my mom died year ago and now i feel empty?

Question

one year has passed still i feel empty people said time will heal things but seems like its not i m 19
and i didnt even cried that much on that day coz i waz trying to console my dad many people say to me i m very understanding person but looks llike my friends are not capable of understnding what one day when i woke up in the morning i found my mom dead due to heart attack.one year has passed and now i m going through a phase its like deep darkness that i carry around me everywhere. my friends can not sense it as i tried to talk to them. looks like i tried to save my grief for later and take my dads grief in my hands and now i cant even feel like crying its like my tears hav dried off but this emptiness is eating me. sometimes i cant even concentrate on my studies
i just can not get closure why i dont want any therapist thts why first time in my life i m asking this que. on internet
i cant share this with my dad coz it will be just addition to his grief.and my relatives have much more practical approach than emotional.
I will be dearly grateful if someone help me

Answer 1

What you are going through is perfectly normal. For starters you have stuffed your feelings for a very long time, so that you can take on everyone elses. You are at a very vulnerable stage in your life as well. I know you dont want therapy per say, but what about a group for teens, grief group, etc. You can even do some of them online. It would help. Keep a journal of your feelings and let yourself feel the things you feel. You will go through anger, depression, and many other steps in grief. Time does not make this go away, it just makes it easier to live with. Think of your mom and what she wanted for you. She wanted you to be happy I am sure. She would not want your life to stop because she is not there, she would want you to move forward. You will never get over it, you will learn to live through it, and with it. You will enjoy life again at some point. I promise. The depression you are in needs to be addressed. Your dad is grieving as well, but he is your dad, you can not suppress your feelings just to keep them from him. You both need to seek grief counseling or group sessions- you can be vocal about your feelings, and learn to move past them with out "offending" or upsetting someone else. I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

Dear Pushkar, I been thru it 31/2 years ago. I was very closed with mum, we go for holidays, shopping and chat a lot about everything . No secrets between us, can you imagine how close we were. It was real bad for the first 2 years, I would cry thinking of her ,looking at her pictures and cried myself to sleep very often . It's difficult to describe the pain that i lost someone so dear and important to me in my life. By the way, she fell and broke her hip bone in to pieces , being a diabetic and with high cholesterol she didn't made it after the operation. She was 84 then. I felt totally empty but I have a wonderful husband who have console me and at times cried with me. He loved my mum very much too. Believe me I saw her many times in my dream it's like real. I knew my mom wanted me to move on , not hurting myself but just have her in my heart. Life have to carry

on . Our mum will not like to see us unhappy and lost. They are up in Heaven watching us closely .

So Dear move on It's just life, this is one thing everyone faces when the time comes. I really hope I

Have help not really good with words though .be happy and take care.

Answer 3

pushkar,it is a tough thing to lose a parent.i have a sister in law that went to wake her 45 year old daughter.and found her dead.after losing her husband one year before.he was my last sibling of 10 children.i am 81 years old.and still miss my parents.that passed away before i was 23.it's part of life.yet very difficult.let your DAD know how u feel.then u can support each other.the loss will fade in time.but NEVER be for gotten.i am so sorry.for your loss.be strong for DAD.and if i may.i will pray that GOD gives you and your DAD the strength that is needed at this time.be well.

Answer 4

The bible promises that our loved ones who have died will come back! Who will be resurrected? Jesus said that “all those in the memorial tombs will hear his [Jesus’] voice and come out.” (John 5:28, 29) Similarly, Revelation 20:13 says: “The sea gave up those dead in it, and death and Hades gave up those dead in them.” “Hades” refers to the common grave of mankind. (See the Appendix.) This collective grave will be emptied. All those billions who rest there will live again. The apostle Paul said: “There is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous.” (Acts 24:15) What does that mean? The article in the link continues to explain, I know it will make you fell A LOT better (:

Answer 5

you do not possibly ever recover from it you study to stay with it. I lost my mom approximately sixteen years in the past and it nonetheless bothers me for the period of specific cases, like her birthday or on valentines day (that's the day she died). I at present am somewhat ill and my daughter did not come to the scientific institution whilst i replace into in there, won't even pass to to work out if i'm ok, wont call or e mail, entire silence or if she does call she is impolite and advise. i found out these days that not in basic terms do I genuinely have various distinctive wellness issues I genuinely have yet another one seem (growths in my liver and spleen from meds I could take for different issues) and that i'm scared that it somewhat is cancerous and that i'm sitting right here on my own waiting for attempt outcomes, at the same time as my daughter hates me. it is not easy to lose a mom, i think like I genuinely have lost a daughter yet mine is her selection, yours replace into not. you will get through this it won't be easy, or be a short term element, it is going to take time. in simple terms be there for the different and it is generally greater useful with time. The memories would be friendly with time and not so hurtful. you have my sympathy and prayers.

Answer 6

I too have dealt with loss and would like to talk with you in private. Would you mind emailing me or PMing me?