MY BFF IS BEING A MORON AND THROWING AWAY HER LIFE?

Question

Ok heres the story kind of long but what do you think>>>>>> My bff of 4 yrs has had a history of dating complete dirt bags. Even tho everytime I have told her not to do it she still did and im always the one to have her cryingon my shoulder. Ok jump to the present. For the past year and a half she has been dating a GREAT guy. He takes care of her treats her really well the only one working and keeps her out of trouble ( shes very hard headed and likesto get into trouble). Pretty much things were goiing well for them but you know all relationships have there ups and downs. Well within the past month her EX boyfriend had comeinto the picture. He treated her horribly when they were together. Well they started to mess around when she was with her current boyfriend. In conclusion she left him for the Ex piece of scum. She has only ben dating this biotch for a cpl days and has already moved in with him and is talking about marrage. Not only that but her and the good guy just lost there house together so hes staying at her moms while shes out F**ing around with this dirt bag. Well in conclusion everyone is telling her shes made a huge mistake her parents her closest friends EVERYONE. But she wont listen. Shes acting completley oblivious. Not only am I super pissed off because I hate this guy...(ive had past experiences with there relationship) but now im also loosing my bff. Help please. What can Ido to get her to listen? Should I just give up? I just really hate this guy. I really wantto support her decisions because she has always supported mine but I just cant. Thanks

Answer 1

Write her a letter - she'll have to read it and she cant interrupt you or easily press delete like an email.

Do try hard, but don't try the impossible

If you do try but doesn't work then there's nothing that you can do, you've tried your best to help her, supporting her and stuff and if she doesn't pay you attention, frankly (and no offence to her) that's rude and ignorant.



But it might be harder for her to see what she's doing (if you see what I mean) Team up with her good boyfriend and together, think of ways to try and get her back.



Hope this helps

Answer 2

Let her be and make her own mistakes; you cannot live her life for her nor can you tell her what she can and cannot do, the only way she will learn anything is to suffer from her own decisions, if she never suffers then she will never learn and you won't always be there to help her. Sounds like you need to back off anyway you are way too involved with her personal life, focus on your own life and let whatever happens happen nothing you can do about it anyway, her life, her problem.

Answer 3

Tell her you love her too much to see her make such a huge mistake, and that you can't be friends with her while she is with him. When she smartens up, she can call you, and you will be there for her, but until then you can't see her.



It sucks, I've had friends do the same stupid things, but you can't force them to see the error in their ways.

Answer 4

Okay I know how it feel because my friend cameesha is dating this dumb *** ***** and try to tell he is not any good but just like me you have to let her go. because you can't help somebody that doesn't want to get help or listen. So you keep it real was it's better when you good than bad. So keep it real.

Answer 5

all you can do is tell her how you feel one last time. tell her you'll be there when her relationship falls apart (and it WILL)-then STEP OFF!!! she WILL NOT listen. she has to hit rock bottom before she can see her own mistakes. it might take an hour, month or YEARS. but when she DOES come to you, dont JUDGE her, just LISTEN!