SHE WAS MY BEST FRIEND FOR YEARS AND SHE CHOSE POPULARITY WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Question

we have been best friends for years after school we would always hang out like 6 days of a week, we would do everything together and tell each other things we couldn't even tell anybody ouls. we would always be hyper and act stupid but we wouldnt care cuz we were having fun. We would go to play land themall every where together. in 7th grade we promissed we would always be friends and highschool wouldn't ruin our frienship. The first week of highschool i had fun but after that i hated it there were so many popular people but me and my friend were still really close the first semester ended and we studied for exams together after the 1st week of 2 semester she became firends with the most popular girl in our school in her class. She told me yesterday she wants to take a break from me (what r we going out or something that she wasnts a break?) and she said she dosent wanna hang with me at high school because the popular girl said she could do so much better. :'( i didn't know what to say my hearth is hurting sooo much right now i dont know what to do and please dont say she is jelous of me cuz y would she be she has everything she is pretty and everything i have none of that :'( i dont wanna loose her like this what should i do??

Answer 1

Promising to stay friends forever when you're 12 years old doesn't always work. You're only just starting life then and have a whole lot of experiences still ahead that can change the kind of people you and your friends are and you may or may not stay friends through all of it.



If she's treating you badly just so that she can fit in she isn't a great friend and that's obvious. If she actually said she wants to take a "break" from your friendship she is both a bad friend and extremely immature.



Popularity doesn't always last especially in high school so maybe she'll come to her senses and you two could patch things up but if not you're only just starting your teenage years. It sounds cliche and I know it might not "help" how you feel right now but you will make new and different friends over the next 10-15 years of your life and you'll change as a friend yourself. Just get through each day and eventually time will let you get over it and you'll have positive experiences and people in your future to keep you occupied.

Answer 2

This girl is leaning towards the choice of status over actual friendship, and I know the pain you're going through. Abandonment of a close friend might be the worst kind of mental and emotional pain someone can go though. Not everything that is popular will STAY popular, so I'm pretty sure this facade will end soon, if not soon, it will later, "for better late then never". Keep in touch with your friend, and hope for the best.



P.S Some popular people are popular because others fear them. This isn't necessarily the best way to become well-know. And once again, hopefully your friend will realize that you are a better choice.

Answer 3

Tell her that being a "respecter of persons", selecting only popular friends is going to get her involved with many false friends. You have liked her as she is without the benefit of approval of other people and of social popularity. If she is willing to dis you in order to be with the popular crowd, there is little you can do except make some new friends yourself and wish her the best. I have the feeling that she will soon change her mind when she sees the fallout from peer pressures and following the crowd. You have done nothing wrong nor have you lost anything. Things change and people change. Best wishes to you.

Answer 4

That's it. Ur done, move on. She told u that she doesn't wanna hang out with U,her best friend because some popular girl said so! The only thing I can say is her true colors r showing. Find a new friend [who won't ditch u just 2 look popular]

Answer 5

The same thing happened to me except she didn't exactly say she didn't want to hang out with me she just ditched me. Anyways i haven't talked to her in person in 7 months and we were best friends for 6 years. It used to bother me a lot but i hung out with my friends and now it feels like they have been my best friends for a really long time, and she will probably come around and see how mean she was if she is a nice person and she might start hanging out with you again : )

Answer 6

i think if she doesn't want to be your friend then maybe you should find someone who does, because that happened to me and i really didn't like it, but i managed to move on we were friends for 8 years and she choose some1 popular over me, so i found a new friend who sticks by me no matter how popular another person is!! you should try the same or if you want try to sort things out with her you never know!! hope you 2 will be OK x

Answer 7

aw. You don't need popularity to know that you are loved! :)

I think you should talk to her about it, and maybe you could all hang out together. If she wants to be popular then she shouldn't have trouble being your friend too. Popular people are always wanting the bigger crowd.

Answer 8

give it time, if she is a good friend she will realize popularity isn't for her and come back to you

Answer 9

wow... thats not cool.....

i say find a new best friend