She steals my showers?

Question

So, I’m a freshman in college and I’m currently living with my best friend of 16 years. Sounds perfect right? WRONG WRONG WRONG. It is an actual living nightmare of a siduation, and I’m stressing. She does a lot of really annoying stuff that I’m slowly getting used to (ex. Watches videos on her phone at full volume with no headphones at all times, has the most horrible ringtone ever and never has her phone on silent, always acts like she’s right and I’m stupid and wrong) but recently she’s developed a habit that I literally cannot stand. I used to have a mother that made me late to everything, so I have a real OCD problem with having enough time to get places early. I usually like to get up an hour and a half early to shower, so that I have an hour to get dressed/pack up/eat/walk to class ect. My roommate knows this, and is usually grateful because she gets to her classes on time as well (we have the same schedule). Well, recently she’s been waking up on my earlier alarm instead of her later one and RUNNING into the bathroom and locking the door. She spends up to 45 minutes in there blow drying her hair, brushing her teeth, and straightening her hair; afterwards she comes back into the room and LAYS DOWN ON THE BED BECAUSE SHE HAS EXTRA TIME TO LIE AROUND BEFORE CLASS. I’ve been so stressed out because I cannot switch to night showers (face and hair get too greasy) and if I bring this up with her, she will become super passive aggressive like always. What can I do?

Answer 1

Move...........

Peace.

Answer 2

You're in a horrible phase that most people go through.

It's easy to be friends when you don't share a space- and then you share an apartment and find out all their quirks.

Just know this will have an end, and find ways to get around it. Trade her one favor for another you need. Do whatever it takes not to blow up at her, but realize this isn't the end of the world even when it feels like it.



You could be stranded on a rescue raft with half a candy bar and no water. Just make sure you put it all in perspective.

Answer 3

If you share a single bathroom nobody should be in the bathroom for 45 mins in the morning while the other person is in.



If you have been spending 45 mins or an hour in the bathroom in the morning, maybe it's her way of complaining that you stay in the bathroom too long. It also makes it clear that your alarm wakes her up. It could be a super passive aggressive behavior to show you that she resents your alarm waking her up and you spending more time in the bathroom than she is happy with.



If you want to be passive aggressive back, buy a mirror and put it into her bedroom. Then she can dry her hair there.



Really you sound you are ill suited as room-mates. Surely you can switch room mates after discussing it with her. It's a pretty common problem in any relationship that getting along and having a compatible lifestyle aren't necessarily the same thing. If you live together with other people compromise is always needed.

Answer 4

To be honest, it sounds as if the problems you are having are yours, not hers. You have a particular set of rules to live by. She has sloppier habits. You need a new room mate, whose habits mesh with yours more closely. Your current arrangement is never going to work out.