I am just so stressed out and confused. Losing my group of friends?

Question

Last year i made 2 friends that i just really bonded with. Just call them Sara and Jessica. I was better friends with Jessica than Sara but i love them both. Now, this year, i still love them, but Sara's being pretty excluding with only me. Like she would tell me to go away and stop following her and Jessica. This really wasn't a big problem because we eventually all got back together, and were normal again.

Now.... Jessica's friend from her old school transferred here and they've been i guess, 'reconnecting', but sometimes they would just go away from the group to talk and laugh. I'm happy that she got to see her friend again, but now, she's being excluding as well as Sara. Somehow, i feel awkward when i go to the group because Jessica has her friend from her old school, and Sara's just talking along. (Sara and Jessica signed up for stuff during lunch and other times because Sara pretty much dragged Jessica along). I just feel really sad that i lost 2 of my friends so fast. Now they're the group of 3, while i'm left out.

I think i might have did a huge mistake now. Like Sara was being excluding and dragged Jessica and her friend to talk. She didn't include me, of course. So, i got a little frustrated, and just walked away. I didn't talk to them for a week. Now, i want to go back to the group and try again, but i don't know how withou being so awkward. I think i'm just feeling awkward because Jessica and I were really good friends. But all of a sudden, her friend from her old school showed up, and now Jessica does the stuff with her friend instead of me. I want to be friends with her too, but i think Sara's talking to her behind my back.
What should i do???

Answer 1

You need to tell Jessica and Sara how you feel even if it is awkward. I know, I have been in this position before. Tell them both that you feel excluded from the group and would like to know why they have been ignoring you. You need to be truthful in this situation. But don't get an attitude when talking to them even if they do. Don't give in if they are giving negative attitudes at you. Just keep you regular toned voice. And if they get mad at you they aren't your real friends.



Hope this helps and good luck

Answer 2

Sara kind of sounds like a *****. My recommendation would be to forget her, make better friends who like you for who you are and won't unnecessarily exclude you. As for Jessica, she may not even realize that anything is wrong. Try talking to her, explain how you feel and tell her that you don't want to lose her friendship. Of course, if you left for a week and they just didn't care, they might not be the kind of people you really want to hang out with anyway. Finding people who actually care about you is important in life, and you can't call someone a real friend unless the love and respect is mutual.

Answer 3

Well it would be no good to not do anything at all. You should try to talk with Jessica, tell her how you feel. And try making friends with Jessica's old friend.

Answer 4

you could try making new friends