I had sex with my best friend, and now I'm meeting her tonight (long post, but it's worth it)?

Question

Quick warning - yes, it is a long post but I think it will be worth a read for you guys. I tried to write as coherently as possible so as to not just blabber nonsense. I have posted this question several times before, but unfortunately it kept getting pushed back so I never really got a lot of replies, so please help me out.

So first off, I'm a 24 year old guy with a girl as a best friend. I've known her for about three years now (since our junior year in college) and we're as close a friend as two people can be. When I first met her I had a huge crush on her, but she was with someone else at the time so I sort of gave up on trying to have her for myself. When she broke up with the guy almost a year later I was already with someone else, and I didn't have any plans on breaking up with the girl I was with.

Anyway, she's been single for about six months now and I am now too. I treated my friend out to dinner two nights ago and afterward I drove us over to my house (she comes over all the time just to hang out). It was a pretty typical night; we just watched a movie while eating popcorn and afterward we talked a lot (mostly really personal stuff), but we were sitting unusually close to each other. I know we weren't drunk because we didn't have nearly enough to drink, but next thing I know we got even closer. Soon enough we started making out and eventually had sex. Early next morning we were just cuddling in bed like any couple would after sex. I told her she had no idea how long I've wanted to do that and she said she did too. After we got out of bed I made her breakfast and then I drove her home. I'll admit there was a bit of an awkward vibe in the car but she kissed me good bye almost casually.

Like I said, I really liked her when I first met her and a part of me still did even when I was with another girl. She's really cute, sweet, funny, and caring - really all I've ever wanted in a girl. However, she is my best friend and the last thing I want to do is ruin our friendship but I know I'm falling for her.

Anyway, I already have plans to meet her tonight. I just called her up and said, "Hey, let's go to that Italian place on (street name)." It's a pretty secluded restaurant, so hopefully I can talk to her privately there. I just need advice on what I should say and how I should start the conversation. It's so weird that I'm asking for advice, because she and I can talk about almost anything with ease but I'm just confused right now.

Answer 1

It always ends up that way when things like this happen with your best friend. I guess you should just not talk about last night if it seems awkward to you. Reminisce with her and bring up times that you had fun with her and laugh. It will break the ice.

Answer 2

Wow, talk about a great situation to be in. This almost sounds like a movie.



Listen man, it seems like you really love and care for her. You both need to talk about what happened, because the last thing you want is to ruin your friendship with her. I wouldn't be surprised at all if she feels the same way about you that you do to her, or else she wouldn't have snuggled with you, told you she felt the same way, and kissed you good bye.



You are one lucky man, but seriously don't let this one get away - you'll regret it. This seems like the ONE that everyone talks about.

Answer 3

I think you should be honest and open and tell her how you feel...And then ask her what she feels about it and if you guys like each other you should ask her to be your girlfriend...If she says yes then you two should go out...If she says no then say okay we can be friends...Don't keep it built up because thats not good...And don't get mad at her for saying no if she does she may just want to be friends...And if she says yes and a couple years or months later or something and you two break up then you should still be friends...Don't mess up a good health relationship...Because their are other fish in the sea waiting to be caught....And remember be nice have confidense and good luck...

Answer 4

Man your the opposite of a guy right? After you've had sex with a girl it's pretty much easier on there. But you had it easier before you had sex now it's complicated? You've known her for 3 years, nobody on yahoo can answer that or help you with it.

Answer 5

HI THERE I REALY LIKE THIS STORY IT IS VERY ROMANTIC AND WORTH READING FIRST OF ALL WHY DON'T BUY HER A FLOWER SO SHE WILL FEEL THAT YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHANGED AND SHE WILL THINK YOU ARE SO SWEET..I ALWAYS FELT THAT WITH MY BOYFRIEND WHO IS MY HUSBAND NOW..SECOND WHEN YOU BEGIN TALKING TELL HER ABOUT HOW MUCH U CARE FOR HER , YOU WANT TO BE WITH HER IN A DIFFERENT RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU ALWAYS WANTED SINCE U SAW HER. ALSO TELL HER THAT SHE IS THE WOMAN THAT U ALWAYS WANTED. I FEEL ALL OF THAT FROM YOUR TALK WHY U DON'T SAY IT U ARE VERY CLOSE, SHE IS SWEET SO WHY DON'T U GO AHEAD AND MAKE UR LIFE HAPPY WITH HER...WISH U THE BEST LUCK ...I HOPE U SEND WHAT US WHAT HAPPENED LATER...

Answer 6

haha well i loved kevins answer made me laugh, i might be a little young to answer but im pretty sure i understand what your saying... personally, i try to live life a little on the edge. I mean if you really like her and your starting to fall for her and same for her, it might be worth it to try... its gonna be a little weird as in anything cause youve known her for so long, but from my point of view its more like getting to know your friend even better. Deciding to date her could be a life changing thing... I would personally try it if she feels the same way... ya never know how things work, it could show your more about her in a way. Sometimes going that extra distance can show you who a person really is... idk i still think im a bit young for this question but i felt the need to answer anyways... hope it helps a little? but idk it sounds like youve got a friend for life... maybe more....

Answer 7

you dont really say, do you Want to be with her?

friends make the best partners in life

if you care for her and wanna be with her, talk to her about it