How do I find friends??????

Question

I have recently separated from my husband and feel ready to go out on the town again, but most of my friends are either married or have children, I work 5 days a week with special needs children and don't really mix with any adults.
I want to make some new friends to go out socialising with, but really can't think of a way to do this (I am quite shy) I would never walk into somewhere alone, and am not interested in art galleries or doing any courses or things like that, cant join a gym as I am slim, does anyone know where I can make new friends?????
I am in Manchester, UK

Answer 1

That is hard to do, your life has been with your husband and now you feel lost, well the sad thing is unless you find friends at work or go out to clubs, it is hard to meet people. I am in a similar situation, I am married, but moved out of state and work in a small company so nobody to be friends with here.

It is hard to say unless find someone online and then you can meet them. Good Luck and hope all works out for you and stay strong with your recent separation.

Answer 2

I really understand your problem because I feel similar. I'm also very shy and thinking about how I could meet new people.



It's not true you can't go to gym. I am slim too and I like going to aerobics every week. Maybe there are other "sports" you could do, maybe dancing... if you like to be "forced" to dance with a "stranger". I think this helps a lot when you are shy, to look for situations where you have to do something. So you can get used to it and one day it may be no problem anymore.



If you like to, try going out alone. I never thought I would be able to do it, but then there was this great event and no one of my friends wanted to accompany me, so I thought "why not"? I think if you are not scared, you should really try it.



Maybe you also could go to a cafe and take a newspaper or book with you so you have always "a way out" of the boring loneliness. Don't put some stress on yourself, try to enjoy the moments.



Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Don't laugh, but joining a church isn't such a bad idea. It is right that the other members will go out of their way to make you feel welcome. In turn that may build up your own confidence.

You said you worked during the week but perhaps a weekend job in a pub - just for the social aspect. Doesn't have to be a "trendy hip hop place" or the other end of the scale "an old man's pub" either. Something in between.......

Answer 4

You should look for clubs or groups to join that have interests you might like. Maybe do volunteer work or take a class. Setting up a yahoo 360 is also a good way to make some net friends.

Answer 5

Hobbies work best - Take a nite class at a local college - computers or photography - ther has to be something that interest you!! all the students have something in common to talk about.... Find a freind



Join something - garden club, bowling league.... again find those with similar interests OR Volunteer somewhere - get involved!!!

Answer 6

why not volunteer some of your extra hours at a hospital? Any volunteer work will bring you in contact with other new people....and doctors and nurses and staff. Join a dance group or take ball-room dancing. Maybe you should be interested in art; or at least be willing to learn. Take a course in mechanics...lots of guys there! The posibilities are endless!

Answer 7

Be very careful about meeting people that you hook up with on the internet. The best thing is to meet people at places you frequent, the library, a local coffee shop, someone you work with. Start up a conversation and if you click with that person you'll know it, give them your number and ask them to call you sometime, they probably will.

Answer 8

Go to church.



No really. At a good church its the other peoples responsibility to meet you. Perfect for a shy person. In addition to that its a place where you are kind of expected to be alone, so no embarrassment over that.

Answer 9

Well thats a shame because if I lived nearer to you I would gladly take you out for a coffee or even better a glass of wine and a chat

Answer 10

yes, definitely repost this question for UK. since you don't want to take courses, why not join some clubs, i.e. book club, cooking club, poker rooms. rekindle friendships at high school and college reunions. singles networks, either online or ones w/ real meetings.

Answer 11

hey there i would love to be ur friend and can hang out with u if i had lived in UK, but u can find many like me in door next to u, in market, malls, theatre, library, ect.. all the best n yeah to start the conversation u can say hi/hello n so on n on

Answer 12

If you want to come to Canada i'll show you around. Other than that i'd say to find one person to go to a club or local pub and play pool or darts and you'll meet people.

Answer 13

I don't have any friends either! I have three young daughters though,that might play a factor on why I don't have any friends! Hey do you want to join my 360 page?

Answer 14

Why not Try looking in meetic-/udate-/match-/friends re united! -/ yahoo personals and other such sites, Id be surprised if you don't find plenty of friends.



Also look in your local news paper, there are often social group meetings advertised which might suit your needs.

Answer 15

I think you that could just talk to your neighbours, sometimes they can be very nice.

The only thing i can suggest is: never think that not havnig a friend is your fault!

I am sure that soon you'll have many friends so don't worry!

Answer 16

simple but complecated

First know the friend heart and Second compare with u. U must clear that his/her heart should equal or more the good habit then u ok?

Answer 17

Do you mean new friends or lost freinds, because I am on the lost friends search an no success yet.



Let me know any advance.



regards,



Chihuahuas

Answer 18

Instead of trying to find a friend, be a friend.

Take the first step.

Answer 19

You can still join a gym...it's not only for people who want to lose weight.

Answer 20

I am in the United States so I really can't give you any advice for your area.Sorry.

Answer 21

Re-post your question in United Kingdom. You posted in United States.

Answer 22

Speed-dating is a good option - can meet girls and guys or organised parties www.slowdating.com or www.speeddater.co.uk - I've been to both and everyone's nice.

Answer 23

hi 32 m uk hows u ?

get msn n email me in here i will be ya friend x ;-)

Answer 24

hang around on street corners dressed provocatively, they will soon find you in their cars. hurry before your looks fail

Answer 25

viens sur yahoo qr français

Answer 26

hey, i am in manchester, also 37, seperated, ,,,, send me a message. racheal x

Answer 27

Get a boob job and lots of money.

Answer 28

first of all, don't waste time asking online, go out and meet people, make yourself noticed.

Answer 29

hey, i live in manchester! IM me if you like!

Answer 30

they are on channel 4 most of the time. ross, joey, rachel, chandler, phoebe, monica...

Answer 31

friends dont gust come! you have to look for them meet people have fun.

Answer 32

How about advertising?

Answer 33

try going online

Answer 34

church, bingo, library, bookstore, mall, work, grocery store

Answer 35

walk towards yourself