I have a friend that isnt very nice,not sure how to tell her!?

Question

i have this friend who isnt very nice atall.
When we are out she will look at someone she doesnt know maybe a over weight person at the bus stop she will point and laugh and say something like 'hahaha they are fat haha they should die' or if we see an old couple she will say something like 'Bless old love they hate each other but have to stay together because they will drop dead soon!'.
Or if someone has some clothes on she doesnt like she will say they should die!
She isnt miss perfect herself.
her finger nails are like an inch cause she bites them,her breath smells bad,she has skinny chicken legs,and frizzy badly cut hair.
She also laughs at people with spots then gets all stroppy when people mention that she has one.
She doesnt like people who are to tanned or have pale skin either.
She thinks every boy is in love with her.so i guess she is big headed.
It's really awkward to be out with her when she slags people off.
How can i tell her to stop talking about people? i really dont like her attitude at the moment.

Answer 1

not worth going out with a person who annoys you or has a hollow head. Look her from head to toe and say ughhh girl look at you! (Bam!<<<

Answer 2

I have a similar friend. She has low self-esteem, and it sounds like that could be the problem with your friend.



Next time she says something like that, tell her you don't think it's very nice to say such things. If she blows you off, tell her to try and put herself in their shoes. Everyone has a back story or some problem that could lead them to these physical differences; with some people it's harder to tell how they've been affected because it's been mentally or emotionally.



Although you might think that it would be helpful to point out that she isn't perfect herself, don't do so when you talk to her about this. She's probably self-conscious about all of those things even if she doesn't show it.



I've talked with my friend this way too, and she's definitely toned down her criticisms.



Good luck!

Answer 3

Your friend sounds awful!!! I wouldn't go out with her at all.

Its possible that other people will assume that you are just as bad if you continue going out with your friend.. I would take her aside and simply be honest with her, by saying something like: I am really not enjoying your company and the nastiness you are showing towards everyone. I would rather not go out with you, as I find it too embarrassing/hateful/ or whatever.

It seems to me that your friend has a low self esteem and makes herself feel better by being nasty/vindictive/critical of everyone else.

Anyone wishing someone else will die, is taking things beyond the pale - that is simply not acceptable behaviour. Tell her. She may not appreciate what you say, but she may need the 'wake-up' call from her friend!

Some home truths are needed. Be brave and give them!!!

Answer 4

Well, your so called friend sounds very rude and disrespectful. She really doesnt sound like a good friend to me. I think you should tell her how you feel about her, i know its not going to easy because i have had to do the same thing before once. I know its going to be really hard. You just have to stand your ground and tell her that thats not the kind of person you want to be hanging around with and that if she doesnt change then shes not a very good friend. Hope this help! (:

Answer 5

I'd say, Are you totally insecure or something? I noticed that you're constantly putting other people down. You can also tell her that people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones, which means she isn't perfect, but she may not get that, it's deep.

Answer 6

If I had a 'friend' like that I would tell her that I don't like how rude/cruel she is, and to please refrain from insulting innocent bystanders in my presence.

Talk to her, to to get her to understand why you hate it when she insults people. If she's a good friend she'll understand.



Also, she probably insults other people because of an inferiority complex. Does she have family who insult her? Is she bullied?

Answer 7

Birds of a feather...i suggest u stop talking about people sorry her or just enjoy yr evil twin voyeurism

Answer 8

Why would you want to be friends with someone like that?

Answer 9

Get a new friend.