HONESTLY, what would you do? I can't take it anymore, can you help me with some advice?

Question

I have a friend who is a compulsive liar. She lies about everything from a make belief boyfriend, to calling me and pretending she is high. She comes from a pretty strict family, she normally ever leaves her farm besides school and to a few of her activities like piano lessons, etc. I became her friend in Grade Eight, when she was the nicest and kindest girl you would ever meet. But I went away the summer before Grade Nine, and when I came back she was different, which is fine because were growing up. But it's pathetic, her stories are so fake. She goes so into the lie, that it gets bigger and bigger and when I try to catch her, she'll just add more stuff to it. Then she changes the subject to another lie. I mean, I can't have a relationship with her if she is only going to make it bigger and bigger. I never thought she wasn't cool when she wasn't saying she was getting high, having sex and drinking, so why is she playing me like this? I don't do any of that. It's quite pathetic. She called me today, and my mom answered. When my mom talked to her she said she sounded fine and completly normal, but when I was on the phone, yikes she just had to "pills" and it was starting to kick in. Right. I don't want to say anything because you can only have so many friends, and she really is a great person. But I don't know, I mean this girl can't even come to my house for a sleepover on the weekend because her room isn't clean. I just don't want to be played like some stupid idiot anymore, and I don't want to say anything because it causes bigger lies and I don't want my friendship with her to end. What do I do? This is way out of hand...and I am having trouble believing other peoples stories because they sound like hers, but the other peoples end up being true. Hers are not true. I could go into detail about some of her lies, but I choose not to post all of them on the internet. Please, what would you honestly do if you had a friend like this.

Tamara. ♥

Any advice is greatly appreciated. I can't take it anymore.

Answer 1

well you really have to tell her that your not buying it... even if she adds more to the story just smile at her and shake your head. honestly if you want the relationship to get better you need to tell her to set herself straight. shes probably just tired of being the plain and boring girl who knows few people, and is tryig to look cool infront of at least one person (you). Tell her that this stuff is horrible, and she doesnt need to be like this to be an interesting person. Remind her of the times before you left, and how there was value to her word and your relationship. tell her not to destroy that relationship...

Answer 2

Actually, I had a friend just like this a long time ago. I met her in first grade and we were friends, too, ever since. Back then, she was a tough on the outside, but sweet on the inside tomboy. But in the summer before third grade, she went away. When she came back, it was like she was a whole different person. She was still a tomboy, of course, but something had changed. She became very cold, selfish, and controlling. She used to put me down, keep me from having any other friends, and would lie constantly about things that weren't true. It made my life miserable... but for years I couldn't see it. Finally, Senior year of high school came, and something happened that she did that was the last straw. I confronted her and told her that our friendship was over, not that she saw it as a friendship anyway. So now, about a year and a half later, I haven't heard a single word from her, and I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. =)

Answer 3

You asked what "you"would do, so I assume that I am included. For a start I would contact her less in the hope that she will stop romancing, if that is what it can be called. I would say that so little happens in her life that she has to invent a crazy make believe world, so if you go along with it you could find yourself not knowing what to believe or disbelieve any more, may be wrong, it's just an opinion.

Answer 4

It sounds like maybe her overprotected, insulated life is causing her to lie. She creates false excitement in her life because she knows real excitement isn't there.



I don't think she's trying to deceive you out of hate or spite. She's probably scared that you'll eventually think she's babyish, weird or boring for growing up in a more isolated environment than most.



Reassure her that she's a valuable friend and don't make fun of her or her lifestyle, and see if the lying doesn't gradually peter out.

Answer 5

Get some self belief, bro. women have an interest in a guy it particularly is valuable. you do not could be a jerk or "cool". in simple terms understand who you're and carry that stature up intense. attempt and detect a female that's not as "solid finding" as you and doubtless slightly shy besides and initiate a convo. If it is going properly it particularly is a self belief booster. Make her smile, hear to her and seem fascinated and in simple terms be the single to start each little thing. She'll be conscious your demeanor and which you're taking cost. in simple terms attempt, guy. suited of success.

Answer 6

It's pretty impossible to be friends with somebody who lies like that. I knew somebody like that at one point, and when i asked about the lies, they got angry, still pretending that they weren't lies. So i figure the same would happen to you if you were to try and talk to her about it. She'd get mad because you "think she's lying about everything" when you know she is. Though you could try talking to her, if you honestly want to remain friends with her. But if she feels the need to feed lies to you constantly, there's obviously a problem with the friendship anyway.



Honestly, if i were you, i wouldn't be able to put up with somebody like that. I like to know my friends are real, not spouting lies every step of the way. You can try talking to her, and if that doesn't work, if i were you i'd find a new friend.

Answer 7

She got bad influence from someone else.



My cousin used to do that,but my mother couldn't handle the way she lies to her so now she barely does it now because she now knows my mother!



She had gotten it from bad friends in school when she moved and then when she started to visit us,thats when she started lying about everything!

Your friend might have just heard a rumor about you or maybe just got the bad influence.

Answer 8

I would stop being this person's friend.