case you would be unable to talk to the different man or woman approximately issues, the dating is fantastically plenty doomed. in case you are able to refer to a minimum of one yet another approximately issues in a rational, calm, way, you are able to restore maximum issues.
Chibi mez
2009-03-25 09:30:39 UTC
you've gotta be persistant, keep on trying to apologise but even if they don't listen, just try because eventually they'll get bored and ask you what you want or they'll think that you really do want to make it up to them
Rashi
2009-03-25 09:37:55 UTC
if i was in your situation.....i would better go for new true friends............. cos i say the ones u say as frnds r not frnds at all................. a true frnds is always ready to forgiv u and never do lyk this.......but its reallly hard to find such frnds.....but when u find them ..u'll lead the happiest of school days.............any way good luck for ur new TRUE frnd hunt
r&b princess
2009-03-25 09:35:09 UTC
explane to them you felt bad and that you tod they were mad at you thats why you acted the way you did but if they dont want to lisen to you well try writing them a letter telling them what you were felling.... but then if they dont boleave you or they dont talk to you then is becouse they weren't or aren't true friend becouse true friends forgive each otha..................................................
2009-03-25 09:39:33 UTC
TRy to apologise... say sorry from the botom of ur hert.. anf they will understand...


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