My husband says stop the birthday bitching, is my bitching deserved?

Question

I held a birthday party for my 3 children on 8/17/2009. My close friend "T" came to the party minus her husband, but with a 12 year old, a 6 year old, two 4 year olds, and a 1 year old baby. Halfway through the party, I see her making a plate of food. I ask her if she's leaving. She said no that her grandmother lived close, she hadn't had a chance to see her, and that she was going to run over visit with her and give her the food. "T" said that she was going to take the baby, and leave the rest of her kids at my party because her kids were too much for her grandmother to handle. I didn't know what to say, so I said nothing. "T" is gone for more than 2 hours. While she's gone, other parents there with their children are watching and disciplining "T's" kids. The other parents were starting to complain because "T's" kids were so bad. When "T" finally got back, she starts packing up her kids to leave, couldn't even stay and visit with us! While she's packing, she mentions to her 12 year old daughter that she had to get going because she had groceries in her car! She left my party, left HER kids, took my food to her grandmother, and went grocery shopping while me and my family babysat her children. Am I looking at this the wrong way?? The following weekend she had a birthday party for one of her kids. I behaved myself, even though I didn't want to. My 4 year old was swimming with her 4 year olds, and we noticed that the one boy was holding my daughter underwater while she struggled to get back up. He did this twice. My daughter cannot swim, luckily she had a flotation device on, but that does no good when someone is holding you down. I mention this to the boys father. He tells me that I need to let my child learn how to defend herself, or she'll get stomped around when she goes to school. Needless to say, we left the party MAD! It's been 2 weeks, and I have not received a phone call from this friend to apologize for the near drowning of my daughter, let alone a thank you for playing babysitter during my party. Am I being oversensitive, or am I right in feeling I deserve an apology.

Answer 1

I'd stay far away from these people. You have every right to be mad as hell. Your "close friend" had no right to bring uninvited children to your party, especially without asking, and she had no right to take your food to someone else who was also not invited. I'm suprised you had enough food to go around with all the extra people you were feeding!



I commend your strength of character that prevented you from beating the crap out of the kid that was holding your daughter underwater as well as his jerk of a dad. I would have left too.



Don't expect an apology or thank you, someone who won't even ask beforehand won't think enough of other people's feelings to think of thanking you. And someone who thinks your daughter just needs to "learn to defend herself" won't apologize because they don't think they did anything wrong to begin with. These people probably won't see anything wrong with their kids beating your kids with sticks or bats or rocks either. I'd stay away.

Answer 2

Shes ungrateful

Answer 3

go ahead and b*tch. but you should appreciate the good things too.