Ok so I had this really good friend...?

Question

And now were not friends anymore because we have a unresolved problem. I started the problem, and it was over something stupid. I really want to be friends again, but I don't want to look desperate, so, should I ask her to be friends again, seeing that it was me that I started the whole thing???

Answer 1

I would try to make amends I wouldn't expect your friend to be your friend anymore, but at least you won't have that "regret" on your shoulders and she won't have that "hatred" on hers.

Answer 2

Apologize for being silly and tell the friend that you realize whatever it was is no reason to end a friendship. Tell the friend that if they chose not to continue as friends you understand but you apologize anyway. So it looks like you are apologizing for being silly as opposed to being desperate.

This won't guarantee that they will take you back as a friend but neither does acting desperate.

Answer 3

Yeah, that would be a good idea. But don't just ask to be friends, you need to apologize for starting the problem in the first place. I think after you do this, you'll get a better response from her.

Answer 4

If you really want to be friends with her, you both need to work out your problem. As much as I hate to say it those kinds of problems tend to linger. If you approach it and apologize first, let her come back to you then and see if you can work things out. This has happened to me many times and it usually seems to help, just talking it out (even if there are other emotions too =) ).



I hope this helps!

Answer 5

If you are saying you were wrong, then why are you scared to sound desperate? Admitting your faults is not being desperate - It is being responsible & taking actions for our mistakes. If you miss her & would like to be friends again, then I would say you need to talk to her.



Swallow your pride & admit that you were wrong. If she doesn't except your apology then she wasn't that good of a friend.

Answer 6

yes if you screwed up you should admit it I'm sure your friend will appreciate you admitting you've made a mistake and then maybe you can talk and resolve this problem and move on to become closer friends,most importantly make sure your friend knows you're being sincere and truly are sorry. best of luck and i hope it all works out fine.

Answer 7

i would resolve the issue first. you need to make the first move. you need to tell her you know it was you who started the whole thing. you need to apoligize and make amends. you need to tell her how you have missed her friendship. you also need to give her a chance to voice how it affected her and you need to not make excuses on on why it went the way it did or whatever. you need to just listen and take it. let her express herself fully. and you need to work on not letting it happen again. cause if she does take the friendship back and it happens again, you might not be so lucky.

Answer 8

I think so it does not look like she is going to make the first move so just step up and say sorry



good luck

Answer 9

Well if you want to be friends then say I'm sorry. And it was my fault. Not yours. Can you forgive me?



PS IF she says no then its not your problem make a new friend

Answer 10

Talk to her.

Own up to your mistake and apologise sincerely.

Tell her that she meant something to you as a friend.

If the problem caused a lot of trouble, then it might take a while to heal.

But its not impossible.

Just talk to her.

Answer 11

u should just go and apologize because if it was something small than she should just forgive u.and if she was a really good friend she wouldn't let that bother her what so ever.

Answer 12

If she was truly your friend she won't think you look desperate. REAL friends forgive each other.

Answer 13

Go ahead and apologize. It will show that you're not afraid to apologize and if you really were good friends they should accept your apologize

Answer 14

write her a note saying that you were sorry because you hate fighting with her and you want your friend back. sometimes thats easier than talk to her face to face...good luck!

Answer 15

Duh? Of course you should ... when you wrong someone you should try and make amends. You have to put your pride aside if you really want to be friends again. I hope she is able to forgive you and your friendship can be salvaged. Good Luck.

Answer 16

so are you willing to give up your friendship because yall fellout over something stupid... apoligize!!! you will feel much better in the long run

Answer 17

its simple. tell her your sorry for whatever you did and that she shouldnt let something stupid like that come in between you twos friendship

Answer 18

you should apoligize but if you dont want to be friends then just dont hang out anymore just be aquaintences

Answer 19

yeah just tell her you miss all the good times you had

Answer 20

yea u should come forword and tell da truth