A "friend" did the following to me, would you dump them?

Question

this friend I've been on again off again as friends for about 7 years. I was lonely at that time in college, I was kind of dorky,weak, whatever, and he became my friend, but over the years because of my weak nature, happened to be controlling, telling me how I should look, how to act, what to wear, how to dress, how to behave, and kept putting me down at times, which explains the 8-10 times of breaking up our friendship and me being stupid, and forgetting the pain after a while, taking it back on.

nothing ever changes.

So yesterday on mother's day, he calls me during the middle of my mother's day dinner which was very personal to me, and I tell him politely "Hi hi, I'm in the middle of my mother's day dinner can I please..." ::::click:::: he hung up.


After the years of a pretty disguisting friendship which probably hurt me more than helped,

and after that disrespectful thing,

why the hell do I keep going back to these people?

Am I a glutton for punishment?

Answer 1

bravo luke by the sounds of it you finally put this obnoxious jerk in his place! he sounds like he is a very sad little man indeed! and you sound like a very sweet person and he has taken advatage of you all these years and by the sounds of it he has used you as his own personal kicking board! tell him to shove off and get a life! snd unless he changes his attitude and starts treating you with dignity and respect that truly deserve there is no room in your life for his kind you have done the right thing! and if he rings you again and starts to speak to you like that again! just say! hey " THIS IS THE SOUND OF ME HANGING UP" or " I'LL GIVE YOU 50c AND YOU CAN GO AND RING SOME ONE WHO CARES'

its about time you give him a taste of his own medicne luke

your not weak! your cool! there should be more guys like you out there and less thugs like that sad man



chel-ann ps yeah! ive met a few of those! put them back in the dumpster where they belong!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If he can't respect you i say go ahead and get rid of him. He's a bully and needs to be in control of you, and doesn't like it when you retaliate and won't let him control you. I think u keep going back because he's your friend and ur life has involved a lot of him and you can't imagine what life would be like without him. But if you don't want to feel the pain then don't be his friend and find new ones who don't want to change and control but accept you as for who u are.

Answer 4

There isn't much use in trying to talk to him because he won't change. You may as well get out before he changes you he seems like a real jerk. I mean come on you're eating dinner with your Mother on that special day and click. No "okay sorry call me later." Just click.

Answer 5

They keep coming back because you're a doormat for their abuse.



Tell this douchebag to take a hike and don't talk to him anymore. When people try to take advantage of you or tell you what to do, do the same thing. Nobody will respect you until you stand up to them. You'll lose some so-called "friends" along the way but you'll build self-respect and you'll be happier for it.

Answer 6

talk to him face to face about the problem. Don't keep ignoring it and letting him fan the flame, the situation will only get worse. Perhaps a break from him would be good? just a short while, couple days, a week, however long you need to patch things up a bit. Go about the situation calmly even if he lashes back at you, try to be patient.

Answer 7

You need to love yourself enough to know that this kind of behavior toward you is not acceptable. Kick his *** to the curb! There are too many good people out there - just get your confidence back and stand tall. You can do it!!

Answer 8

You are too soft. You allow these controlling peole to do what they do because you lack the strength to tell them to go **** themselves. You really need to get a grip and make friends with nice, normal people. This so-called "friend" you describe can go for a start. You don't need him. And don't re-kindle the "friendship" whatever you do - or it'll be like a dog returning to its own vomit.

Answer 9

Aw, yea, maybe you are like Me, and just Like to Keep The Peace-Lol. Cant change your Nature babe.

Answer 10

you say a lot of things. try talking things out with that person. if that person tries to avoid u just forget about it.

Answer 11

he thinks your weak and okay with him controlling you i would tell him straight up its not cool if he still treats you like garbage tell him to get a life and find new friends

Answer 12

You should only call him when you need to fulfill your "lonely" needs. I hope your mother is doing well.

Answer 13

I don't understand - you asked him to hang up and he did. Why are you angry?