How do I get over the negative feelings I get because of my height?

Question

I cant stand it. It literally affects me everyday. I am 5' 7'' and 22 so that is it.

I just feel like a child, so weak and the opposite of a man. How am I supposed to feel like a man when most men tower over me and look like they could knock me out by flicking me? How am I supposed to feel like a man when there are woman and children who are bigger than I am? I just feel so bad when I am standing in a line and there is a woman or freaking 13-15 year old child in front of me who is 1-3 inches taller than me.

It is not fair. My brother is almost 6 foot and my sister is just like half an inch shorter than I am. Why did I turn out to be such a short ****?

Answer 1

You're negative thoughts everyday with comparing yourself with other people decreases your own self esteem. Forget why you turned out to be short.



Focus on what you can do better and start renewing your mind with positive thoughts AND actions that are more result orientated to help you THAN to fk you up.



1. How negavity works...

Imagine I show you a clean glass of water. This glass is symbolises your mind which controls your thoughts. Thoughts become action. Action become habits. Habit shapes character and character determines your fate.



So I show you this clean glass of water and say.."speak."



As you say..



"I am too short" I pour dark poison, let's say black ink. Just a drop. I stir.

"I am so weak." I pour another drop of black ink. And stir. Water getting murky.

"Most men tower over me and they could knock me out by flicking me." I add more black ink.



Water now getting real dark.



"Women and children bigger than I am." I add more black ink.

"I am standing in line and there is a women and 13 year old tall than me." More poison and stired.

"IT'S NOT FAIR." Water getting so black now.

"My brother is almost 5ft and my sister blah blah."



2. How negativity controls your emotions

Now, everyday you say this, think this and your mind is so fked up, murky, dark with only seeing flaws, how life is unfair, INSTEAD of what YOU DO HAVE.



The thoughts trigger switches in your brain which controls your perception about you, the world but most of all....controls your emotions.



So you're triggering switches on automation, unconsciously that makes you feel....shhit about yourself. You got so used to talking and thinking like this that the brain is now doing it unconsciously and at a daily pace!



In other words - you are self sabotaging yourself.



Picture, old DVDs of negative programs replaying everyday in your mind and as you sleep, these are replayed for brain to create your perception, making sense of world you live in.



But the problem is, you got these old DVDs playing everyday, and you didn't replace them with new thoughts.



You didn't replace them with thoughts like..



"Hey, I can be better at social skills then they can."

"I can dress better, go to gym."

"I can get knowledge on women psychology and hire dating coach."

"I can be a hard hitting top boxer if I trained for 2 years solid and no fker will dare mess with me."

"I can be more happy, smiling and give back to community."

"I can...I CAN...I CAN...I WILL!"



But instead, because of the words you use, and become of the environment you are in, which doesn't help you in telling you about what you do have, what you CAN improve in your life - all you see and all you hear and all you believe is the negative.



I am 5"7 and I dating women 6ft, hot blondes, brunettes.



When I appear where my friends on in night club, I'm the fking star and they are taller than me and some in crowd are too.



Why is that?



My hieght?



Of course not!



I improved my thinking, my social skills, my sexual appeal, the way I dress, my confidence, self esteem and other things too.



Change the way you think, focus on what you do have and be better at social skills, and other things in your life that can help you.



Life is not meant to be fair. Understand this.



It doesn't give a **** about people who complain, whinge about what they don't have.



It only cares about winners and winners do not bring COMPARE themselves to other people but love themselves first, and focus on what they have got to make better.



Start by the way you think, the words you use, and watch how you talk to yourself.



read this book....

Answer 2

Hi. In our society now, our heights, bodies, and appearances literally define who we are. And I know it can be tough sometimes feeling not good enough, but hey, in the long run, there's no one quite like you. Being a man doesn't mean that you have be be big and muscular, there's more to that. Take being a gentleman, for instance, versus being a jerk. So get out there and show them your inner MAN!

Answer 3

It's not the dog in the fight, its the fight in the dog.



I know guys who are shorter than me who are pit bulls. They can more than hold their own in any situation.

I also know guys who are taller than me who will cave or crumble under any pressure.



If you are concerned about your physical presence, maybe you should start lifting to feel better about yourself. However, if you ask me, your problem is your confidence.

Answer 4

who cares, just start working out. im 5'8, size doesnt mean that much. work out more and you will gain a lot of self confidence in how you look. and in the meanwhile you wont look like somebody that can just be pushed around by bigger people.